For men, wham-bam-thank you maam romps are all in a day’s work. For women, it’s wham-bam-no thank you sir!
Of late, the world at large and women especially have been rejoicing in their new found sexual freedom, courtesy the female condom which has been seen as a step towards women’s emancipation. For the female condom connotes power and the freedom to enjoy sex without fear or anxiety raising their ugly heads the morning after.
Women have also been rejoicing about their sexual prowess and how liberated they have become in the bedroom. Movies like Sex and the City are credited with fuelling another sexual revolution where women are enjoying the same freedom as men.
But according to a new study, most women do not actually want it. They feel bad about one-night-stands, which is usually followed with a morning crammed with a sense of guilt. Most women even feel used and are more worried about what other people will think if they find out.
As a result women, unlike men, find the experience less sexually satisfying. And if at all getting close to a man is on her mind, it’s only if she’s feels that the bond is strong enough to see many a dawns in her life...
According to Professor Anne Campbell from Durham University in the UK, the negative feelings reported by women after one-night stands suggest that they are not well adapted to fleeting sexual encounters. To test the theory, a total of 1743 men and women who had experienced a one-night stand were asked to rate both their positive and negative feelings the following morning, in an internet survey. The results showed that overall women’s feelings were more negative than men’s.
“Deep down inside, finding a secure base is a fundamental trait of a human being. And this need is stronger in females than males and she knows that. She also knows that a free bird does not remain a healthy bird for long, so there is a stronger feeling of guilt among women,” explains psychologist Samir Parikh.
“Girls are born and brought up in a secure emotional cocoon, which if at all they break by getting into an alliance like this, does hit them harder than the man who had an equally big involvement in the act,” says TV actress Karishma Tanna.
According to Dr. Aruna Broota the age of a woman is an important factor to consider in such cases. “For girls in their early teens, who are in no mood to get into a long term relationship, a one-night stand is just a fun thing and they have no qualms while indulging in the occasional romp. But as a woman grows older, a feeling of guilt starts seeping in and they try to pick one man for a long term relationship, out of the many they have had sexual encounters with.”
Unlike men who are more likely to brag about the experience to their friends, women are consumed with guilt that they may have seriously damaged their reputations. According to Dr. Broota, a 19-year-old girl who came to her for counselling was engulfed in feelings of regret and feared what people may think of her: “I need to talk to someone. But I cannot. Sometimes I feel I’m breaking away from my bonds. People might point out at me branding me as bad.”
In fact, contrary to popular belief, the study finds that women did not seem to view taking part in casual sex as a prelude to long-term relationships. According to the research, published in the journal Human Nature, women are not well adapted to fleeting sexual encounters and instead prefer 'quality to quantity'.
Sunday, June 29, 2008
Friday, June 27, 2008
Return of the alpha-male!
Be it India’s fixation with Kareena Kapoor’s size-zero looks, or the worldwide frenzy around the ultra-thin models strutting down ramps, the female body has always managed to evoke emotions – from wonder to awe, to envy, desire, and even disgust. It makes you wonder: when was the last you salivated over a male body?
We mean, really salivated over a real man? A man you’d love to romance and love from the depths of your soul. Solid, dependable and drool worthy. None of that plastic virility and porn star physiques or androgynous bodies so characteristic of the nineties and the ramps. “The man of the moment is an urchin, a wraith or an underfed runt. The guys look chicken-chested, hollow-cheeked and undernourished,” lamented The New York Times a few months ago.
But trends are changing and according to experts, the real man is back! The Alpha-male: What does he look like? In our quest for perfection and six-pack abs, we’d almost forgotten. Answers fashion designer, Manav Gangwani, “He’s strong but not big. He’s lean and not the bone-showing skinny lad. He’s got the muscles but doesn’t look pumped-up. In short he has the well-toned real physique and looks like a man any girl will be proud to fall in love with.”
According to fashion historian Lydia Kamitsis, "Inevitably, now we're seeing a turn-around, which is not over-statedly virile but which is the sort of masculine image conveyed by western youngsters today."
Pitches in former model Rahul Dev, with his theory about body image that is not at all about muscles but about good looking muscles, “The trend world over is about a proportion between muscles and mass, that’s not just the ideal body image but also gives a definition to clothes that one wears. At the end of the day no one loves anorexic men, nor can one stand that bundle of muscles on the brink of tearing out of a shirt.”
So what is it that drives thousands of men to alter their bodies? The demands of fashion? Or the urge to emulate movie stars? Answers Rahul, “I think one leads to the other. When body-hugging T-shirts were considered the in thing, every one had those awkwardly bulging biceps.”
“Currently, lean and sleek trousers are in vogue in the male fashion scene. And this particular look cannot be carried well by models with those extremely protruding muscles. So to flaunt that fashion, they have to get that particular body type,” adds Manav.
Times, they are changing now. BananasMambo, one of Paris' top male model agencies, is for the first time in years receiving requests for models aged between 25 and 30, "or who look as if they're over 25." Manager Patricia Cadiou-Diehl says "We used to get requests for 17-year-olds, which was often a headache as you have to get special permits and parental agreements. Now, over the last few months, they want boys with bodies, not adolescents."
So, the verdict’s out. The men are back – a perfect mix of style and machismo. Girls, are you ready?
Do you want the Alpha-male looks?
1. “Do it in the right manner so that you don’t look like a body builder but a good-looking healthy human being who looks good with or without clothes,” says photographer Vikram Bawa.
2. “A right mix of aerobics, cardio including treadmill, cycling and ‘no’ rigorous iron pumping sessions can help attain this look, which makes us the ‘designer’s delight’, says model Sohail Khan.
3. Dr. Geetu Amarnani, Nutrition and Wellness expert, Kolmet Hospital gives some dietary and work out suggestions:
• Don’t go for a high protein diet, instead balance your diet in the following proportions:
40%-45%- Carbs
20%-30%- Protiens
5%-10%- Fat
• Just like the diet, the exercising has to be a combination of cardio and weight training targeted at toning down the body rather than making muscles for 4-5 days in a week is best to get a healthy and good looking body.
We mean, really salivated over a real man? A man you’d love to romance and love from the depths of your soul. Solid, dependable and drool worthy. None of that plastic virility and porn star physiques or androgynous bodies so characteristic of the nineties and the ramps. “The man of the moment is an urchin, a wraith or an underfed runt. The guys look chicken-chested, hollow-cheeked and undernourished,” lamented The New York Times a few months ago.
But trends are changing and according to experts, the real man is back! The Alpha-male: What does he look like? In our quest for perfection and six-pack abs, we’d almost forgotten. Answers fashion designer, Manav Gangwani, “He’s strong but not big. He’s lean and not the bone-showing skinny lad. He’s got the muscles but doesn’t look pumped-up. In short he has the well-toned real physique and looks like a man any girl will be proud to fall in love with.”
According to fashion historian Lydia Kamitsis, "Inevitably, now we're seeing a turn-around, which is not over-statedly virile but which is the sort of masculine image conveyed by western youngsters today."
Pitches in former model Rahul Dev, with his theory about body image that is not at all about muscles but about good looking muscles, “The trend world over is about a proportion between muscles and mass, that’s not just the ideal body image but also gives a definition to clothes that one wears. At the end of the day no one loves anorexic men, nor can one stand that bundle of muscles on the brink of tearing out of a shirt.”
So what is it that drives thousands of men to alter their bodies? The demands of fashion? Or the urge to emulate movie stars? Answers Rahul, “I think one leads to the other. When body-hugging T-shirts were considered the in thing, every one had those awkwardly bulging biceps.”
“Currently, lean and sleek trousers are in vogue in the male fashion scene. And this particular look cannot be carried well by models with those extremely protruding muscles. So to flaunt that fashion, they have to get that particular body type,” adds Manav.
Times, they are changing now. BananasMambo, one of Paris' top male model agencies, is for the first time in years receiving requests for models aged between 25 and 30, "or who look as if they're over 25." Manager Patricia Cadiou-Diehl says "We used to get requests for 17-year-olds, which was often a headache as you have to get special permits and parental agreements. Now, over the last few months, they want boys with bodies, not adolescents."
So, the verdict’s out. The men are back – a perfect mix of style and machismo. Girls, are you ready?
Do you want the Alpha-male looks?
1. “Do it in the right manner so that you don’t look like a body builder but a good-looking healthy human being who looks good with or without clothes,” says photographer Vikram Bawa.
2. “A right mix of aerobics, cardio including treadmill, cycling and ‘no’ rigorous iron pumping sessions can help attain this look, which makes us the ‘designer’s delight’, says model Sohail Khan.
3. Dr. Geetu Amarnani, Nutrition and Wellness expert, Kolmet Hospital gives some dietary and work out suggestions:
• Don’t go for a high protein diet, instead balance your diet in the following proportions:
40%-45%- Carbs
20%-30%- Protiens
5%-10%- Fat
• Just like the diet, the exercising has to be a combination of cardio and weight training targeted at toning down the body rather than making muscles for 4-5 days in a week is best to get a healthy and good looking body.
Thursday, June 26, 2008
AFI's 400 Greatest Movie Quotes - Nominees
ACE VENTURA (Jim Carrey): "All-righty then!"
ACE VENTURA, PET DETECTIVE, Warner Bros., 1994
SHERLOCK HOLMES (Basil Rathbone): "Elementary, my dear Watson." # 65
THE ADVENTURES OF SHERLOCK HOLMES, Twentieth Century Fox, 1939
TERRY McKAY (Deborah Kerr): "Oh, it was nobody's fault but my own. I was looking up. It was the nearest thing to heaven. You were there."
AN AFFAIR TO REMEMBER, Twentieth Century Fox, 1957
CHARLIE ALLNUT (Humphrey Bogart): "A man takes a drop too much once in a while, it's only human nature."
ROSE SAYER (Katharine Hepburn): "Nature, Mr. Allnut, is what we are put into this world to rise above."
THE AFRICAN QUEEN, United Artists, 1951
TED STRIKER (Robert Hays): "Surely you can't be serious."
DR. RUMACK (Leslie Nielsen): "I am serious. And don't call me Shirley." # 79
AIRPLANE! Paramount, 1980
STEVE McCROSKEY (Lloyd Bridges): "Looks like I picked the wrong week to stop sniffing glue."
AIRPLANE! Paramount, 1980
CAPT. OVEUR (Peter Graves): "You ever been in a cockpit before?"
JOEY (Rossie Harris): "No sir, I've never been up in a plane before."
CAPT. OVEUR (Peter Graves): "You ever seen a grown man naked?"
AIRPLANE! Paramount, 1980
RIPLEY (Sigourney Weaver): "Get away from her, you bitch!"
ALIENS, Twentieth Century Fox, 1986
MARGO CHANNING (Bette Davis): "Fasten your seatbelts. It's going to be a bumpy night." # 9
ALL ABOUT EVE, Twentieth Century Fox, 1950
PAUL (Lew Ayres): "And our bodies are earth. And our thoughts are clay. And we sleep and eat with death."
ALL QUIET ON THE WESTERN FRONT, Universal, 1930
JOE GIDEON (Roy Scheider): "It's showtime!"
ALL THAT JAZZ, Twentieth Century Fox/Columbia, 1979
DEEP THROAT (Hal Holbrook): "Follow the money."
ALL THE PRESIDENT'S MEN, Warner Bros., 1976
EMPEROR JOSEPH II (Jeffrey Jones): "There are simply too many notes."
AMADEUS, Orion, 1984
RICKY FITTS (Wes Bentley): "Sometimes there's so much beauty in the world I feel like I can't take it, like my heart's going to cave in."
AMERICAN BEAUTY, DreamWorks, 1999
CAPT. JEFFREY T. SPAULDING (Groucho Marx): "One morning I shot an elephant in my pajamas. How he got in my pajamas, I don't know." # 53
ANIMAL CRACKERS, Paramount, 1930
ANNA CHRISTIE (Greta Garbo): "Give me a whisky, ginger ale on the side. And don't be stingy, baby."
ANNA CHRISTIE, MGM, 1930
ANNIE HALL (Diane Keaton): "La-dee-da, la-dee-da." # 55
ANNIE HALL, United Artists, 1977
ALVY SINGER (Woody Allen): "I don't want to move to a city where the only cultural advantage is being able to make a right turn on a red light."
ANNIE HALL, United Artists, 1977
ALVY SINGER (Woody Allen): "Don't knock masturbation. It's sex with someone I love."
ANNIE HALL, United Artists, 1977
FRAN KUBELIK (Shirley MacLaine): "Shut up and deal."
THE APARTMENT, United Artists, 1960
LT. COL. BILL KILGORE (Robert Duvall): "I love the smell of napalm in the morning." # 12
APOCALYPSE NOW, United Artists, 1979
JIM LOVELL (Tom Hanks): "Houston, we have a problem." # 50
APOLLO 13, Universal, 1995
MORTIMER BREWSTER (Cary Grant): "Insanity runs in my family. It practically gallops."
ARSENIC AND OLD LACE, Warner Bros., 1944
ARTHUR BACH (Dudley Moore): "I'm going to take a bath."
HOBSON (John Gielgud): "I'll alert the media."
ARTHUR, Warner Bros., 1981
MELVIN UDALL (Jack Nicholson): "You make me want to be a better man."
AS GOOD AS IT GETS, TriStar, 1997
LOU PASCAL (Burt Lancaster): "Yes, it used to be beautiful -- what with the rackets, whoring, guns."
ATLANTIC CITY, Paramount, 1980
MAME DENNIS (Rosalind Russell): "Life is a banquet, and most poor suckers are starving to death!" # 93
AUNTIE MAME, Warner Bros., 1958
AUSTIN POWERS (Mike Myers): "Yeah, baby!"
AUSTIN POWERS: INTERNATIONAL MAN OF MYSTERY, New Line Cinema, 1997
DR. EVIL (Mike Myers): "One million dollars!"
AUSTIN POWERS: INTERNATIONAL MAN OF MYSTERY, New Line Cinema, 1997
FARMER HOGGETT (James Cromwell): "That'll do, pig. That'll do."
BABE, Universal, 1995
DR. EMMETT BROWN (Christopher Lloyd): "Roads? Where we're going we don't need roads."
BACK TO THE FUTURE, Universal, 1985
JONATHAN SHIELDS (Kirk Douglas): "Georgia, love is for the very young."
THE BAD AND THE BEAUTIFUL, MGM, 1952
SUGARPUSS O'SHEA (Barbara Stanwyck): "I love him because he's the kind of guy who gets drunk on a glass of buttermilk, and I love the way he blushes right up over his ears. I love him because he doesn't know how to kiss, the jerk!"
BALL OF FIRE, RKO, 1941
THE JOKER (Jack Nicholson): "Have you ever danced with the Devil in the pale moonlight?"
BATMAN, Warner Bros., 1989
BETELGEUSE (Michael Keaton): "I'm the ghost with the most, babe."
BEETLEJUICE, Warner Bros., 1988
CHANCE (Peter Sellers): "I like to watch."
BEING THERE, United Artists, 1979
ROSA MOLINE (Bette Davis): "What a dump." # 62
BEYOND THE FOREST, Warner Bros., 1949
JOSH (Tom Hanks): "Okay, but I get to be on top."
BIG, Twentieth Century Fox, 1988
DEBBY MARSH (Gloria Grahame): "We're sisters under the mink."
THE BIG HEAT, Columbia, 1953
VIVIAN RUTLEDGE (Lauren Bacall): "I don't like your manners."
PHILIP MARLOWE (Humphrey Bogart): "I'm not crazy about yours. I didn't ask to see you. I don't mind if you don't like my manners. I don't like them myself. They're pretty bad. I grieve over them long winter evenings."
THE BIG SLEEP, Warner Bros., 1946
BILL/TED (Alex Winter, Keanu Reeves): "Excellent!"
BILL AND TED'S EXCELLENT ADVENTURE, Orion, 1989
ROY BATTY (Rutger Hauer): "I've seen things you people wouldn't believe. Attack ships on fire off the shoulder of Orion. I watched C-beams glitter in the dark near the Tannhauser gate. All those moments will be lost in time, like tears in rain. Time to die."
BLADE RUNNER, Warner Bros., 1982
BART (Cleavon Little): "Excuse me while I whip this out."
BLAZING SADDLES, Warner Bros., 1974
BERT HARRIS (James Cagney): "That dirty, double-crossin' rat!
BLONDE CRAZY, Warner Bros., 1931
ELWOOD BLUES (Dan Aykroyd): "We're on a mission from God."
THE BLUES BROTHERS, Universal, 1980
MATTY WALKER (Kathleen Turner): "You aren't too bright. I like that in a man."
BODY HEAT, Warner Bros., 1981
CLYDE BARROW (Warren Beatty): "We rob banks." # 41
BONNIE AND CLYDE, Warner Bros., 1967
BILLIE DAWN (Judy Holliday): "Wouldja do me a favor, Harry? Drop dead!"
BORN YESTERDAY, Columbia, 1950
FATHER EDWARD J. FLANAGAN (Spencer Tracy): "There is no bad boy."
