The story of ohhhhh!

Follow this pleasure map to find her five orgasmic hotspots
Make her orgasm in 3 minutes
You may know where to find this sexual silver bullet, but it goes much deeper than you realised. “The clitoris is like the tip of an iceberg,” says Dr Hilda Hutcherson, professor of Obstetrics and Gynaecology at Columbia University and author of What Your Mother Never Told You about Sex (Penguin). “Like the penis it has a glans and shaft as well as ‘legs’ – erectile tissue that runs down either side of the vagina and towards the back of her thighs in a wishbone shape.” If you are just rubbing her on top you are missing out on stimulating these sensitive areas around and underneath.

How: “The Kivin method of oral sex gives 60% of women a faster and more intense orgasm because it stimulates more of the clitoris,” says registered sex therapist Dr Patti Britton, (www.askthesexcoach.com). “Most women climax after three minutes and all in under 12.” Ask her to lie on her back while you position yourself side-on between her legs. Put two fingers either side of her clitoris to raise and steady it and slowly sweep your tongue back and forth feeling for two tiny bumps on each side of the hood. Slowly increase your speed then using a finger from your free hand press into her perineum. As you feel her nearing orgasm, transfer your tongue from the side to the head of her clitoris.

Maximise her G-spot pleasure
More frustrating to find than your lost car keys but worth the hunt says Dr Yvonne Fulbright, author of Touch Me There (Hunter House). “When she gets aroused this erogenous zone becomes charged by one of the most powerful nerves in the body, the pelvic nerve. While a clitoral orgasm is felt mainly in the clitoris itself a G-spot orgasm can be felt throughout her lower body.”

How: First off, find it. “The G-spot is on the front wall of her vagina, a few inches in,” says Siski Green, author of How To Blow Her Mind In Bed (Pikatus). “It feels rough, a bit like a walnut and swells during arousal to the size of a 2p piece.” Insert two fingers about an inch or two into her vagina with your hand resting against her pubic hair. “As you rub she can grind her clitoris against your palm for added stimulation,” says Green. “Press the spot on her stomach where her pubic hair starts as this pushes her G-spot down towards your hand, increasing the pressure on it.”

Find her A-spot
Officially known as the far less catchy ‘anterior fornix’ the A-spot is a patch of nerves much larger than and about two inches higher than, the G-spot. Its main function is sending sexual signals. Touching her here speeds up the whole arousal process. “She will become lubricated enough to have sex in 5-10 seconds and close to orgasm in 1-2 minutes,” says Dr Chua Chee Ann, the sex therapist who reported the discovery in the British Journal of Sexual & Marital Therapy.

How: “Ask your partner to sit with her legs bent and pulled up towards her body before inserting the whole of your index finger into her vagina,” says Fulbright. “Move your fingers past the G-spot and feel for a larger spongy area about two inches after this. You’ll know you’ve found the right spot because she’ll get instantly wetter. The A-spot responds best to light, gentle strokes, rather than the firmer strokes you should use on the G-spot.”

Make her ejaculate
According to research by the University of Chicago the U-spot is a small patch of sensitive erectile tissue located between the clitoris and above the urethral opening on either side. “Touching the U-spot often leads to female ejaculation,” says Fulbright.

How: "Make small circles around the U-spot with your finger, varying between clockwise and anti-clockwise motions,” says sex therapist Barbara Keesling, author of All Night Long (Hunter House). “Ask her to suck your fingers before you begin; saliva lets them glide rather than drag on the U-spot minimizing her chances of having an orgasm. Don’t probe the opening with your finger, though, there’s a chance this could lead to a urinary tract infection.”

Give her a nipple orgasm
Often regarded as Hors d'oeuvres when properly stimulated the nipples can easily become an orgasmic main. “There are two reasons why this could happen,” says Fulbright. “During sexual arousal, the smooth muscle fibres in a woman's nipples fill with blood. This stimulates her pleasure-receptive nerve endings, which send sexual signals to the brain in the same way the genitals do. Nipple stimulation also leads to the release of oxytocin, the body’s feel good hormone which causes the uterus to contract, triggering off orgasm.”

How: “The most effective way to stimulate her breasts and nipples to orgasm is orally,” says Fulbright. “As you suck her nipples point the tip of your tongue and use it to caress the nipple in a circular motion.” The best time to try this is two weeks before her period when her breast are at their most sensitive says research by Columbia University.