BOYS TOWN, MGM, 1938
WILLIAM WALLACE (Mel Gibson): "They may take away our lives, but they'll never take our freedom!
BRAVEHEART, Paramount, 1995
HOLLY GOLIGHTLY (Audrey Hepburn): "How do I look?"
BREAKFAST AT TIFFANY'S, Paramount, 1961
PRINCIPAL RICHARD VERNON (Paul Gleason): "Don't mess with the bull, young man. You'll get the horns!"
THE BREAKFAST CLUB, Universal, 1985
THE MONSTER (Boris Karloff): "We belong dead."
BRIDE OF FRANKENSTEIN, Universal, 1935
MAJ. CLIPTON (James Donald): "Madness. Madness."
THE BRIDGE ON THE RIVER KWAI, Columbia, 1957
DR. DAVID HUXLEY (Cary Grant): "It isn't that I don't like you, Susan, because after all, in moments of quiet, I'm strangely drawn toward you; but, well, there haven't been any quiet moments!
BRINGING UP BABY, RKO, 1938
AARON ALTMAN (Albert Brooks): "I'll meet you at the place near the thing where we went that time.
BROADCAST NEWS, Twentieth Century Fox, 1987
VIRGINIA HILL (Annette Bening): "Why don't you go outside and jerk yourself a soda?"
BUGSY, TriStar, 1991
CRASH DAVIS (Kevin Costner): "...I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days."
BULL DURHAM, Orion, 1988
BUTCH CASSIDY (Paul Newman): "Kid, the next time I say, 'Let's go someplace like Bolivia,' let's go someplace like Bolivia."
BUTCH CASSIDY AND THE SUNDANCE KID, Twentieth Century Fox, 1969
GLORIA WANDROUS (Elizabeth Taylor): "Mama, face it. I was the slut of all time."
BUTTERFIELD 8, MGM, 1960
MADGE NORWOOD (Bette Davis): "I'd love to kiss you, but I just washed my hair."
CABIN IN THE COTTON, Warner Bros., 1932
CARL SPACKLER (Bill Murray): "Cinderella story. Outta nowhere. A former greenskeeper, now, about to become the Masters champion. It looks like a mirac... It's in the hole! It's in the hole! It's in the hole!" # 92
CADDYSHACK, Orion, 1980
TY WEBB (Chevy Chase): "Be the ball."
CADDYSHACK, Orion, 1980
CAPT. QUEEG (Humphrey Bogart): "Ah, but the strawberries! That's, that's where I had them."
THE CAINE MUTINY, Columbia, 1954
MARGUERITE GAUTIER (Greta Garbo): "His eyes have made love to me all evening."
CAMILLE, MGM, 1936
MAX CADY (Robert DeNiro): "Come out, come out, wherever you are!"
CAPE FEAR, Universal, 1991
ILSA LASZLO (Ingrid Bergman): "Play it, Sam. Play 'As Time Goes By.'" # 28
CASABLANCA, Warner Bros., 1942
RICK BLAINE (Humphrey Bogart): "Of all the gin joints in all the towns in all the world, she walks into mine." # 67
CASABLANCA, Warner Bros., 1942
RICK BLAINE (Humphrey Bogart): "Ilsa, I'm no good at being noble, but it doesn't take much to see that the problems of three little people don't amount to a hill of beans in this crazy world.
CASABLANCA, Warner Bros., 1942
RICK BLAINE (Humphrey Bogart): "We'll always have Paris." # 43
CASABLANCA, Warner Bros., 1942
RICK BLAINE (Humphrey Bogart): "Here's looking at you, kid." # 5
CASABLANCA, Warner Bros., 1942
CAPT. RENAULT (Claude Rains): "Round up the usual suspects." # 32
CASABLANCA, Warner Bros., 1942
RICK BLAINE (Humphrey Bogart): "Louis, I think this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship." # 20
CASABLANCA, Warner Bros., 1942
MICHAEL KELLY (Kirk Douglas): "For the first time in my life, people cheering for me. Were you deaf? Didn't you hear 'em? We're not hitchhiking any more. We're riding."
CHAMPION, Universal, 1949
WALSH (Joe Mantell): "Forget it, Jake. It's Chinatown." # 74
CHINATOWN, Paramount, 1974
EVELYN MULWRAY (Faye Dunaway): "She's my sister! She's my daughter!"
CHINATOWN, Paramount, 1974
MRS. PARKER (Melinda Dillon): "You'll shoot your eye out."
A CHRISTMAS STORY, MGM, 1983
DR. WILBUR LARCH (Michael Caine): "Good night, you princes of Maine, you kings of New England."
THE CIDER HOUSE RULES, Miramax, 1999
CHARLES FOSTER KANE (Orson Welles): "Rosebud." # 17
CITIZEN KANE, RKO, 1941
MITCH ROBBINS (Billy Crystal): "Hi, Curly, kill anyone today?"
CURLY (Jack Palance): "Day ain't over yet."
CITY SLICKERS, Columbia, 1991
CHER HORWITZ (Alicia Silverstone): "As if!"
CLUELESS, Paramount, 1995
SHUG (Margaret Avery): "I think it pisses God off when you walk by the color purple in a field and don't notice it."
THE COLOR PURPLE, Warner Bros., 1985
CAPTAIN (Strother Martin): "What we've got here is failure to communicate." # 11
COOL HAND LUKE, Warner Bros., 1967
HUBERT HAWKINS (Danny Kaye): "The pellet with the poison's in the vessel with the pestle. The chalice from the palace has the brew that is true."
THE COURT JESTER, Paramount, 1956
LINDY CHAMBERLAIN (Meryl Streep): "The dingo took my baby!"
A CRY IN THE DARK, Warner Bros., 1988
FLO MARLOWE (Esther Muir): "Oh, hold me closer! Closer! Closer!"
DR. HUGO Z. HACKENBUSH (Groucho Marx): "If I hold you any closer, I'll be in back of you."
A DAY AT THE RACES, MGM, 1937
HELEN BENSON (Patricia Neal): "Gort! Klaatu barada nikto!"
THE DAY THE EARTH STOOD STILL, Twentieth Century Fox, 1951
DAVID WOODERSON (Matthew McConaughey): "That's what I love about these high school girls, man. I keep getting older, they stay the same age."
DAZED AND CONFUSED, Universal, 1993
JOHN KEATING (Robin Williams): "Carpe diem. Seize the day, boys. Make your lives extraordinary." # 95
DEAD POETS SOCIETY, Touchstone, 1989
MICHAEL VRONSKY (Robert DeNiro): "This is this."
THE DEER HUNTER, Universal, 1978
MOUNTAIN MAN (Bill McKinney): "I bet you can squeal like a pig."
DELIVERANCE, Warner Bros., 1972
VERA (Ann Savage): "Stop makin' noises like a husband."
DETOUR, Producers Releasing Corporation, 1945
ANNE FRANK (V.0.) (Millie Perkins): "In spite of everything, I still believe that people are really good at heart."
THE DIARY OF ANNE FRANK, Twentieth Century Fox, 1959
JOHN McCLANE (Bruce Willis): "Yippie-ki-yay, motherfucker!"
DIE HARD,Twentieth Century Fox, 1988
KITTY (Jean Harlow): "I was reading a book the other day."
CARLOTTA (Marie Dressler): "Reading a book?"
KITTY: "Yes. It's all about civilization or something, a nutty kind of a book. Do you know that the guy said that machinery is going to take the place of every profession?"
CARLOTTA: "Oh, my dear, that's something you need never worry about."
DINNER AT EIGHT, MGM, 1933
JOHNNY CASTLE (Patrick Swayze): "Nobody puts Baby in a corner." # 98
DIRTY DANCING, Artisan, 1987
HARRY CALLAHAN (Clint Eastwood): "You've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel lucky?' Well, do ya, punk?" # 51
DIRTY HARRY, Warner Bros., 1971
DA MAYOR (Ossie Davis): "Always do the right thing."
MOOKIE (Spike Lee): "That's it?"
DA MAYOR: "That's it."
MOOKIE: "I got it, I'm gone."
DO THE RIGHT THING, Universal, 1989
SONNY WORTZIK (Al Pacino): "Attica! Attica!" # 86
DOG DAY AFTERNOON, Warner Bros., 1975
DONNIE BRASCO (Johnny Depp): "Forget about it."
DONNIE BRASCO, TriStar, 1997
ACE VENTURA, PET DETECTIVE, Warner Bros., 1994
SHERLOCK HOLMES (Basil Rathbone): "Elementary, my dear Watson." # 65
THE ADVENTURES OF SHERLOCK HOLMES, Twentieth Century Fox, 1939
TERRY McKAY (Deborah Kerr): "Oh, it was nobody's fault but my own. I was looking up. It was the nearest thing to heaven. You were there."
AN AFFAIR TO REMEMBER, Twentieth Century Fox, 1957
CHARLIE ALLNUT (Humphrey Bogart): "A man takes a drop too much once in a while, it's only human nature."
ROSE SAYER (Katharine Hepburn): "Nature, Mr. Allnut, is what we are put into this world to rise above."
THE AFRICAN QUEEN, United Artists, 1951
TED STRIKER (Robert Hays): "Surely you can't be serious."
DR. RUMACK (Leslie Nielsen): "I am serious. And don't call me Shirley." # 79
AIRPLANE! Paramount, 1980
STEVE McCROSKEY (Lloyd Bridges): "Looks like I picked the wrong week to stop sniffing glue."
AIRPLANE! Paramount, 1980
CAPT. OVEUR (Peter Graves): "You ever been in a cockpit before?"
JOEY (Rossie Harris): "No sir, I've never been up in a plane before."
CAPT. OVEUR (Peter Graves): "You ever seen a grown man naked?"
AIRPLANE! Paramount, 1980
RIPLEY (Sigourney Weaver): "Get away from her, you bitch!"
ALIENS, Twentieth Century Fox, 1986
MARGO CHANNING (Bette Davis): "Fasten your seatbelts. It's going to be a bumpy night." # 9
ALL ABOUT EVE, Twentieth Century Fox, 1950
PAUL (Lew Ayres): "And our bodies are earth. And our thoughts are clay. And we sleep and eat with death."
ALL QUIET ON THE WESTERN FRONT, Universal, 1930
JOE GIDEON (Roy Scheider): "It's showtime!"
ALL THAT JAZZ, Twentieth Century Fox/Columbia, 1979
DEEP THROAT (Hal Holbrook): "Follow the money."
ALL THE PRESIDENT'S MEN, Warner Bros., 1976
EMPEROR JOSEPH II (Jeffrey Jones): "There are simply too many notes."
AMADEUS, Orion, 1984
RICKY FITTS (Wes Bentley): "Sometimes there's so much beauty in the world I feel like I can't take it, like my heart's going to cave in."
AMERICAN BEAUTY, DreamWorks, 1999
CAPT. JEFFREY T. SPAULDING (Groucho Marx): "One morning I shot an elephant in my pajamas. How he got in my pajamas, I don't know." # 53
ANIMAL CRACKERS, Paramount, 1930
ANNA CHRISTIE (Greta Garbo): "Give me a whisky, ginger ale on the side. And don't be stingy, baby."
ANNA CHRISTIE, MGM, 1930
ANNIE HALL (Diane Keaton): "La-dee-da, la-dee-da." # 55
ANNIE HALL, United Artists, 1977
ALVY SINGER (Woody Allen): "I don't want to move to a city where the only cultural advantage is being able to make a right turn on a red light."
ANNIE HALL, United Artists, 1977
ALVY SINGER (Woody Allen): "Don't knock masturbation. It's sex with someone I love."
ANNIE HALL, United Artists, 1977
FRAN KUBELIK (Shirley MacLaine): "Shut up and deal."
THE APARTMENT, United Artists, 1960
LT. COL. BILL KILGORE (Robert Duvall): "I love the smell of napalm in the morning." # 12
APOCALYPSE NOW, United Artists, 1979
JIM LOVELL (Tom Hanks): "Houston, we have a problem." # 50
APOLLO 13, Universal, 1995
MORTIMER BREWSTER (Cary Grant): "Insanity runs in my family. It practically gallops."
ARSENIC AND OLD LACE, Warner Bros., 1944
ARTHUR BACH (Dudley Moore): "I'm going to take a bath."
HOBSON (John Gielgud): "I'll alert the media."
ARTHUR, Warner Bros., 1981
MELVIN UDALL (Jack Nicholson): "You make me want to be a better man."
AS GOOD AS IT GETS, TriStar, 1997
LOU PASCAL (Burt Lancaster): "Yes, it used to be beautiful -- what with the rackets, whoring, guns."
ATLANTIC CITY, Paramount, 1980
MAME DENNIS (Rosalind Russell): "Life is a banquet, and most poor suckers are starving to death!" # 93
AUNTIE MAME, Warner Bros., 1958
AUSTIN POWERS (Mike Myers): "Yeah, baby!"
AUSTIN POWERS: INTERNATIONAL MAN OF MYSTERY, New Line Cinema, 1997
DR. EVIL (Mike Myers): "One million dollars!"
AUSTIN POWERS: INTERNATIONAL MAN OF MYSTERY, New Line Cinema, 1997
FARMER HOGGETT (James Cromwell): "That'll do, pig. That'll do."
BABE, Universal, 1995
DR. EMMETT BROWN (Christopher Lloyd): "Roads? Where we're going we don't need roads."
BACK TO THE FUTURE, Universal, 1985
JONATHAN SHIELDS (Kirk Douglas): "Georgia, love is for the very young."
THE BAD AND THE BEAUTIFUL, MGM, 1952
SUGARPUSS O'SHEA (Barbara Stanwyck): "I love him because he's the kind of guy who gets drunk on a glass of buttermilk, and I love the way he blushes right up over his ears. I love him because he doesn't know how to kiss, the jerk!"
BALL OF FIRE, RKO, 1941
THE JOKER (Jack Nicholson): "Have you ever danced with the Devil in the pale moonlight?"
BATMAN, Warner Bros., 1989
BETELGEUSE (Michael Keaton): "I'm the ghost with the most, babe."
BEETLEJUICE, Warner Bros., 1988
CHANCE (Peter Sellers): "I like to watch."
BEING THERE, United Artists, 1979
ROSA MOLINE (Bette Davis): "What a dump." # 62
BEYOND THE FOREST, Warner Bros., 1949
JOSH (Tom Hanks): "Okay, but I get to be on top."
BIG, Twentieth Century Fox, 1988
DEBBY MARSH (Gloria Grahame): "We're sisters under the mink."
THE BIG HEAT, Columbia, 1953
VIVIAN RUTLEDGE (Lauren Bacall): "I don't like your manners."
PHILIP MARLOWE (Humphrey Bogart): "I'm not crazy about yours. I didn't ask to see you. I don't mind if you don't like my manners. I don't like them myself. They're pretty bad. I grieve over them long winter evenings."
THE BIG SLEEP, Warner Bros., 1946
BILL/TED (Alex Winter, Keanu Reeves): "Excellent!"
BILL AND TED'S EXCELLENT ADVENTURE, Orion, 1989
ROY BATTY (Rutger Hauer): "I've seen things you people wouldn't believe. Attack ships on fire off the shoulder of Orion. I watched C-beams glitter in the dark near the Tannhauser gate. All those moments will be lost in time, like tears in rain. Time to die."
BLADE RUNNER, Warner Bros., 1982
BART (Cleavon Little): "Excuse me while I whip this out."
BLAZING SADDLES, Warner Bros., 1974
BERT HARRIS (James Cagney): "That dirty, double-crossin' rat!
BLONDE CRAZY, Warner Bros., 1931
ELWOOD BLUES (Dan Aykroyd): "We're on a mission from God."
THE BLUES BROTHERS, Universal, 1980
MATTY WALKER (Kathleen Turner): "You aren't too bright. I like that in a man."
BODY HEAT, Warner Bros., 1981
CLYDE BARROW (Warren Beatty): "We rob banks." # 41
BONNIE AND CLYDE, Warner Bros., 1967
BILLIE DAWN (Judy Holliday): "Wouldja do me a favor, Harry? Drop dead!"
BORN YESTERDAY, Columbia, 1950
FATHER EDWARD J. FLANAGAN (Spencer Tracy): "There is no bad boy."
BOYS TOWN, MGM, 1938
WILLIAM WALLACE (Mel Gibson): "They may take away our lives, but they'll never take our freedom!
BRAVEHEART, Paramount, 1995
HOLLY GOLIGHTLY (Audrey Hepburn): "How do I look?"
BREAKFAST AT TIFFANY'S, Paramount, 1961
PRINCIPAL RICHARD VERNON (Paul Gleason): "Don't mess with the bull, young man. You'll get the horns!"
THE BREAKFAST CLUB, Universal, 1985
THE MONSTER (Boris Karloff): "We belong dead."
BRIDE OF FRANKENSTEIN, Universal, 1935
MAJ. CLIPTON (James Donald): "Madness. Madness."
THE BRIDGE ON THE RIVER KWAI, Columbia, 1957
DR. DAVID HUXLEY (Cary Grant): "It isn't that I don't like you, Susan, because after all, in moments of quiet, I'm strangely drawn toward you; but, well, there haven't been any quiet moments!
BRINGING UP BABY, RKO, 1938
AARON ALTMAN (Albert Brooks): "I'll meet you at the place near the thing where we went that time.
BROADCAST NEWS, Twentieth Century Fox, 1987
VIRGINIA HILL (Annette Bening): "Why don't you go outside and jerk yourself a soda?"
BUGSY, TriStar, 1991
CRASH DAVIS (Kevin Costner): "...I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days."
BULL DURHAM, Orion, 1988
BUTCH CASSIDY (Paul Newman): "Kid, the next time I say, 'Let's go someplace like Bolivia,' let's go someplace like Bolivia."
BUTCH CASSIDY AND THE SUNDANCE KID, Twentieth Century Fox, 1969
GLORIA WANDROUS (Elizabeth Taylor): "Mama, face it. I was the slut of all time."
BUTTERFIELD 8, MGM, 1960
MADGE NORWOOD (Bette Davis): "I'd love to kiss you, but I just washed my hair."
CABIN IN THE COTTON, Warner Bros., 1932
CARL SPACKLER (Bill Murray): "Cinderella story. Outta nowhere. A former greenskeeper, now, about to become the Masters champion. It looks like a mirac... It's in the hole! It's in the hole! It's in the hole!" # 92
CADDYSHACK, Orion, 1980
TY WEBB (Chevy Chase): "Be the ball."
CADDYSHACK, Orion, 1980
CAPT. QUEEG (Humphrey Bogart): "Ah, but the strawberries! That's, that's where I had them."
THE CAINE MUTINY, Columbia, 1954
MARGUERITE GAUTIER (Greta Garbo): "His eyes have made love to me all evening."
CAMILLE, MGM, 1936
MAX CADY (Robert DeNiro): "Come out, come out, wherever you are!"
CAPE FEAR, Universal, 1991
ILSA LASZLO (Ingrid Bergman): "Play it, Sam. Play 'As Time Goes By.'" # 28
CASABLANCA, Warner Bros., 1942
RICK BLAINE (Humphrey Bogart): "Of all the gin joints in all the towns in all the world, she walks into mine." # 67
CASABLANCA, Warner Bros., 1942
RICK BLAINE (Humphrey Bogart): "Ilsa, I'm no good at being noble, but it doesn't take much to see that the problems of three little people don't amount to a hill of beans in this crazy world.
CASABLANCA, Warner Bros., 1942
RICK BLAINE (Humphrey Bogart): "We'll always have Paris." # 43
CASABLANCA, Warner Bros., 1942
RICK BLAINE (Humphrey Bogart): "Here's looking at you, kid." # 5
CASABLANCA, Warner Bros., 1942
CAPT. RENAULT (Claude Rains): "Round up the usual suspects." # 32
CASABLANCA, Warner Bros., 1942
RICK BLAINE (Humphrey Bogart): "Louis, I think this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship." # 20
CASABLANCA, Warner Bros., 1942
MICHAEL KELLY (Kirk Douglas): "For the first time in my life, people cheering for me. Were you deaf? Didn't you hear 'em? We're not hitchhiking any more. We're riding."
CHAMPION, Universal, 1949
WALSH (Joe Mantell): "Forget it, Jake. It's Chinatown." # 74
CHINATOWN, Paramount, 1974
EVELYN MULWRAY (Faye Dunaway): "She's my sister! She's my daughter!"
CHINATOWN, Paramount, 1974
MRS. PARKER (Melinda Dillon): "You'll shoot your eye out."
A CHRISTMAS STORY, MGM, 1983
DR. WILBUR LARCH (Michael Caine): "Good night, you princes of Maine, you kings of New England."
THE CIDER HOUSE RULES, Miramax, 1999
CHARLES FOSTER KANE (Orson Welles): "Rosebud." # 17
CITIZEN KANE, RKO, 1941
MITCH ROBBINS (Billy Crystal): "Hi, Curly, kill anyone today?"
CURLY (Jack Palance): "Day ain't over yet."
CITY SLICKERS, Columbia, 1991
CHER HORWITZ (Alicia Silverstone): "As if!"
CLUELESS, Paramount, 1995
SHUG (Margaret Avery): "I think it pisses God off when you walk by the color purple in a field and don't notice it."
THE COLOR PURPLE, Warner Bros., 1985
CAPTAIN (Strother Martin): "What we've got here is failure to communicate." # 11
COOL HAND LUKE, Warner Bros., 1967
HUBERT HAWKINS (Danny Kaye): "The pellet with the poison's in the vessel with the pestle. The chalice from the palace has the brew that is true."
THE COURT JESTER, Paramount, 1956
LINDY CHAMBERLAIN (Meryl Streep): "The dingo took my baby!"
A CRY IN THE DARK, Warner Bros., 1988
FLO MARLOWE (Esther Muir): "Oh, hold me closer! Closer! Closer!"
DR. HUGO Z. HACKENBUSH (Groucho Marx): "If I hold you any closer, I'll be in back of you."
A DAY AT THE RACES, MGM, 1937
HELEN BENSON (Patricia Neal): "Gort! Klaatu barada nikto!"
THE DAY THE EARTH STOOD STILL, Twentieth Century Fox, 1951
DAVID WOODERSON (Matthew McConaughey): "That's what I love about these high school girls, man. I keep getting older, they stay the same age."
DAZED AND CONFUSED, Universal, 1993
JOHN KEATING (Robin Williams): "Carpe diem. Seize the day, boys. Make your lives extraordinary." # 95
DEAD POETS SOCIETY, Touchstone, 1989
MICHAEL VRONSKY (Robert DeNiro): "This is this."
THE DEER HUNTER, Universal, 1978
MOUNTAIN MAN (Bill McKinney): "I bet you can squeal like a pig."
DELIVERANCE, Warner Bros., 1972
VERA (Ann Savage): "Stop makin' noises like a husband."
DETOUR, Producers Releasing Corporation, 1945
ANNE FRANK (V.0.) (Millie Perkins): "In spite of everything, I still believe that people are really good at heart."
THE DIARY OF ANNE FRANK, Twentieth Century Fox, 1959
JOHN McCLANE (Bruce Willis): "Yippie-ki-yay, motherfucker!"
DIE HARD,Twentieth Century Fox, 1988
KITTY (Jean Harlow): "I was reading a book the other day."
CARLOTTA (Marie Dressler): "Reading a book?"
KITTY: "Yes. It's all about civilization or something, a nutty kind of a book. Do you know that the guy said that machinery is going to take the place of every profession?"
CARLOTTA: "Oh, my dear, that's something you need never worry about."
DINNER AT EIGHT, MGM, 1933
JOHNNY CASTLE (Patrick Swayze): "Nobody puts Baby in a corner." # 98
DIRTY DANCING, Artisan, 1987
HARRY CALLAHAN (Clint Eastwood): "You've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel lucky?' Well, do ya, punk?" # 51
DIRTY HARRY, Warner Bros., 1971
DA MAYOR (Ossie Davis): "Always do the right thing."
MOOKIE (Spike Lee): "That's it?"
DA MAYOR: "That's it."
MOOKIE: "I got it, I'm gone."
DO THE RIGHT THING, Universal, 1989
SONNY WORTZIK (Al Pacino): "Attica! Attica!" # 86
DOG DAY AFTERNOON, Warner Bros., 1975
DONNIE BRASCO (Johnny Depp): "Forget about it."
DONNIE BRASCO, TriStar, 1997
AMERICA's 100 GREATEST LOVE STORIES..........
Casablanca (1942)
Gone With the Wind (1939)
West Side Story (1961)
Roman Holiday (1953)
An Affair to Remember (1957)
The Way We Were (1973)
Doctor Zhivago (1965)
It's A Wonderful Life (1946)
Love Story (1970)
City Lights (1931)
Annie Hall (1977)
My Fair Lady (1964)
Out of Africa (1985)
The African Queen (1951)
Wuthering Heights (1939)
Singin' In The Rain (1952)
Moonstruck (1987)
Vertigo (1958)
Ghost (1990)
From Here to Eternity (1953)
Pretty Woman (1990)
On Golden Pond (1981)
Now, Voyager (1942)
King Kong (1933)
When Harry Met Sally... (1989)
The Lady Eve (1941)
The Sound of Music (1965)
The Shop Around the Corner (1940)
An Officer and a Gentleman (1982)
Swing Time (1936)
The King and I (1956)
Dark Victory (1939)
Camille (1937)
Beauty and the Beast (1991)
Gigi (1958)
Random Harvest (1942)
Titanic (1997)
It Happened One Night (1934)
An American in Paris (1951)
Ninotchka (1939)
Funny Girl (1968)
Anna Karenina (1935)
A Star is Born (1954)
The Philadelphia Story (1940)
Sleepless in Seattle (1993)
To Catch a Thief (1955)
Splendor in the Grass (1961)
Last Tango in Paris (1972)
The Postman Always Rings Twice (1946)
Shakespeare in Love (1998)
Bringing Up Baby (1938)
The Graduate (1967)
A Place in the Sun (1951)
Sabrina (1954)
Reds (1981)
The English Patient (1996)
Two For the Road (1967)
Guess Who's Coming to Dinner (1967)
Picnic (1955)
To Have and Have Not (1944)
Breakfast at Tiffany's (1961)
The Apartment (1960)
Sunrise (1927)
Marty (1955)
Bonnie and Clyde (1967)
Manhattan (1979)
A Streetcar Named Desire (1951)
What's Up, Doc? (1972)
Harold and Maude (1971)
Sense and Sensibility (1995)
Way Down East (1920)
Roxanne (1987)
The Ghost and Mrs. Muir (1947)
Woman of the Year (1942)
The American President (1995)
The Quiet Man (1952)
The Awful Truth (1937)
Coming Home (1978)
Jezebel (1938)
The Sheik (1921)
The Goodbye Girl (1977)
Witness (1985)
Morocco (1930)
Double Indemnity (1944)
Love Is a Many-Splendored Thing (1955)
Notorious (1946)
The Unbearable Lightness of Being (1988)
The Princess Bride (1987)
Who's Afraid Of Virginia Woolf? (1966)
The Bridges of Madison County (1995)
Working Girl (1988)
Porgy and Bess (1959)
Dirty Dancing (1987)
Body Heat (1981)
Lady and the Tramp (1955)
Barefoot in the Park (1967)
Grease (1978)
The Hunchback of Notre Dame (1939)
Pillow Talk (1959)
Jerry Maguire (1996)
Gone With the Wind (1939)
West Side Story (1961)
Roman Holiday (1953)
An Affair to Remember (1957)
The Way We Were (1973)
Doctor Zhivago (1965)
It's A Wonderful Life (1946)
Love Story (1970)
City Lights (1931)
Annie Hall (1977)
My Fair Lady (1964)
Out of Africa (1985)
The African Queen (1951)
Wuthering Heights (1939)
Singin' In The Rain (1952)
Moonstruck (1987)
Vertigo (1958)
Ghost (1990)
From Here to Eternity (1953)
Pretty Woman (1990)
On Golden Pond (1981)
Now, Voyager (1942)
King Kong (1933)
When Harry Met Sally... (1989)
The Lady Eve (1941)
The Sound of Music (1965)
The Shop Around the Corner (1940)
An Officer and a Gentleman (1982)
Swing Time (1936)
The King and I (1956)
Dark Victory (1939)
Camille (1937)
Beauty and the Beast (1991)
Gigi (1958)
Random Harvest (1942)
Titanic (1997)
It Happened One Night (1934)
An American in Paris (1951)
Ninotchka (1939)
Funny Girl (1968)
Anna Karenina (1935)
A Star is Born (1954)
The Philadelphia Story (1940)
Sleepless in Seattle (1993)
To Catch a Thief (1955)
Splendor in the Grass (1961)
Last Tango in Paris (1972)
The Postman Always Rings Twice (1946)
Shakespeare in Love (1998)
Bringing Up Baby (1938)
The Graduate (1967)
A Place in the Sun (1951)
Sabrina (1954)
Reds (1981)
The English Patient (1996)
Two For the Road (1967)
Guess Who's Coming to Dinner (1967)
Picnic (1955)
To Have and Have Not (1944)
Breakfast at Tiffany's (1961)
The Apartment (1960)
Sunrise (1927)
Marty (1955)
Bonnie and Clyde (1967)
Manhattan (1979)
A Streetcar Named Desire (1951)
What's Up, Doc? (1972)
Harold and Maude (1971)
Sense and Sensibility (1995)
Way Down East (1920)
Roxanne (1987)
The Ghost and Mrs. Muir (1947)
Woman of the Year (1942)
The American President (1995)
The Quiet Man (1952)
The Awful Truth (1937)
Coming Home (1978)
Jezebel (1938)
The Sheik (1921)
The Goodbye Girl (1977)
Witness (1985)
Morocco (1930)
Double Indemnity (1944)
Love Is a Many-Splendored Thing (1955)
Notorious (1946)
The Unbearable Lightness of Being (1988)
The Princess Bride (1987)
Who's Afraid Of Virginia Woolf? (1966)
The Bridges of Madison County (1995)
Working Girl (1988)
Porgy and Bess (1959)
Dirty Dancing (1987)
Body Heat (1981)
Lady and the Tramp (1955)
Barefoot in the Park (1967)
Grease (1978)
The Hunchback of Notre Dame (1939)
Pillow Talk (1959)
Jerry Maguire (1996)
Friday, June 20, 2008
Look within yourself!...........
he quality of our lives depends more on what we are inside than outside. But how many of us really look within? We need to think right. Hence it is essential to look within and create an order therein.
We are programmed to believe that happiness is outside. We are products of such programming. It has been ingrained in us that joy and happiness are outside and the myth governs our lives. The process of thinking involves flow of thoughts. Thoughts move outward in search of happiness, name, fame, money or power. Happiness however does not result from material affluence. It is a result of our attitude to life.
Happiness is a result of our being totally in the present. Enlightenment happens in the present. But our lives are always focused either on the past or future. Life is in the present. So be present in the present. Then a different ‘presence’ opens up. Whatever you are doing, be total in it. Bring in your totality of being in the ‘here and now’.
When you are looking at a flower, can you just look? If you look at it from thoughtfulness, thoughts interpret it as a good or bad flower. A thought compares it with something else. By this you don’t look, you superimpose. The discipline to look at something without thoughts is important. When you require using your thoughts, only then should you bring in a thought. Try this out.
When unnecessary thoughts pile up, they become pockets of energy. When negative thoughts pile up they seed negative attitude, enforcing negative thoughts. These in turn superimpose energy on the objects of thought, making them appear negative. The influences that are created in life, be they in a form of war, politics, violence, are the result of the influence of negative energy that either becomes real or superimposed.
When your immune system is weak you are prone to disease. Similarly, when your psychological immune system is weak you are prone to negative influences. A negative thought requires no effort. It comes from the lower mind that is mechanical. Noble thoughts have to come from the higher mind that is more conscious and magnetic.
A faulty attitude injures and harms us. We end up making wrong connections. And when we are not proceeding in the right direction, we suffer the consequences.
There is male energy in the female and female energy in the male. Since we are progenies of both genders, we have in us both male and female energies. They have to be in harmony for us to be able to function in a way that gives us the right direction. When you create an external harmony, you create an internal harmony also. By loving a man outside, you love the male energy in you. When you hate a woman outside, a very important part of you, the internal female energy is also dwarfed and injured.
In everyone of us there is both a teacher and a student. Our centre is a teacher teaching us in the language of silence, in the language of purity. The student in us should learn to listen to the teaching. When we do injustice to an external teacher, we are doing injustice to a part of ourselves. By respecting both a student and a teacher outside, we respect something in us.
When there is right attitude, the wisest connection is made. For objective consciousness should include the subject, too.
We are programmed to believe that happiness is outside. We are products of such programming. It has been ingrained in us that joy and happiness are outside and the myth governs our lives. The process of thinking involves flow of thoughts. Thoughts move outward in search of happiness, name, fame, money or power. Happiness however does not result from material affluence. It is a result of our attitude to life.
Happiness is a result of our being totally in the present. Enlightenment happens in the present. But our lives are always focused either on the past or future. Life is in the present. So be present in the present. Then a different ‘presence’ opens up. Whatever you are doing, be total in it. Bring in your totality of being in the ‘here and now’.
When you are looking at a flower, can you just look? If you look at it from thoughtfulness, thoughts interpret it as a good or bad flower. A thought compares it with something else. By this you don’t look, you superimpose. The discipline to look at something without thoughts is important. When you require using your thoughts, only then should you bring in a thought. Try this out.
When unnecessary thoughts pile up, they become pockets of energy. When negative thoughts pile up they seed negative attitude, enforcing negative thoughts. These in turn superimpose energy on the objects of thought, making them appear negative. The influences that are created in life, be they in a form of war, politics, violence, are the result of the influence of negative energy that either becomes real or superimposed.
When your immune system is weak you are prone to disease. Similarly, when your psychological immune system is weak you are prone to negative influences. A negative thought requires no effort. It comes from the lower mind that is mechanical. Noble thoughts have to come from the higher mind that is more conscious and magnetic.
A faulty attitude injures and harms us. We end up making wrong connections. And when we are not proceeding in the right direction, we suffer the consequences.
There is male energy in the female and female energy in the male. Since we are progenies of both genders, we have in us both male and female energies. They have to be in harmony for us to be able to function in a way that gives us the right direction. When you create an external harmony, you create an internal harmony also. By loving a man outside, you love the male energy in you. When you hate a woman outside, a very important part of you, the internal female energy is also dwarfed and injured.
In everyone of us there is both a teacher and a student. Our centre is a teacher teaching us in the language of silence, in the language of purity. The student in us should learn to listen to the teaching. When we do injustice to an external teacher, we are doing injustice to a part of ourselves. By respecting both a student and a teacher outside, we respect something in us.
When there is right attitude, the wisest connection is made. For objective consciousness should include the subject, too.
Soul curry: The magic of giving
I believe everyone in their lifetime comes across a bit of magic that reminds them of the importance of the word ‘give’.
The incident, which reminded me of the well known saying “it's more blessed to give than to receive” happened a few weeks before my sister's wedding. With a heavy heart, I left the wedding cheer at home for another town to attend some important lectures. My parents had the room ready and waiting for me and as I entered, I walked into what seemed like a Christmas floral shop. Red poinsettias and other bouquets crowded the windowsill, along with a stack of cards that waited to be opened. I felt overwhelmed by the love and attention.
Just then, a voice broke into my reverie. “Hey, I'll be sharing the room with you,” said the 20-something girl who had stepped into the room. She had short, curly grey hair and brown eyes. She stared at the flowers with child-like wonder. She introduced herself as Dollie and we chatted on till it was time for dinner. Not once did she mention her family and neither did I ask. Being in her company, life suddenly seemed easier and she also continued to exclaim excitedly at the cards and flowers I continued to receive.
On our last evening together, Dollie decided to visit the market. As I walked through the room alone, I noticed for the first time the stark contrast between our sides of the room. There was Dollie's bed that stood neat and sparse except for a red candlebra with holy sprigs, which she had brought along. In fact, I realised I had never seen her getting any calls either during her stay. In contrast, my bed was filled with gifts and I was flooded with calls from friends and family.
I decided to give her something of mine as a parting gift. I looked around at the things I had and wondered if I could part with any of it. Of course, I couldn't give mom and dad's Yule log with candles, I thought.
What about the new jacket? But, then, my sister badly wanted me to wear it when I reached home. The justifications kept coming even as I climbed onto my bed, placating my guilt by promising myself to call the nearby gift shop to order some flowers for Dollie the next day.
I awoke the next morning with thoughts of returning home, with some of the guilt resurfacing as I remembered that the gift shop wouldn't open for another two days. Moreover, Dollie's train was scheduled before mine.
“I've really enjoyed getting to know you, Dollie,” I finally told her. My words were sincere but I felt guilty for not having followed up on my intentions.
To my surprise, she picked up her only possession, the red candled centre-piece, and gently laid it in my hands. “I'll miss you,” she said, giving me a big hug. “Thank you,” is all I could manage to whisper. As she left I dropped my moist eyes to the small memento in my hand...“Dollie's only gift”, I thought, “and she gave it to me.”
As I heard the doors closing behind Dollie, I knew in my heart that she possessed much more than I did.
The incident, which reminded me of the well known saying “it's more blessed to give than to receive” happened a few weeks before my sister's wedding. With a heavy heart, I left the wedding cheer at home for another town to attend some important lectures. My parents had the room ready and waiting for me and as I entered, I walked into what seemed like a Christmas floral shop. Red poinsettias and other bouquets crowded the windowsill, along with a stack of cards that waited to be opened. I felt overwhelmed by the love and attention.
Just then, a voice broke into my reverie. “Hey, I'll be sharing the room with you,” said the 20-something girl who had stepped into the room. She had short, curly grey hair and brown eyes. She stared at the flowers with child-like wonder. She introduced herself as Dollie and we chatted on till it was time for dinner. Not once did she mention her family and neither did I ask. Being in her company, life suddenly seemed easier and she also continued to exclaim excitedly at the cards and flowers I continued to receive.
On our last evening together, Dollie decided to visit the market. As I walked through the room alone, I noticed for the first time the stark contrast between our sides of the room. There was Dollie's bed that stood neat and sparse except for a red candlebra with holy sprigs, which she had brought along. In fact, I realised I had never seen her getting any calls either during her stay. In contrast, my bed was filled with gifts and I was flooded with calls from friends and family.
I decided to give her something of mine as a parting gift. I looked around at the things I had and wondered if I could part with any of it. Of course, I couldn't give mom and dad's Yule log with candles, I thought.
What about the new jacket? But, then, my sister badly wanted me to wear it when I reached home. The justifications kept coming even as I climbed onto my bed, placating my guilt by promising myself to call the nearby gift shop to order some flowers for Dollie the next day.
I awoke the next morning with thoughts of returning home, with some of the guilt resurfacing as I remembered that the gift shop wouldn't open for another two days. Moreover, Dollie's train was scheduled before mine.
“I've really enjoyed getting to know you, Dollie,” I finally told her. My words were sincere but I felt guilty for not having followed up on my intentions.
To my surprise, she picked up her only possession, the red candled centre-piece, and gently laid it in my hands. “I'll miss you,” she said, giving me a big hug. “Thank you,” is all I could manage to whisper. As she left I dropped my moist eyes to the small memento in my hand...“Dollie's only gift”, I thought, “and she gave it to me.”
As I heard the doors closing behind Dollie, I knew in my heart that she possessed much more than I did.
Mind Set: Learn to love yourself..............
Loving comes from the inside and through self acceptance we can become more loving people. This article will show you ways to be more self loving.
Stand in front of a mirror and what do you see? Where does your gaze go? Can you look yourself in the eye? Do you scan your image for flaws? Can you smile at yourself? What inner dialogue or head talk do you hear? Some people try not to listen to their inner voice thinking it is evidence that they are crazy. This is not true. The inner voice is a reflection of your beliefs and is guiding and directing your actions whether or not you are listening.
As you look in the mirror, do you focus on the piece of hair that goes its own way, a facial mark, a spot on your shirt or the size of your nose? Are your inner words full of criticism and disapproving value judgments? Are your ears only tuned to rejecting messages? Do your eyes scan past your valuable features? Is your sensitivity level turned up high to faultfinding messages or tones of voice?
Can you hear affirming words and caring messages? The ability to look at you looking back at yourself and seeing your unique and wonderful aspects is a skill necessary for a mentally positive self-concept. Notice the warmth in your smile, the tilt of your brow or the dimple in your chin. Look for the features that are part of what those who care about you know and appreciate. When you give yourself a pat on the shoulder and some encouragement, you are contributing to your own self esteem.
As you gaze at your own reflection and say different things to your self, feel the shift in your physical posture, muscle tension and facial expression. How are your muscles making your outward expression and body language different when you say critical words versus when you say positive things to yourself? Be attentive to these changes and you will start to be aware of some of the physical aches and pains you feel when you get stressed.
How do you change emotionally when you think and say words that positively support and encourage? Can you feel a sense of insecurity or sadness vs. a sense of joy and love? Think of several terms that you use to describe yourself when you are speaking to others. Listen to the words that you use to characterise your personal qualities. Say them out loud as you look into your reflection. I am ...... !
Now change some of the negative words to positive words. Could you say these statements about yourself in public? Would you classify this as selfish and bragging! Is it more acceptable to you to be derogatory and denounce your God given gifts and charming qualities? Is criticism more familiar to you than praise?
Learning to love your Self is essential in the development of the ability to act in loving ways with others. If you always focus on your own faults you will most likely highlight the shortcomings of others. The critical self-talk will spill into your conversations and you will be known as a negative person, a faultfinder. If you do tend to center on the mistakes of others, consider what was programmed into your thinking when you were growing up. How did your parents speak to you? How do you speak to your children? Are you creating fault finders?
While much of the responsibility of parenting is teaching, it need not be constant criticism. Good parenting involves accepting mistakes and teaching correct ways to live with patience and love. Were you allowed to make mistakes and learn from them when you were growing up or were there constant expectations of perfection? Were you belittled and made to feel as if you were not lovable?
Prejudice and intolerance of others reveals insecurity, rigid thinking, and fear. Often the critical person is fearful of being or doing the very thing they criticise others about, so they make a great attempt to appear perfect. Putting others down so they feel one up, is a natural way they feed and hide their sense of not really being as good as others. Behaving in this superior way is the opposite to living a life from a focus of love.
Love involves opening up of our selves, heart, mind and soul. It means we risk letting others see who we really are and trusting that we are in fact lovable. Looking at yourself in the mirror can be a scary adventure. Seeing who is looking back, straight in the eye, confronts you with your perception of the person you have become. Do you have the courage to be honest with yourself?
Love is living in the world today, and manifests in the actions of human beings. Can you see love looking back? Is the God in whom you believe a God of criticism and struggle or of acceptance and love? There is also great evil, distrust and hate alive in the world today. Violence in our society, in our homes and family relationships, reveal it. We must cast the evil out of our lives and confront with trust and courage the values that are the core of a loving life.
Love is not placid and passive. Love is passionate and active. Each small step an individual takes, to replace lies with truth, criticism with praise, fear with love, is a step to a new way of living. Live in trust that God’s support is present in your life. This is what doing the work of a loving supreme force is all about. Work with the loving force!
How much you are the person you want to be is determined by the way you act and react and the choices you make. When you take a risk and start to get to know yourself, you confront the way you carry love into the world. This confronts your faith, your trust your ability to let Love into your life. Learning to love involves learning to face your Self, and accepting responsibility to become the person you want to be. God is always there with you, like your inner dialogue, whether you are listening or not.
Being able to accept love comes when you are ready to hear loving messages from yourself and others. Are you ready? Are you listening?
Stand in front of a mirror and what do you see? Where does your gaze go? Can you look yourself in the eye? Do you scan your image for flaws? Can you smile at yourself? What inner dialogue or head talk do you hear? Some people try not to listen to their inner voice thinking it is evidence that they are crazy. This is not true. The inner voice is a reflection of your beliefs and is guiding and directing your actions whether or not you are listening.
As you look in the mirror, do you focus on the piece of hair that goes its own way, a facial mark, a spot on your shirt or the size of your nose? Are your inner words full of criticism and disapproving value judgments? Are your ears only tuned to rejecting messages? Do your eyes scan past your valuable features? Is your sensitivity level turned up high to faultfinding messages or tones of voice?
Can you hear affirming words and caring messages? The ability to look at you looking back at yourself and seeing your unique and wonderful aspects is a skill necessary for a mentally positive self-concept. Notice the warmth in your smile, the tilt of your brow or the dimple in your chin. Look for the features that are part of what those who care about you know and appreciate. When you give yourself a pat on the shoulder and some encouragement, you are contributing to your own self esteem.
As you gaze at your own reflection and say different things to your self, feel the shift in your physical posture, muscle tension and facial expression. How are your muscles making your outward expression and body language different when you say critical words versus when you say positive things to yourself? Be attentive to these changes and you will start to be aware of some of the physical aches and pains you feel when you get stressed.
How do you change emotionally when you think and say words that positively support and encourage? Can you feel a sense of insecurity or sadness vs. a sense of joy and love? Think of several terms that you use to describe yourself when you are speaking to others. Listen to the words that you use to characterise your personal qualities. Say them out loud as you look into your reflection. I am ...... !
Now change some of the negative words to positive words. Could you say these statements about yourself in public? Would you classify this as selfish and bragging! Is it more acceptable to you to be derogatory and denounce your God given gifts and charming qualities? Is criticism more familiar to you than praise?
Learning to love your Self is essential in the development of the ability to act in loving ways with others. If you always focus on your own faults you will most likely highlight the shortcomings of others. The critical self-talk will spill into your conversations and you will be known as a negative person, a faultfinder. If you do tend to center on the mistakes of others, consider what was programmed into your thinking when you were growing up. How did your parents speak to you? How do you speak to your children? Are you creating fault finders?
While much of the responsibility of parenting is teaching, it need not be constant criticism. Good parenting involves accepting mistakes and teaching correct ways to live with patience and love. Were you allowed to make mistakes and learn from them when you were growing up or were there constant expectations of perfection? Were you belittled and made to feel as if you were not lovable?
Prejudice and intolerance of others reveals insecurity, rigid thinking, and fear. Often the critical person is fearful of being or doing the very thing they criticise others about, so they make a great attempt to appear perfect. Putting others down so they feel one up, is a natural way they feed and hide their sense of not really being as good as others. Behaving in this superior way is the opposite to living a life from a focus of love.
Love involves opening up of our selves, heart, mind and soul. It means we risk letting others see who we really are and trusting that we are in fact lovable. Looking at yourself in the mirror can be a scary adventure. Seeing who is looking back, straight in the eye, confronts you with your perception of the person you have become. Do you have the courage to be honest with yourself?
Love is living in the world today, and manifests in the actions of human beings. Can you see love looking back? Is the God in whom you believe a God of criticism and struggle or of acceptance and love? There is also great evil, distrust and hate alive in the world today. Violence in our society, in our homes and family relationships, reveal it. We must cast the evil out of our lives and confront with trust and courage the values that are the core of a loving life.
Love is not placid and passive. Love is passionate and active. Each small step an individual takes, to replace lies with truth, criticism with praise, fear with love, is a step to a new way of living. Live in trust that God’s support is present in your life. This is what doing the work of a loving supreme force is all about. Work with the loving force!
How much you are the person you want to be is determined by the way you act and react and the choices you make. When you take a risk and start to get to know yourself, you confront the way you carry love into the world. This confronts your faith, your trust your ability to let Love into your life. Learning to love involves learning to face your Self, and accepting responsibility to become the person you want to be. God is always there with you, like your inner dialogue, whether you are listening or not.
Being able to accept love comes when you are ready to hear loving messages from yourself and others. Are you ready? Are you listening?
Monday, June 16, 2008
Third of men still want virgins
Almost one in three Australian men want the reality of their bride wearing a white dress down the aisle to reflect the symbolism it's supposed to represent.
Of 57,000 men polled by men's magazine FHM, 28 per cent hoped to marry a virgin, while 41 per cent wanted a bride who had five partners or fewer, and just 5 per cent wanted a bride who had slept with more than 15 men.
The survey, which ran on the magazine's website for two weeks last month, attracted mostly men in their late 20s, who had jobs and were university educated.
But the ideal may be far from reality, with 2005 research from the Australian Longitudinal Study of Health and Relationships showing that only 11 per cent of women and 5 per cent of men aged 16 to 35 had only slept with their current partner.
The same study showed Australian men aged 30 to 39 had on average 9.5 sexual partners and women in that age group, 4.7.
University of New England sexuality expert Dr Gail Hawkes said the response was "astounding". "You would not be surprised if we saw that in 1960, not 2008," Dr Hawkes said.
"We've got a suggestion in popular representations of sexuality that there aren't these restrictions and double standards in sexuality any more, and yet men are telling us there are."
Of 57,000 men polled by men's magazine FHM, 28 per cent hoped to marry a virgin, while 41 per cent wanted a bride who had five partners or fewer, and just 5 per cent wanted a bride who had slept with more than 15 men.
The survey, which ran on the magazine's website for two weeks last month, attracted mostly men in their late 20s, who had jobs and were university educated.
But the ideal may be far from reality, with 2005 research from the Australian Longitudinal Study of Health and Relationships showing that only 11 per cent of women and 5 per cent of men aged 16 to 35 had only slept with their current partner.
The same study showed Australian men aged 30 to 39 had on average 9.5 sexual partners and women in that age group, 4.7.
University of New England sexuality expert Dr Gail Hawkes said the response was "astounding". "You would not be surprised if we saw that in 1960, not 2008," Dr Hawkes said.
"We've got a suggestion in popular representations of sexuality that there aren't these restrictions and double standards in sexuality any more, and yet men are telling us there are."
What Women Want (Maybe)
LADIES! Behold the splendor of the nude male form: sleek and powerful, a miracle of sculpted sinew, striding confidently across the sand or stretching out before you in ever-uncoiling glory.
On second thought, perhaps you’d prefer not to.
So say scientists at the frontiers of research on the eternal question of what women find erotic, the latest answer to which seems to be: not naked guys, or at least not simply naked guys.
“For heterosexual women,” a researcher, Meredith Chivers, says in a new documentary about bisexuality called “Bi the Way,” which was shown at the NewFest film festival in New York last Friday, “looking at a naked man walking on the beach is about as exciting as looking at landscapes.”
Dr. Chivers, a research fellow at the Center for Addiction and Mental Health at the University of Toronto, says she has data to support this assertion. She recently published results of a study in which she showed people video clips of naked men and women in various sexual and nonsexual situations and measured their genital arousal.
Heterosexual women, Dr. Chivers and her colleagues found, were no more excited by athletic naked men doing yoga or tossing stones into the ocean than they were by the control footage: long pans of the snowcapped Himalayas. When straight women viewed a video of a naked woman doing calisthenics, on the other hand, their blood flow increased significantly.
What really matters to women, Dr. Chivers said, at least in the somewhat artificial setting of watching movies while intimately hooked up to a device called a photoplethysmograph, is not the gender of the actor, but the degree of sensuality. Even more than the naked exercisers, they were aroused by videos of masturbation, and more still by graphic videos of couples making love. Women with women, men with men, men with women: it did not seem to matter much to her female subjects, Dr. Chivers said.
“Women physically don’t seem to differentiate between genders in their sex responses, at least heterosexual women don’t,” she said. “For heterosexual women, gender didn’t matter. They responded to the level of activity.”
Dr. Chivers’s work adds to a growing body of scientific evidence that places female sexuality along a continuum between heterosexuality and homosexuality, rather than as an either-or phenomenon.
“She’s pinpointing what’s kind of obvious, and yet unexplored: that women are so fluid in their sexuality,” one of the directors of “Bi the Way,” Josephine Decker, said at an after-party for the screening at a Russian-themed gay bar in Midtown.
Even in a culture that often cycles through moments of bisexual chic — Britney and Madonna, make way for Lindsay Lohan and Samantha Ronson (photographed smooching in Cannes, France) — and despite survey data showing that young people, in particular, are open to sexual experimentation, bisexuality still tends to be treated as a novelty, a titillating fluke, a phase or even a cover for homosexuality. Dr. Chivers herself was an author of a 2005 study using similar methods that found that men who called themselves bisexual were significantly more aroused by one gender, usually by men.
But women, some researchers say, are fundamentally different. A University of Utah researcher, Lisa M. Diamond, published a study in January in the journal Developmental Psychology that followed the love lives of 79 nonheterosexual women who variously labeled themselves lesbian, bisexual or none-of-the-above. Over 10 years, Dr. Diamond found, the women continued to be attracted to both sexes.
Women’s response to images of coupling extends even to other species, Dr. Chivers found. In a 2004 experiment, and again in the recent study, published in the December 2007 Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Dr. Chivers and her colleagues found women slightly but significantly aroused by footage of bonobo chimps mating. Men showed no such response.
And when Dr. Chivers asked her subjects to rate their own arousal to the videos they watched, the women, whether gay or straight, tended to give higher ratings to films showing women. “Heterosexual women are responding to women, which is counterintuitive,” Dr. Chivers said. “Why are women so turned on by watching other women?” Straight and gay men, as well as lesbians, were more predictably aroused by images of their preferred sex, Dr. Chivers found.
On second thought, perhaps you’d prefer not to.
So say scientists at the frontiers of research on the eternal question of what women find erotic, the latest answer to which seems to be: not naked guys, or at least not simply naked guys.
“For heterosexual women,” a researcher, Meredith Chivers, says in a new documentary about bisexuality called “Bi the Way,” which was shown at the NewFest film festival in New York last Friday, “looking at a naked man walking on the beach is about as exciting as looking at landscapes.”
Dr. Chivers, a research fellow at the Center for Addiction and Mental Health at the University of Toronto, says she has data to support this assertion. She recently published results of a study in which she showed people video clips of naked men and women in various sexual and nonsexual situations and measured their genital arousal.
Heterosexual women, Dr. Chivers and her colleagues found, were no more excited by athletic naked men doing yoga or tossing stones into the ocean than they were by the control footage: long pans of the snowcapped Himalayas. When straight women viewed a video of a naked woman doing calisthenics, on the other hand, their blood flow increased significantly.
What really matters to women, Dr. Chivers said, at least in the somewhat artificial setting of watching movies while intimately hooked up to a device called a photoplethysmograph, is not the gender of the actor, but the degree of sensuality. Even more than the naked exercisers, they were aroused by videos of masturbation, and more still by graphic videos of couples making love. Women with women, men with men, men with women: it did not seem to matter much to her female subjects, Dr. Chivers said.
“Women physically don’t seem to differentiate between genders in their sex responses, at least heterosexual women don’t,” she said. “For heterosexual women, gender didn’t matter. They responded to the level of activity.”
Dr. Chivers’s work adds to a growing body of scientific evidence that places female sexuality along a continuum between heterosexuality and homosexuality, rather than as an either-or phenomenon.
“She’s pinpointing what’s kind of obvious, and yet unexplored: that women are so fluid in their sexuality,” one of the directors of “Bi the Way,” Josephine Decker, said at an after-party for the screening at a Russian-themed gay bar in Midtown.
Even in a culture that often cycles through moments of bisexual chic — Britney and Madonna, make way for Lindsay Lohan and Samantha Ronson (photographed smooching in Cannes, France) — and despite survey data showing that young people, in particular, are open to sexual experimentation, bisexuality still tends to be treated as a novelty, a titillating fluke, a phase or even a cover for homosexuality. Dr. Chivers herself was an author of a 2005 study using similar methods that found that men who called themselves bisexual were significantly more aroused by one gender, usually by men.
But women, some researchers say, are fundamentally different. A University of Utah researcher, Lisa M. Diamond, published a study in January in the journal Developmental Psychology that followed the love lives of 79 nonheterosexual women who variously labeled themselves lesbian, bisexual or none-of-the-above. Over 10 years, Dr. Diamond found, the women continued to be attracted to both sexes.
Women’s response to images of coupling extends even to other species, Dr. Chivers found. In a 2004 experiment, and again in the recent study, published in the December 2007 Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Dr. Chivers and her colleagues found women slightly but significantly aroused by footage of bonobo chimps mating. Men showed no such response.
And when Dr. Chivers asked her subjects to rate their own arousal to the videos they watched, the women, whether gay or straight, tended to give higher ratings to films showing women. “Heterosexual women are responding to women, which is counterintuitive,” Dr. Chivers said. “Why are women so turned on by watching other women?” Straight and gay men, as well as lesbians, were more predictably aroused by images of their preferred sex, Dr. Chivers found.
Friday, June 13, 2008
Battle of proverbs
Two old friends, famous for talking or conversing with proverbs during their college days; met each other after a decade in a very very busy market place.
Jayu: Long time, no see. How are you?
Veeru (mood of same proverb chat with old friend): As fresh as milk milked from cow. How are you?
Jayu (got the signal): Fit from the milk from that same cow. How did you recognize me in this crowd?
Veeru: Just like camel standing amidst of flock of sheep. How about you?
Jayu: Crows are everywhere and equally black.
Veeru: HAHHAHAHA…. I have heard that your mouth is as sharp as dagger but heart as soft as sponge.
Jayu: If you bow at all, bow low. Anyways, how is job?
Veeru: An overcrowded chicken farm produces fewer eggs. How about you?
Jayu: Without rice, even the cleverest housewife cannot cook. What exactly you do at job?
Veeru: Those who got free seats at play; will hiss first. Heard you are doing great at work, what is going on?
Jayu: Nothing great my friend. It is just behind an able man, there is always other able man who works for him. So got married? Heard she is beautiful.
Veeru: Yeah but it is like falling in ditch to become wiser. A beautiful woman without wisdom is like a pig with a golden ring in its nose. What you say?
Jayu: In my case, beggars can’t be chooser. My parents view is beauty is skin deep. How about you? Heard it was love marriage.
Veeru: Love is blind and I realized this just like the frog in well shaft seeing the sky and thinking this is world. How was your honeymoon?
Jayu: (sighs). We had bad experience. We can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them to drink. What about you? Where you went for honeymoon?
Veeru: Same is the case my friend. Atleast you had nice time together, in my case it was like Donkey's lips do not fit onto a horse's mouth.
Jayu: Don’t be so upset. All that glitters is not gold. How is life?
Veeru: Life is like dream walking and going home is like death inviting
Jayu: So you are afraid of your wife? Is it?
Veeru: You can say so it is like once bitten by a snake, he/she is scared all his/her life at the mere sight of a rope
Jayu: About me, we dream different dream while on same bed.
Veeru: I can understand your problem. A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials
Jayu: Heard some years ago you were in financial crisis but today you are well doing and rich. Was it like Fool and money are soon parted after marriage?
Veeru: I was fool marrying her and spending money like water flowing but now my overweight wife and me being rich is same as a horse cannot gain weight if not fed with extra fodder; a man cannot become wealthy without earnings apart from his regular salaries. What you say?
Jayu: Yeah you are right, Money burns hole in your pocket.
Veeru: We both learned from our married life just like barber learns by shaving fools.
Jayu: Laugh and the world laughs with you; cry and you cry alone.
Veeru: Let’s have dinner together. It is better to eat soup with friends than steak with the enemy (wife).
Jayu: HAHAHA. Every dog has a day. Good idea !
Veeru: Be cautious later at home because longer the night last, more our dream will be.
Jayu: Yeah you are right. One should be just as careful in choosing one's pleasures as in avoiding calamities.
After reaching hotel;
Veeru: Before ordering for dinner I would like to mention if you must play, decide on three things at the start: the rules of he game, the stakes, and the quitting time
Jayu: I understand only when all contribute their firewood they can build up a strong fire. Don’t worry we will contribute equally for our dinner bill.
Veeru: (seeing high rates of menu items) Jayu, it is better when we have only two pennies left in the pocket, buy a loaf of bread with one, and a lily with the other (wife)
Jayu: You cannot have your cake and eat it too. (You cannot save money and enjoy having dinner at 5 star hotel)
Veeru: But remember rules, you should not change the horse in middle of the stream.
After having given the order to waiter;
Jayu: With time and patience the mulberry leaf becomes a silk gown. Where is our order?
Veeru: We had ordered Chef Choice today. Man who waits for roast duck to fly into mouth must wait very, very long time
They had wonderful dinner and were about to depart for home.
Jayu: It’s too late now. Better plan an excuse for wife. When you fail to plan; you plan to fail.
Veeru: Yeah. Wise man thinks ahead. A Fool doesn’t and even brags about it.
Both reached home and well prepared wife had blast. Jayu calls Veeru and conversation over phone.
Jayu: It is easy to dodge a spear that comes in front of you but hard to keep harms away from an arrow shot from behind. How about you? Hope you are fine.
Veeru: Today I realized why wise people says “Action speaks louder than words”
Jayu: Before I reached home, it is curiosity already killed the cat.
Veeru: In my case, I had lifted the stone only to drop at own feet.
Jayu: We should govern our family as we cook small fish – very gently. Is your wife cool now?
Veeru: How can you put out a fire set on a cart-load of firewood with only a cup of water? What you did?
Jayu: Of all the thirty-six alternatives, running away was best.
Veeru: It’s almost midnight. We should not cry over the split milk. Lets go for sleep now.
Jayu: Yeah. When in Rome, do as Roman do. Good Night.
Both went to sleep to wake up next day alive, fresh and fit.
Jayu: Long time, no see. How are you?
Veeru (mood of same proverb chat with old friend): As fresh as milk milked from cow. How are you?
Jayu (got the signal): Fit from the milk from that same cow. How did you recognize me in this crowd?
Veeru: Just like camel standing amidst of flock of sheep. How about you?
Jayu: Crows are everywhere and equally black.
Veeru: HAHHAHAHA…. I have heard that your mouth is as sharp as dagger but heart as soft as sponge.
Jayu: If you bow at all, bow low. Anyways, how is job?
Veeru: An overcrowded chicken farm produces fewer eggs. How about you?
Jayu: Without rice, even the cleverest housewife cannot cook. What exactly you do at job?
Veeru: Those who got free seats at play; will hiss first. Heard you are doing great at work, what is going on?
Jayu: Nothing great my friend. It is just behind an able man, there is always other able man who works for him. So got married? Heard she is beautiful.
Veeru: Yeah but it is like falling in ditch to become wiser. A beautiful woman without wisdom is like a pig with a golden ring in its nose. What you say?
Jayu: In my case, beggars can’t be chooser. My parents view is beauty is skin deep. How about you? Heard it was love marriage.
Veeru: Love is blind and I realized this just like the frog in well shaft seeing the sky and thinking this is world. How was your honeymoon?
Jayu: (sighs). We had bad experience. We can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them to drink. What about you? Where you went for honeymoon?
Veeru: Same is the case my friend. Atleast you had nice time together, in my case it was like Donkey's lips do not fit onto a horse's mouth.
Jayu: Don’t be so upset. All that glitters is not gold. How is life?
Veeru: Life is like dream walking and going home is like death inviting
Jayu: So you are afraid of your wife? Is it?
Veeru: You can say so it is like once bitten by a snake, he/she is scared all his/her life at the mere sight of a rope
Jayu: About me, we dream different dream while on same bed.
Veeru: I can understand your problem. A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials
Jayu: Heard some years ago you were in financial crisis but today you are well doing and rich. Was it like Fool and money are soon parted after marriage?
Veeru: I was fool marrying her and spending money like water flowing but now my overweight wife and me being rich is same as a horse cannot gain weight if not fed with extra fodder; a man cannot become wealthy without earnings apart from his regular salaries. What you say?
Jayu: Yeah you are right, Money burns hole in your pocket.
Veeru: We both learned from our married life just like barber learns by shaving fools.
Jayu: Laugh and the world laughs with you; cry and you cry alone.
Veeru: Let’s have dinner together. It is better to eat soup with friends than steak with the enemy (wife).
Jayu: HAHAHA. Every dog has a day. Good idea !
Veeru: Be cautious later at home because longer the night last, more our dream will be.
Jayu: Yeah you are right. One should be just as careful in choosing one's pleasures as in avoiding calamities.
After reaching hotel;
Veeru: Before ordering for dinner I would like to mention if you must play, decide on three things at the start: the rules of he game, the stakes, and the quitting time
Jayu: I understand only when all contribute their firewood they can build up a strong fire. Don’t worry we will contribute equally for our dinner bill.
Veeru: (seeing high rates of menu items) Jayu, it is better when we have only two pennies left in the pocket, buy a loaf of bread with one, and a lily with the other (wife)
Jayu: You cannot have your cake and eat it too. (You cannot save money and enjoy having dinner at 5 star hotel)
Veeru: But remember rules, you should not change the horse in middle of the stream.
After having given the order to waiter;
Jayu: With time and patience the mulberry leaf becomes a silk gown. Where is our order?
Veeru: We had ordered Chef Choice today. Man who waits for roast duck to fly into mouth must wait very, very long time
They had wonderful dinner and were about to depart for home.
Jayu: It’s too late now. Better plan an excuse for wife. When you fail to plan; you plan to fail.
Veeru: Yeah. Wise man thinks ahead. A Fool doesn’t and even brags about it.
Both reached home and well prepared wife had blast. Jayu calls Veeru and conversation over phone.
Jayu: It is easy to dodge a spear that comes in front of you but hard to keep harms away from an arrow shot from behind. How about you? Hope you are fine.
Veeru: Today I realized why wise people says “Action speaks louder than words”
Jayu: Before I reached home, it is curiosity already killed the cat.
Veeru: In my case, I had lifted the stone only to drop at own feet.
Jayu: We should govern our family as we cook small fish – very gently. Is your wife cool now?
Veeru: How can you put out a fire set on a cart-load of firewood with only a cup of water? What you did?
Jayu: Of all the thirty-six alternatives, running away was best.
Veeru: It’s almost midnight. We should not cry over the split milk. Lets go for sleep now.
Jayu: Yeah. When in Rome, do as Roman do. Good Night.
Both went to sleep to wake up next day alive, fresh and fit.
Dil Pe Mat Le Yaar
At times you feel deserted in crowd; no colour touches your heart, world seems to be so silent, moron and clouded with sadness, eyes so occupied with tears which sinks you further in the sea of sorrow and shadow of darkness covers you completely. You are so aloof that even the thinnest ray of hope is not able to reach you. You are in the world of depression just bcos you have been cheated, back stabbed, insult, own mistake, love or embarrassment. AND all these is in your perception or misunderstanding or small matter or wrong assumption AND this goes for day or week or months or even years. Each day is new life and enjoy it to the full. You have to choose between positive and negative vibrations. You can be happy, joyful and making most out of life with positive vibration and can be sad, moron and dull with negative vibration. It all depends on how you handle all the negative vibration which have chain reaction from your heart to brain. For every negative thought touches you for which your reaction should be like “Dil Pe Mat Le Yaar”; positive aspect and vibration maintains your happiness and joy through out your new day life. So Cheers and don’t let small or even tiny negative vibration touch you and spoil your whole new day life. HAVE AN ATTITUDE OF “DIL PE MAT LE YAAR”, CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY AND BE SURROUNDED WITH POSITIVE VIBRATIONS.
Feeling in LOVE..............
It was and is not a dream
An angel came to me
Face so glowing
Eyes so sparkling
Dress studded with stars
Crown shining with moon arch
She sat beside me
And her soft hands hold me
Together we flew so high
Thru the clouds and blue sky
To the new world so beautiful
Wonderful and more colourful
Garden is greener than been ever
Rose never seen much rosier
Silver lining on grass top over
Nightingale voice is sweeter than anyone hear
Lovebirds chirping here and there
Dolphin flapping to music of water
Under the soothing golden ray
We dance with colours of rainbow
Singing, enjoying
And cuddling in each other arms
Her tender hug and gentle kiss
Gave me the feeling of eternal bliss
She made me feel so special
Divine and so lovable
My world and myself
got new essence of life
When her lovely lips
Whispered to me “I LOVE YOU”
It was and is not a dream
An angel came to me
Face so glowing
Eyes so sparkling
Dress studded with stars
Crown shining with moon arch
An angel came to me
Face so glowing
Eyes so sparkling
Dress studded with stars
Crown shining with moon arch
She sat beside me
And her soft hands hold me
Together we flew so high
Thru the clouds and blue sky
To the new world so beautiful
Wonderful and more colourful
Garden is greener than been ever
Rose never seen much rosier
Silver lining on grass top over
Nightingale voice is sweeter than anyone hear
Lovebirds chirping here and there
Dolphin flapping to music of water
Under the soothing golden ray
We dance with colours of rainbow
Singing, enjoying
And cuddling in each other arms
Her tender hug and gentle kiss
Gave me the feeling of eternal bliss
She made me feel so special
Divine and so lovable
My world and myself
got new essence of life
When her lovely lips
Whispered to me “I LOVE YOU”
It was and is not a dream
An angel came to me
Face so glowing
Eyes so sparkling
Dress studded with stars
Crown shining with moon arch
TADA Waterfall
It was 5 AM on 18th August. Eyes were trying to wake up and get ready for the adventure waiting for the day. Struggling hard, got up and making sure that our F.R.I.E.N.D.S gang are also awake; called and informed to be ready by 6 AM. Qualis arrived at sharp 5:30 AM. I took extra clothes, camera and indispensable mobile phone.
6 AM First call to Debdeep, to be at Vadapalani Main Road; on the way I confirmed that Car has CD player. Deb came with huge bag of his size with lots of essential things inside. It would be good enough to say most important and essential bag (Bag full of biscuits, chip, and jam for our lunch at TADA Waterfall). Second call to Mohan, main culprit to delay the trip by half an hour. Deepak called me and was expecting us to have reached his house as decided. Culprit Mohan came in sight and was walking along with his friend Prashant. We left towards Deepak home around 6:30 AM. Third call to Deepak informing him that we are on the way to his house and not to worry much. Deepak and Divyanshu joined to complete our F.R.I.E.N.D.S gang. We planned to depart towards TADA at 6 AM, but thanks to our Mohan Smiling Face of gang; we departed at 7 AM.
Front seat near driver was occupied by me, middle row by Debdeep, Mohan and Prashant and Last Bencher were Deepak and Divyanshu. Thanks to traffic, we were able to cross the city limit within 45 minutes. We were having fun in car, music, gossip, company stories and love stories (developing, under-construction, work-in-progress, on-job, etc.). Bulls eyes Target were Mohan and me. We all were enjoying all of these. We had stop at town 25 Kms away from TADA, to have some breakfast (Dosa, Idli, Poori, and Tea). Debdeep and Prashant were refreshing themselves with their cigarettes.
We were on the way to TADA and were enjoying scenic views from both sides. Mountain, green fields, smooth road, etc. Climate too was supporting us and adding flavor to our joy and complements to the view, we were enjoying from car. Cool breeze, music, F.R.I.E.N.D.S. and smooth drive towards destination. What else one needs to enjoy trip like this!!!! It is just the beginning towards TADA. You can enjoy this atleast 8-10 Kms while driving towards TADA waterfalls.
Real ride begins when Qualis too has to struggle to drive further around 2-3 kms on rocky path. Trust me, you will enjoy this too. Finally we reached a point, where car cannot go further and you have start walking towards TADA waterfalls. There was cool stream flowing at starting point and it was nice scenic view. We all got ready with our bags.
Lights, Camera and Actions. Sounds like Film Locations; yeah true but not for film, it is for adventure trip to begin. Natural Light, Soothing Climate, Camera was ready with me and Action to start trekking. Trekking Action started by Debdeep. You have to see him to believe the way he was looking as if he had already jogged around 4-5 kms.
Way towards TADA waterfall is really adventurous; very thin lane guiding you the way. It is rocky thin lane, bushes, trees and huge rock either side. Some portion of path is like walking on the desert sand. You have to walk for around 2-3 kms to reach first rest point. Cool Streams flowing and enough space to have camp fire and take rest for while. Huge Rocks either side, forest environment, rattling sound of snakes. You will enjoy if anyone makes Tarzan or Adivasi culture voice in such atmosphere. Going through these environments, one may think whether they are on right track or lost in jungle. Songs like “Kadam Tu Badhai Ja” “Hain Yehi Raastha Hai Tera” “Do Pyar Karne Wale Jungle Main Kho Jaye” “Dheere Dheere Chalna” “Babuji Jera Dheere Chalo” “Phatli hai Kamar” would come to your mind and will refresh your minds while singing.
We were surprised to see one family selling water pouches, snacks, etc… They were around 5-6 kms away from the car (initial point from where we started walking towards TADA waterfalls) or say around 15-20 kms from nearby town. There is small temple of Shivji. This was our second rest point and having some channa packets, we again begin our trekking.
There was one point where we felt that this is final but I and deepak were much curious to know what is further and how to go further. We crack down the way to go further and lead our gang to come. It was climbing on huge rocks and reaching the other side of it. It was really good experience. Then came one small waterfall, we thought this would be final, but again we were curious to go further. I and Debdeep climb huge rocks whether to know is there anything or this is final destination. I and Debdeep climbed that rocks with great difficulty and infact we also have to shrunk ourselves and go in between of two huge rocks to reach other side. What we feel was like reaching heaven! What a view! Cool Stream with duo colour (blue initially and deep or say further ahead its colour was dark green). Water is as clear as Bisleri water. So Pure and clean!
This was final destination. We shouted out of excitement “At last we reach final destination of TADA Waterfalls” After walking for around 5-6 kms in around 3 hours, reaching here was heaven. One has to see it, feel it, enjoy it and believe it. We enjoyed cool water and refreshing ourselves inside the stream. It was deep further down. It would be more than 8 ft deep. After half an hour, we came out, get ready to start towards our car.
It was easy to climb rock and trek further on but while returning back, it would be difficult and one has to recollect the path. Deepak was excited to sit under the stream shower (waterfall). Initially we were reluctant because just now we have changed our clothes and again to go. It was tempting and we went to enjoy the shower. Word like “Wow” “Wonderful” “Mazaa Aa gaya” would come out of your mouth as soon as you are under the stream shower. Thanks to Deepak who persuaded us to enjoy this shower else we would not have experience such wonderful.
We came down and unpacked our most important bag (Debdeep Bag) to have snacks. Fun and interesting part of snacks was biscuit, Lays Chip and Jam. There was no bread. We enjoyed unique combination of Biscuit – Jam & Lays Chip – Jam. It do taste good, No one can eat just one. After snacks, we packed our bags, got ready and back to trekking down the rocks to reach our starting point where our car was parked. Mohan seems to be much tried; every now and then he loses balances on rock. Thank god, he did not hurt himself much.
We trekked down to the car and had great adventurous day. Hungry, tired yet enthusiastic. We went to same hotel (we went for breakfast) and had our lunch around 5 PM and non-stop to Chennai. We reached Chennai around 6 PM; dropped our gang F.R.I.E.N.D.S. members to their home.
Adventurous Day! Wonderful Day! Wow Day!
6 AM First call to Debdeep, to be at Vadapalani Main Road; on the way I confirmed that Car has CD player. Deb came with huge bag of his size with lots of essential things inside. It would be good enough to say most important and essential bag (Bag full of biscuits, chip, and jam for our lunch at TADA Waterfall). Second call to Mohan, main culprit to delay the trip by half an hour. Deepak called me and was expecting us to have reached his house as decided. Culprit Mohan came in sight and was walking along with his friend Prashant. We left towards Deepak home around 6:30 AM. Third call to Deepak informing him that we are on the way to his house and not to worry much. Deepak and Divyanshu joined to complete our F.R.I.E.N.D.S gang. We planned to depart towards TADA at 6 AM, but thanks to our Mohan Smiling Face of gang; we departed at 7 AM.
Front seat near driver was occupied by me, middle row by Debdeep, Mohan and Prashant and Last Bencher were Deepak and Divyanshu. Thanks to traffic, we were able to cross the city limit within 45 minutes. We were having fun in car, music, gossip, company stories and love stories (developing, under-construction, work-in-progress, on-job, etc.). Bulls eyes Target were Mohan and me. We all were enjoying all of these. We had stop at town 25 Kms away from TADA, to have some breakfast (Dosa, Idli, Poori, and Tea). Debdeep and Prashant were refreshing themselves with their cigarettes.
We were on the way to TADA and were enjoying scenic views from both sides. Mountain, green fields, smooth road, etc. Climate too was supporting us and adding flavor to our joy and complements to the view, we were enjoying from car. Cool breeze, music, F.R.I.E.N.D.S. and smooth drive towards destination. What else one needs to enjoy trip like this!!!! It is just the beginning towards TADA. You can enjoy this atleast 8-10 Kms while driving towards TADA waterfalls.
Real ride begins when Qualis too has to struggle to drive further around 2-3 kms on rocky path. Trust me, you will enjoy this too. Finally we reached a point, where car cannot go further and you have start walking towards TADA waterfalls. There was cool stream flowing at starting point and it was nice scenic view. We all got ready with our bags.
Lights, Camera and Actions. Sounds like Film Locations; yeah true but not for film, it is for adventure trip to begin. Natural Light, Soothing Climate, Camera was ready with me and Action to start trekking. Trekking Action started by Debdeep. You have to see him to believe the way he was looking as if he had already jogged around 4-5 kms.
Way towards TADA waterfall is really adventurous; very thin lane guiding you the way. It is rocky thin lane, bushes, trees and huge rock either side. Some portion of path is like walking on the desert sand. You have to walk for around 2-3 kms to reach first rest point. Cool Streams flowing and enough space to have camp fire and take rest for while. Huge Rocks either side, forest environment, rattling sound of snakes. You will enjoy if anyone makes Tarzan or Adivasi culture voice in such atmosphere. Going through these environments, one may think whether they are on right track or lost in jungle. Songs like “Kadam Tu Badhai Ja” “Hain Yehi Raastha Hai Tera” “Do Pyar Karne Wale Jungle Main Kho Jaye” “Dheere Dheere Chalna” “Babuji Jera Dheere Chalo” “Phatli hai Kamar” would come to your mind and will refresh your minds while singing.
We were surprised to see one family selling water pouches, snacks, etc… They were around 5-6 kms away from the car (initial point from where we started walking towards TADA waterfalls) or say around 15-20 kms from nearby town. There is small temple of Shivji. This was our second rest point and having some channa packets, we again begin our trekking.
There was one point where we felt that this is final but I and deepak were much curious to know what is further and how to go further. We crack down the way to go further and lead our gang to come. It was climbing on huge rocks and reaching the other side of it. It was really good experience. Then came one small waterfall, we thought this would be final, but again we were curious to go further. I and Debdeep climb huge rocks whether to know is there anything or this is final destination. I and Debdeep climbed that rocks with great difficulty and infact we also have to shrunk ourselves and go in between of two huge rocks to reach other side. What we feel was like reaching heaven! What a view! Cool Stream with duo colour (blue initially and deep or say further ahead its colour was dark green). Water is as clear as Bisleri water. So Pure and clean!
This was final destination. We shouted out of excitement “At last we reach final destination of TADA Waterfalls” After walking for around 5-6 kms in around 3 hours, reaching here was heaven. One has to see it, feel it, enjoy it and believe it. We enjoyed cool water and refreshing ourselves inside the stream. It was deep further down. It would be more than 8 ft deep. After half an hour, we came out, get ready to start towards our car.
It was easy to climb rock and trek further on but while returning back, it would be difficult and one has to recollect the path. Deepak was excited to sit under the stream shower (waterfall). Initially we were reluctant because just now we have changed our clothes and again to go. It was tempting and we went to enjoy the shower. Word like “Wow” “Wonderful” “Mazaa Aa gaya” would come out of your mouth as soon as you are under the stream shower. Thanks to Deepak who persuaded us to enjoy this shower else we would not have experience such wonderful.
We came down and unpacked our most important bag (Debdeep Bag) to have snacks. Fun and interesting part of snacks was biscuit, Lays Chip and Jam. There was no bread. We enjoyed unique combination of Biscuit – Jam & Lays Chip – Jam. It do taste good, No one can eat just one. After snacks, we packed our bags, got ready and back to trekking down the rocks to reach our starting point where our car was parked. Mohan seems to be much tried; every now and then he loses balances on rock. Thank god, he did not hurt himself much.
We trekked down to the car and had great adventurous day. Hungry, tired yet enthusiastic. We went to same hotel (we went for breakfast) and had our lunch around 5 PM and non-stop to Chennai. We reached Chennai around 6 PM; dropped our gang F.R.I.E.N.D.S. members to their home.
Adventurous Day! Wonderful Day! Wow Day!
Just Good Friends (Gal & Guy) ! ! ! !
Relationship which interest most to outside world is friendship and love. Most talked about, gossip, interesting talks, conversation, etc are about friendship and love. To add more spice in friendship relation is when gal and guy are involved. Love, of course; I shall assume it is between gal and guy. We find this relationship more happening topic for gossip or say most talked about in our day to day life. What are they up to? Where are they going? How was their date? What will be special today on occasion? etc…
There have been many such stories around you. I shall share few of them to make this topic more interesting (as I said, this relationship is more talked about and creates more curiosity to know more about couple whether friends or in love).
Akdoo as his friends call him. He is Jack of all trades but king of none. He has learned many lessons from defeats in life though determined to succeed at least once. Right from his school days, he was very much fantasized with gal and of course was friend of many. In each gal, he finds love without knowing meaning of love. It was mainly infatuation which drove him most towards them to propose. His friends always have curiosity with his relationship with girls. Whether it is just friendship or is more than friendship (love)? Whenever his friends ask him, he famous dialogue “I am not in picture” “We are just good friends” “Nothing like this going on”. He does not want to let the cat go out of box (secret) for world outside. He does not like to reveal his relationship with other gals. He use to leg pull others and having said something about him, he replies “I am not in picture” means he is not doing so and nor looking as girl as friend or as lover. What a bad liar! Everybody can see how many girls (in office, itself his friends can see more than 3 girls; god knows how many girls he is involved outside office) he is talking, chatting, sms, etc…. It is only that they (gals) take him as friends but this guy wants to go forward (for which he do not have guts).
Mougli was simple and straight forward guy. He did fall in love once and as this relationship couldn’t go further and was one sided. He began to create distance from gals. His friends know him like this but unaware of the twist in his life. Cinderella came in her life and changed his lifestyle completely. Bunking office, freak out at fast-food corners, beaches and even pubs. It all started with HI/HELLO type friends; gradually and slowly it is grew stronger and stronger. Things which he don’t even dare to do with us and are now normal for him when she is in his company and giving full attention to him and duo (couple) is alone and enjoying the moments. Though Cinderella has many suitors to woo her, Cinderella likes Mougli cutest and innocent face. His friend had cautioned our Mougli that though Cinderella likes him most and is fond of him; don’t misunderstand it with love. It is just friendship and not love and this friendship cannot go further for love bonding.
Pakdoo was guy who doesn’t cares and bother much for girl. He genuinely got into friendship with a girl and was trying to grow this relationship stronger but god had not paved his way through. He had mishap and with that relationship with gal went sour. He still repents and curse friend for that mishap which changed his life and also relationship with gal. Sometime later, he got mingled with new gal. Some feel jealous and some feel what is going on between them. They not only exchange mails but also sms (if got noticed by mail), chat regularly and even gifts nowadays. What to say about their friendship? So pure but “Dal mai kuch kala hai” is what his friends say. Our friend is getting more and more fond of her and has soft corner too. Everyone in office can guess what is going on? Where is going on? But yes, Pakdoo is cautious for moving forward in relationship. He says “She is just good friend of mine” though she has occupied special place in his heart.
Babloo, is famous in gals as his friend mentions. He do not discriminate any gals for friendship. He likes the companies of gals. But babloo says it is not so, they are friends and nothing more than that. If they likes chatting with me or talking with me what is my fault. He is Flirt number uno. He do not believe in love but yes, has more friends in gals than other his other friends. There had been many times where others have linked babloo with many gals because he talks, chat and keep good relationship with them. His friends are even trying to link with his married young looking instructor. Just a matter of second from the time, a gal name spelled out of his mouth; everybody near by is interested to know more about relationship and gal. Babloo statement is “we are good friends”. Of course, world sees him as Flirt and Casanova.
Let’s come back to our discussion from these fictitious 4 friends stories. Point here I would like to make is nowadays world sees two good friends (gal and guy) are searching love in each other which may not be true. It can happen that friendship ends with love but this is not true for other 98% of such duo friends. Some may try to find love in friend, some may assume love shown by friend which is not so, some flirts but not want to fall in love and some are genuine good friends.
Be honest with your opinion what you think when you see duo (gal and guy) a very good friends?
There have been many such stories around you. I shall share few of them to make this topic more interesting (as I said, this relationship is more talked about and creates more curiosity to know more about couple whether friends or in love).
Akdoo as his friends call him. He is Jack of all trades but king of none. He has learned many lessons from defeats in life though determined to succeed at least once. Right from his school days, he was very much fantasized with gal and of course was friend of many. In each gal, he finds love without knowing meaning of love. It was mainly infatuation which drove him most towards them to propose. His friends always have curiosity with his relationship with girls. Whether it is just friendship or is more than friendship (love)? Whenever his friends ask him, he famous dialogue “I am not in picture” “We are just good friends” “Nothing like this going on”. He does not want to let the cat go out of box (secret) for world outside. He does not like to reveal his relationship with other gals. He use to leg pull others and having said something about him, he replies “I am not in picture” means he is not doing so and nor looking as girl as friend or as lover. What a bad liar! Everybody can see how many girls (in office, itself his friends can see more than 3 girls; god knows how many girls he is involved outside office) he is talking, chatting, sms, etc…. It is only that they (gals) take him as friends but this guy wants to go forward (for which he do not have guts).
Mougli was simple and straight forward guy. He did fall in love once and as this relationship couldn’t go further and was one sided. He began to create distance from gals. His friends know him like this but unaware of the twist in his life. Cinderella came in her life and changed his lifestyle completely. Bunking office, freak out at fast-food corners, beaches and even pubs. It all started with HI/HELLO type friends; gradually and slowly it is grew stronger and stronger. Things which he don’t even dare to do with us and are now normal for him when she is in his company and giving full attention to him and duo (couple) is alone and enjoying the moments. Though Cinderella has many suitors to woo her, Cinderella likes Mougli cutest and innocent face. His friend had cautioned our Mougli that though Cinderella likes him most and is fond of him; don’t misunderstand it with love. It is just friendship and not love and this friendship cannot go further for love bonding.
Pakdoo was guy who doesn’t cares and bother much for girl. He genuinely got into friendship with a girl and was trying to grow this relationship stronger but god had not paved his way through. He had mishap and with that relationship with gal went sour. He still repents and curse friend for that mishap which changed his life and also relationship with gal. Sometime later, he got mingled with new gal. Some feel jealous and some feel what is going on between them. They not only exchange mails but also sms (if got noticed by mail), chat regularly and even gifts nowadays. What to say about their friendship? So pure but “Dal mai kuch kala hai” is what his friends say. Our friend is getting more and more fond of her and has soft corner too. Everyone in office can guess what is going on? Where is going on? But yes, Pakdoo is cautious for moving forward in relationship. He says “She is just good friend of mine” though she has occupied special place in his heart.
Babloo, is famous in gals as his friend mentions. He do not discriminate any gals for friendship. He likes the companies of gals. But babloo says it is not so, they are friends and nothing more than that. If they likes chatting with me or talking with me what is my fault. He is Flirt number uno. He do not believe in love but yes, has more friends in gals than other his other friends. There had been many times where others have linked babloo with many gals because he talks, chat and keep good relationship with them. His friends are even trying to link with his married young looking instructor. Just a matter of second from the time, a gal name spelled out of his mouth; everybody near by is interested to know more about relationship and gal. Babloo statement is “we are good friends”. Of course, world sees him as Flirt and Casanova.
Let’s come back to our discussion from these fictitious 4 friends stories. Point here I would like to make is nowadays world sees two good friends (gal and guy) are searching love in each other which may not be true. It can happen that friendship ends with love but this is not true for other 98% of such duo friends. Some may try to find love in friend, some may assume love shown by friend which is not so, some flirts but not want to fall in love and some are genuine good friends.
Be honest with your opinion what you think when you see duo (gal and guy) a very good friends?
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Guy n Gal : Can they be just friends? |
Can a guy and a gal ever be just friends? This is an eternal question in the minds of Indian people. Whenever you see a guy and a gal together, the first thing that comes on your mind is - 'they must be seeing each other'. As if there is no other possible relation between Hum Tum. How far are these assumption justified?
I have several female friends but in contrast to the popular belief, they are not all my girlfriends. With them around, I never have that 'one thing' in mind. I didn't bond with them just 'coz they are beautiful or attractive. In fact, I haven't even seen couple of my closest female friends. We are just chat buddies and yet we share such a lovely comfort level. Moreover, I'm more comfortable with them than anyone else.
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Now, that does attract a lot of raised-eyebrows. 'Dude, why do you give her so much importance? Is something brewing?' What a bunch of idiots. It's just biological that I'm more open with girls. I mean, every person on earth is more comfortable with the opposite sex. Among pals of same gender, there's always a barrier, some sort of uneasiness. At some level, they are your competitor. You feel insecure. But with the opposite gender, there's no such hassle. You're always more caring and gentle towards the opposite sex. When you are down and need someone to be beside you, it's them who'll give you more comfort.
Lemme give one case. A guy can't cry in front of another guy 'coz that's considered lame among guys. But he can cry his heart out in the presence of her girl friend, 'coz she won't look down upon him for this. Instead, she will lend him a shoulder. Now, who's supposed to be closer to you? One who joins you when u're happy or the one who's beside you when you're sad? Obviously it's the latter.
Similarly, when a girl really needs some advice or help, can she really depend on another girl? Being totally honest, girls dislike helping each other. Even best of friends think twice before helping the other. There's always some jealousy burning between any two girls. But it's just the opposite with guys. Girls can always look upto a guy friend for help or advice. Helping 'damsel in distress' is like top priority for most guys. And as they say - 'A friend in need is a friend indeed'.
There's really a very very thin line between friendship and love. They often change into each other and are indistinguishable. I mean, picture this. There's someone with whom you are most comfortable. You want to share everything under the sun with him / her. There comes a time when your days seem incomplete if you can't talk to him / her. What's that? Of course you love your friend. What's a relationship where there's no love? But are you in love with your friend? I mean, the love which prompts you to get married. Can you spend your life with this friend? Of Course. But are you thinking about marriage? No. It's really very complicated but you don't give it much thought. All that matters is that you are happy with your friend.
Maybe I donno what's love and what's friendship. For me, they are literally inseparable. Listen to this - "She's my friend but I don't love her" or "I love him but he's not my friend". Sounds funny / uncanny, huh? My gal friends are more close to me than guys. Some people think of it as my weakness; that I wear my heart on my sleeves. I can't help but pray for them.
I have several female friends but in contrast to the popular belief, they are not all my girlfriends. With them around, I never have that 'one thing' in mind. I didn't bond with them just 'coz they are beautiful or attractive. In fact, I haven't even seen couple of my closest female friends. We are just chat buddies and yet we share such a lovely comfort level. Moreover, I'm more comfortable with them than anyone else.
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Now, that does attract a lot of raised-eyebrows. 'Dude, why do you give her so much importance? Is something brewing?' What a bunch of idiots. It's just biological that I'm more open with girls. I mean, every person on earth is more comfortable with the opposite sex. Among pals of same gender, there's always a barrier, some sort of uneasiness. At some level, they are your competitor. You feel insecure. But with the opposite gender, there's no such hassle. You're always more caring and gentle towards the opposite sex. When you are down and need someone to be beside you, it's them who'll give you more comfort.
Lemme give one case. A guy can't cry in front of another guy 'coz that's considered lame among guys. But he can cry his heart out in the presence of her girl friend, 'coz she won't look down upon him for this. Instead, she will lend him a shoulder. Now, who's supposed to be closer to you? One who joins you when u're happy or the one who's beside you when you're sad? Obviously it's the latter.
Similarly, when a girl really needs some advice or help, can she really depend on another girl? Being totally honest, girls dislike helping each other. Even best of friends think twice before helping the other. There's always some jealousy burning between any two girls. But it's just the opposite with guys. Girls can always look upto a guy friend for help or advice. Helping 'damsel in distress' is like top priority for most guys. And as they say - 'A friend in need is a friend indeed'.
There's really a very very thin line between friendship and love. They often change into each other and are indistinguishable. I mean, picture this. There's someone with whom you are most comfortable. You want to share everything under the sun with him / her. There comes a time when your days seem incomplete if you can't talk to him / her. What's that? Of course you love your friend. What's a relationship where there's no love? But are you in love with your friend? I mean, the love which prompts you to get married. Can you spend your life with this friend? Of Course. But are you thinking about marriage? No. It's really very complicated but you don't give it much thought. All that matters is that you are happy with your friend.
Maybe I donno what's love and what's friendship. For me, they are literally inseparable. Listen to this - "She's my friend but I don't love her" or "I love him but he's not my friend". Sounds funny / uncanny, huh? My gal friends are more close to me than guys. Some people think of it as my weakness; that I wear my heart on my sleeves. I can't help but pray for them.
National Awardees in Tollywood......
Today is a happy day in Telugu film industry with three of its films bagging the National Awards for the year 2006. This development is seen as the harbinger of a greater advancement for Tollywood, particularly in the matters of depth in the story, motif and technical values. The down-to-earth winners shared their happiness with Idlebrain.
Kamli (Best Film in Regional Language)
Producer BC Haricharana Prasad said: “My happiness is boundless. I share it with all the cast and crew of my film. I also thank the audiences who patronized our first venture on Apurva Films banner. This is unbiased selection by the Jury. There is a dire need for making films like Kamli in the commercial format. While doing so, the message will reach wider circles and even more effectively. People will definitely support them. But, Tollywood’s filmmaking makes me sick. It is still in the Dark Age. There are a good number of scripts and talent. Why going in the old and formulaic fashion? Let us change the path and make a trail for ourselves. Time has changed. My sincere appeal to public: Please fight against the disgusting issue of selling or killing of the girl child. This is also the theme of my film.” He also thanked actress Nandita Das and director KNT Sastry in this regard.
Hope (Best Film on Social Issues)
Director K. Satish said: “I am honored to share my happiness with my well-wishers, friends and audience. My special thanks to Dr. Ramanaidu. I had the privilege to direct this veteran personality for the first time in the main role. Two years ago, I made a statement that Hope would bag Awards. After State Award, now we got the National Award. The audience will never ditch a good movie. This is the first film which was screened at the Indian Panorama at Goa, after a big gap of ten years. The film did bring a sea of change in the mindset of many an academic institute. It changed the students’ outlook on studies. Life of students is precious. It should be lived meaningfully and for longer.”
Kittu (Best Animation Film)
Producer Bhargava Kodavanti said: “My efforts are recognized. It proves that Kittu has set in motion a national trend in the world of animation. A big boom awaits the animation industry in India. Our strength is our dedicated and committed animators. I thank our editor also. Kittu is the best example to show that Indian culture and tradition can be promoted with great results through animation films. They are like tonic to our children. The National Award enhanced our responsibility for producing more such films.”
Kamli (Best Film in Regional Language)
Producer BC Haricharana Prasad said: “My happiness is boundless. I share it with all the cast and crew of my film. I also thank the audiences who patronized our first venture on Apurva Films banner. This is unbiased selection by the Jury. There is a dire need for making films like Kamli in the commercial format. While doing so, the message will reach wider circles and even more effectively. People will definitely support them. But, Tollywood’s filmmaking makes me sick. It is still in the Dark Age. There are a good number of scripts and talent. Why going in the old and formulaic fashion? Let us change the path and make a trail for ourselves. Time has changed. My sincere appeal to public: Please fight against the disgusting issue of selling or killing of the girl child. This is also the theme of my film.” He also thanked actress Nandita Das and director KNT Sastry in this regard.
Hope (Best Film on Social Issues)
Director K. Satish said: “I am honored to share my happiness with my well-wishers, friends and audience. My special thanks to Dr. Ramanaidu. I had the privilege to direct this veteran personality for the first time in the main role. Two years ago, I made a statement that Hope would bag Awards. After State Award, now we got the National Award. The audience will never ditch a good movie. This is the first film which was screened at the Indian Panorama at Goa, after a big gap of ten years. The film did bring a sea of change in the mindset of many an academic institute. It changed the students’ outlook on studies. Life of students is precious. It should be lived meaningfully and for longer.”
Kittu (Best Animation Film)
Producer Bhargava Kodavanti said: “My efforts are recognized. It proves that Kittu has set in motion a national trend in the world of animation. A big boom awaits the animation industry in India. Our strength is our dedicated and committed animators. I thank our editor also. Kittu is the best example to show that Indian culture and tradition can be promoted with great results through animation films. They are like tonic to our children. The National Award enhanced our responsibility for producing more such films.”
Sunday, June 8, 2008
Yes You! You Can Change the World!
Finally finally went and saw "An Inconvenient Truth" last night. So I obviously don't need to be convinced about the massive ecological disaster we're creating down here on planet earth but I think Al Gore's delivery and concern and really easy to understand graphics make this a must see film - for everyone.
I couldn't help thinking what the world may have been like if he'd become president of the US instead of it being stolen from him. Would everything be totally different now? Or would he have been coerced and made to conform to the policies that the Mr Bigs of the world seem to enforce?
But maybe, it's all been a blessing. Maybe he can do way more with his power and knowledge out of the White House. Let's hope the Mr Bigs kids and grandkids force them to go see this film and start changing their ways.
I couldn't help thinking what the world may have been like if he'd become president of the US instead of it being stolen from him. Would everything be totally different now? Or would he have been coerced and made to conform to the policies that the Mr Bigs of the world seem to enforce?
But maybe, it's all been a blessing. Maybe he can do way more with his power and knowledge out of the White House. Let's hope the Mr Bigs kids and grandkids force them to go see this film and start changing their ways.
Saturday, June 7, 2008
Top ten fast and fabulous foods for female nutrition
O.J. with added calcium. Calcium-fortified orange juice helps ward off PMS, high blood pressure and osteoporosis. Down a glass a day to help you rise and shine!
High fiber cereal. When you're food shopping, select a cereal with at least 7 grams of fiber per serving. Fiber is a cancer fighter, and it helps cancel out calories.
"Youth" berries. Blueberries are antioxidant stars; they can slow down your aging clock. Toss them on your cereal for a power-packed breakfast. Dining out? Order your dessert first, and make it fresh berries. Most restaurants have them in season. While you’re eating your delicious appetizer of raspberries, strawberries, or blackberries you're also ingesting fiber, antioxidants, and ellagic acid, a compound being studied to fight colon cancer.
Apples and nuts. Take fruit and nuts with you to work—great protein and anti-oxidant protection that also gives you sustained energy release.
Water. Most of us are dehydrated and don't even know it. Fatigue, poor concentration and headaches are signs of mild dehydration. Keep bottled water in your office and filtered or bottled water at home; aim for eight glasses a day. Fizzy water is fine, too, and sure beats coffee or cola!
Whole grains. Choose whole wheat bread, whole wheat pasta, whole grain cereals. You'll boost fiber, reduce empty calories, and feel fuller from the nutrients.
Dipped carrots. Yes, some fat is good for you (see above for a discussion on good and bad fats). Eat your carrot sticks with a cube of cheese or dip, which will aid in absorption of those cancer-fighting carotenoids.
Lean protein. The more active you are, the more protein you will need. Fresh fish, hormone-free chicken (try removing the skin to reduce the fat content), eggs, and lean meats like turkey or pork tenderloin are all good sources. Soy products can also provide protein, although some people are sensitive to soy and cannot digest it properly. The more variety you can incorporate into your diet, the better – so try and find different sources of lean protein every day.
Beans. Beans may not be the most glamorous food, but they are nutritional powerhouses. With 5 grams of fiber in a half cup of beans, they can help fight colon cancer and also fill you up so you don’t overdo it on calories. Try tossing some beans into your salad at lunch, or enjoying a cup of veggie chili.
Cocoa. Love chocolate? Cocoa, which has much of the fat removed, has more antioxidant power than tea. The flavonoids in cocoa can keep blood platelets from clotting, which may prevent heart attacks. Plus, the milk in hot cocoa loves your bones! If you're lactose or caffeine sensitive, or don't like cocoa, be sure to take your calcium supplement instead. (See below for more on bone health and calcium.)
High fiber cereal. When you're food shopping, select a cereal with at least 7 grams of fiber per serving. Fiber is a cancer fighter, and it helps cancel out calories.
"Youth" berries. Blueberries are antioxidant stars; they can slow down your aging clock. Toss them on your cereal for a power-packed breakfast. Dining out? Order your dessert first, and make it fresh berries. Most restaurants have them in season. While you’re eating your delicious appetizer of raspberries, strawberries, or blackberries you're also ingesting fiber, antioxidants, and ellagic acid, a compound being studied to fight colon cancer.
Apples and nuts. Take fruit and nuts with you to work—great protein and anti-oxidant protection that also gives you sustained energy release.
Water. Most of us are dehydrated and don't even know it. Fatigue, poor concentration and headaches are signs of mild dehydration. Keep bottled water in your office and filtered or bottled water at home; aim for eight glasses a day. Fizzy water is fine, too, and sure beats coffee or cola!
Whole grains. Choose whole wheat bread, whole wheat pasta, whole grain cereals. You'll boost fiber, reduce empty calories, and feel fuller from the nutrients.
Dipped carrots. Yes, some fat is good for you (see above for a discussion on good and bad fats). Eat your carrot sticks with a cube of cheese or dip, which will aid in absorption of those cancer-fighting carotenoids.
Lean protein. The more active you are, the more protein you will need. Fresh fish, hormone-free chicken (try removing the skin to reduce the fat content), eggs, and lean meats like turkey or pork tenderloin are all good sources. Soy products can also provide protein, although some people are sensitive to soy and cannot digest it properly. The more variety you can incorporate into your diet, the better – so try and find different sources of lean protein every day.
Beans. Beans may not be the most glamorous food, but they are nutritional powerhouses. With 5 grams of fiber in a half cup of beans, they can help fight colon cancer and also fill you up so you don’t overdo it on calories. Try tossing some beans into your salad at lunch, or enjoying a cup of veggie chili.
Cocoa. Love chocolate? Cocoa, which has much of the fat removed, has more antioxidant power than tea. The flavonoids in cocoa can keep blood platelets from clotting, which may prevent heart attacks. Plus, the milk in hot cocoa loves your bones! If you're lactose or caffeine sensitive, or don't like cocoa, be sure to take your calcium supplement instead. (See below for more on bone health and calcium.)
Gamyam......
Celebration of a film’s long run, fifty or hundred in particular, has become a fad. More than that, it’s a dire necessity not only for the producer, but to the artistes. In fact, a movie’s true hit is not complete until it touches the last audience. None would have thought that a foreign-returned and debutant director Radha Krishna Jagarlamudi, nicknamed Krishh, will become a household name. He proved that filmmaking is the power to transform one’s dream as it is on the celluloid. His debut film Gamyam lifted the people of Andhra Pradesh from the hangover of Sekhar Kammula’s Happy Days.
Mere business chatter about Gamyam is a taboo, for various reasons. Gamyam, as a movie, registered its 100 days, in the theatres. There is no person in Telugu film industry who has not talked about Gamyam. Its silent release in a limited number of centers witnessed lukewarm response from the audiences for a couple of weeks. What started as a flickering flame soon turned into an inferno. The film flawlessly stirred the literary, academic, IT and many socially elite circles, generating a cool talk fit for a roaring public debate. Ironically, the film circles flocked the theatres as the last segment. Unfortunately, by the time the talk got spread to the B and C centers, the people there had already watched the film on their favorite small screens. Let us take it this way. They completely owned Gamyam and took it to their homes, watched it along with family members, preferably with kids. They didn’t stop with that. They supplied the pirated CDs to the neighbors. The retired, women and kids as one discussed it. Countless Tollywood biggies at various film functions made it a rule to talk about Gamyam. A star writer had even shed inhibitions to say that Gamyam was the first film which made him cry.
To be simple, Gamyam touched the hearts of the audiences rather than feast their eyes. You don’t find any oomph in the film, but a feel of purgation sweeping the theatres. More than anything, for the first time, Krishh has brought to play a peculiar nonstop-kind of screenplay. Travel, in the younger sort, is a part of education; in the elder, a part of experience. The travelogue never halts. Each character, Abhi, Gali Seenu or Janaki – all seemed to have emerged from the audiences themselves. Most characters are not invented for the movie. Krishh selectively chose them live from society. Notably, the technical standards are not missed. This is what all about Gamyam.
It is a welcome sign that Gamyam-type of movies is declared the urgent need of Tollywood, with its just 5% hit rate. People who have watched and digested “this-type” of film will surely not like to watch our formulaic movies. No doubt, Gamyam has already set in motion a vibrant trend of traveling into hearts of the audience. Some enthusiastic directors are already on the job. Early layers of change can be expected in the coming months.
Sometimes, the kick of success can be poisonous. It not only kills the cells of creativity in a human brain, but also exposes the cavity of such minds to the audiences, sooner or later. But, Krishh is often seen freely moving with all and sundry, speaking chaste Telugu, away from airs. After all, he has discovered the roots of successful film-making.
Gamyam’s march is not complete with a mere 100-days run. It will go down the list of Tollywood’s evergreens.
Mere business chatter about Gamyam is a taboo, for various reasons. Gamyam, as a movie, registered its 100 days, in the theatres. There is no person in Telugu film industry who has not talked about Gamyam. Its silent release in a limited number of centers witnessed lukewarm response from the audiences for a couple of weeks. What started as a flickering flame soon turned into an inferno. The film flawlessly stirred the literary, academic, IT and many socially elite circles, generating a cool talk fit for a roaring public debate. Ironically, the film circles flocked the theatres as the last segment. Unfortunately, by the time the talk got spread to the B and C centers, the people there had already watched the film on their favorite small screens. Let us take it this way. They completely owned Gamyam and took it to their homes, watched it along with family members, preferably with kids. They didn’t stop with that. They supplied the pirated CDs to the neighbors. The retired, women and kids as one discussed it. Countless Tollywood biggies at various film functions made it a rule to talk about Gamyam. A star writer had even shed inhibitions to say that Gamyam was the first film which made him cry.
To be simple, Gamyam touched the hearts of the audiences rather than feast their eyes. You don’t find any oomph in the film, but a feel of purgation sweeping the theatres. More than anything, for the first time, Krishh has brought to play a peculiar nonstop-kind of screenplay. Travel, in the younger sort, is a part of education; in the elder, a part of experience. The travelogue never halts. Each character, Abhi, Gali Seenu or Janaki – all seemed to have emerged from the audiences themselves. Most characters are not invented for the movie. Krishh selectively chose them live from society. Notably, the technical standards are not missed. This is what all about Gamyam.
It is a welcome sign that Gamyam-type of movies is declared the urgent need of Tollywood, with its just 5% hit rate. People who have watched and digested “this-type” of film will surely not like to watch our formulaic movies. No doubt, Gamyam has already set in motion a vibrant trend of traveling into hearts of the audience. Some enthusiastic directors are already on the job. Early layers of change can be expected in the coming months.
Sometimes, the kick of success can be poisonous. It not only kills the cells of creativity in a human brain, but also exposes the cavity of such minds to the audiences, sooner or later. But, Krishh is often seen freely moving with all and sundry, speaking chaste Telugu, away from airs. After all, he has discovered the roots of successful film-making.
Gamyam’s march is not complete with a mere 100-days run. It will go down the list of Tollywood’s evergreens.
Monday, June 2, 2008
I live here ?
I live here ?
So I ask my friends
where does your home end ?
how do you define your space
in which you live
the four corners of your room ?
your apartment
or the walls of your house ?
So the air that you breathe
within your house
is different from the air outside ?
where do you create the walls
in which you imprison yourself
and call it your home ?
You want more space ?
a bigger house ?
I will give it to you
I will put the biggest zoom camera ever
and put it in the centre of the Universe
and then I will slowly zoom out
and you tell me
where to stop
just say
those are the limits to my house !
but I am so much greedier than you
for I will zoom out
forever
till my house encompasses the whole universe
for that is where I live
and those are the limits to my house
So I ask my friends
where does your home end ?
how do you define your space
in which you live
the four corners of your room ?
your apartment
or the walls of your house ?
So the air that you breathe
within your house
is different from the air outside ?
where do you create the walls
in which you imprison yourself
and call it your home ?
You want more space ?
a bigger house ?
I will give it to you
I will put the biggest zoom camera ever
and put it in the centre of the Universe
and then I will slowly zoom out
and you tell me
where to stop
just say
those are the limits to my house !
but I am so much greedier than you
for I will zoom out
forever
till my house encompasses the whole universe
for that is where I live
and those are the limits to my house
Do I love you ?
no one act separated from another
no one time separated from another
no one space separated from another
no one individual separated from another
no one emotion separated from another
no one moment separated from another
no one consciousness separated from another
no one thought separated from another
formless seamless infinite relationships between all things
so then
when I say " I love you"
do I lie ?
do I deceive ?
or is it a desperate cry for help
to drag me out of
my mistaken sense of my 'self'
no one time separated from another
no one space separated from another
no one individual separated from another
no one emotion separated from another
no one moment separated from another
no one consciousness separated from another
no one thought separated from another
formless seamless infinite relationships between all things
so then
when I say " I love you"
do I lie ?
do I deceive ?
or is it a desperate cry for help
to drag me out of
my mistaken sense of my 'self'
The two of me
I am jealous
and greedy
and angry
and I hurt
I love
and I hate
I mean well
but manipulate
I am confused
and riddled by doubt
Of course I am
I am after all
human
and yet
I long
I yearn
I aspire
to be compassionate
to be creative
to be whole
to be infinite
I am spiritual too
I am two
but one
must live with the other
with compassion
and forgiveness
till I am only one
but till then,
I must learn to be two.
I am after all
only human
and greedy
and angry
and I hurt
I love
and I hate
I mean well
but manipulate
I am confused
and riddled by doubt
Of course I am
I am after all
human
and yet
I long
I yearn
I aspire
to be compassionate
to be creative
to be whole
to be infinite
I am spiritual too
I am two
but one
must live with the other
with compassion
and forgiveness
till I am only one
but till then,
I must learn to be two.
I am after all
only human
The two of me
I am jealous
and greedy
and angry
and I hurt
I love
and I hate
I mean well
but manipulate
I am confused
and riddled by doubt
Of course I am
I am after all
human
and yet
I long
I yearn
I aspire
to be compassionate
to be creative
to be whole
to be infinite
I am spiritual too
I am two
but one
must live with the other
with compassion
and forgiveness
till I am only one
but till then,
I must learn to be two.
I am after all
only human
and greedy
and angry
and I hurt
I love
and I hate
I mean well
but manipulate
I am confused
and riddled by doubt
Of course I am
I am after all
human
and yet
I long
I yearn
I aspire
to be compassionate
to be creative
to be whole
to be infinite
I am spiritual too
I am two
but one
must live with the other
with compassion
and forgiveness
till I am only one
but till then,
I must learn to be two.
I am after all
only human
'I’m not here to transport people to fantasy land'
A peaceful countenance, intelligent dancing eyes, a confident stride and a pleasing, charming personality. Meet Shekhar Kammula. A man who dares to dream and dreams to launch a thousand dreams.
Dressed in a casual maroon shirt and off-white trousers, he meets us in his tiny and comfortable drawing room. Over a steaming cup of chai, we chat about his first venture, Dollar Dreams, his childhood, likes, dislikes, food and life.
"I am a pucca Hyderabadi," he grins, a boyish grin. "I love everything about the city, the people, the roads, the food -- everything. That’s why, even after spending six years in the US, I came back... I want to stay here."
Shekhar, as he would like to be called, comes from a close-knit family -- two brothers and two sisters, with him being the youngest of the lot. Petted and pampered? "Yes," he chuckles.
Hina Kausar Alam finds out more...
So, what was childhood like?
Well, I’m from St Patrick's High School and the memories of my childhood are vague. All I have is a broad picture of myself. I was pretty generous. I was very popular in school, because of my generosity... I am an Aquarian, I had a lot of friends.
The dildar type of guy, perhaps?
I was quiet, and was the class leader from standard III to IX. I always supported and protected the boys from the teachers, that’s why I was popular, I think.
Other than that, I have a picture of childhood, seeped in contentment, knit by love. We'd spend our evenings together after coming back from school, sit in the kitchen and tell each other about the day's happenings, while mother gave us something to eat.
What about those college ke din?
Oh! Nothing out of the ordinary. I completed my intermediate studies from St Alphonsa’s, my engineering from Osmania University... then went through the usual rut of GRE, TOEFL, and landed up at the University of New Jersey in US, where I pursued my degree in software engineering.
While studying, I got in touch with other universities that offered courses in film-making and got myself enrolled at Howard. Those were the best days of my life. Everyone must go the US at least once, experience the life there -- the freedom, the dignity of labour -- come back and utilise it here, to make our land a better one.
So, how did Dollar Dreams happen?
Well, a film makes a social statement. It is watched by millions of people, all across, and the makers have a certain obligation towards society. What I saw was this unnatural craze to go to the US, by Indian youngsters -- each one of them wants to go there, be it for money, freedom, a green card, or to escape peer and parental pressure, whatever the reason -- I realised it was an issue, that needed to be addressed.
So, I began working on a script. I didn’t have anything concrete to work on when I came back from the US. I looked around, met a lot of people, talked to them about it. I did not want to undermine anyone or miss out on any of the details. So, I did some research and then went ahead with the script.
I used to work entire nights piecing the script together when I was in Texas. This took three months to complete. Then, began the real grind.
Looking for actors was hell. Movies and cinema are still not looked upon very kindly by people. The people we approached were very apprehensive about the whole project. We even had to put up posters in colleges to find what we were looking for.
What made things worse was that nobody knew me. I had no credentials as a director till then. I wondered if the movie would ever be released… you know, a million thoughts crossed my mind. Finally, after a long search, we found our six main actors.In all we had 86 actors -- a large cast, for a first film. We worked on a Rs 17-20 lakh budget, and completed the shooting in 20 days flat, sometimes running to about eight different locations in a single day. And after spending a month editing, it was finally done!
Looking back, what was the experience like?
The first movie is always special, always different. The spirit, the effervescence, the fervour, the freshness -- it's all there the first time! This movie will always remain extra-special to me, not just because it's my first film, but because of many other reasons.
Kind words and good deeds are eternal. Friends from school, those classmates whom I had supported and protected from angry teachers, stepped forward to help me raise money for my movie, voluntarily! People who I had least expected any assistance from came to my aid. And even though the amount wasn’t big or anything, the fact that they were there for me when I needed them the most, touched me deeply and made me very happy. All my friends and relatives had more faith in me and my film, than I did.
What is it that sets you apart from other directors?
Well, I’m here to make a statement, about the ill-practices of society. Unlike art films which are about the lowest rung of people, watched only by the cream of the society, or movies by Ramgopal Varma, Vishwanath, Karan Johar or even Nagesh Kukunoor. I’m not here to transport people into fantasy land. My film will be about the middle-class, aimed at a certain sector of the society. A class apart.
What are you like when you are not behind the camera, directing or seriously typing away at the computer at Citicorp?
Hmmm... (smiles) I play cricket with my friends. It's just a chotta-mota game we play. A reason to keep in touch with friends. Once upon a time, I used to play tennis, I represented the state, at the under-14 level. Other than that, I enjoy spending time at home with my parents and siblings.
Sometimes my wife and I go out to watch movies, to lunch or dinner... spend time together. But now she’s angry with me because we haven’t been spending enough time together.
I take pleasure in the simple things of life -- sunrises and sunsets, children playing. I like to stand here in my balcony and watch people act and react, observe their conversations... and I use all these points in my movies. I take inspiration from watching people, the real-life characters.
What's your favourite music?
Soft rock... Bryan Adams.
And favourite food?
Dal chawal -- simple.
So what are the dreams now?
Well, I’ve almost completed my next script. The film is titled Anand. It means contentment, happiness. I’ve being working on it real hard. I hope the movie shapes out the way I’ve dreamt it.
Dressed in a casual maroon shirt and off-white trousers, he meets us in his tiny and comfortable drawing room. Over a steaming cup of chai, we chat about his first venture, Dollar Dreams, his childhood, likes, dislikes, food and life.
"I am a pucca Hyderabadi," he grins, a boyish grin. "I love everything about the city, the people, the roads, the food -- everything. That’s why, even after spending six years in the US, I came back... I want to stay here."
Shekhar, as he would like to be called, comes from a close-knit family -- two brothers and two sisters, with him being the youngest of the lot. Petted and pampered? "Yes," he chuckles.
Hina Kausar Alam finds out more...
So, what was childhood like?
Well, I’m from St Patrick's High School and the memories of my childhood are vague. All I have is a broad picture of myself. I was pretty generous. I was very popular in school, because of my generosity... I am an Aquarian, I had a lot of friends.
The dildar type of guy, perhaps?
I was quiet, and was the class leader from standard III to IX. I always supported and protected the boys from the teachers, that’s why I was popular, I think.
Other than that, I have a picture of childhood, seeped in contentment, knit by love. We'd spend our evenings together after coming back from school, sit in the kitchen and tell each other about the day's happenings, while mother gave us something to eat.
What about those college ke din?
Oh! Nothing out of the ordinary. I completed my intermediate studies from St Alphonsa’s, my engineering from Osmania University... then went through the usual rut of GRE, TOEFL, and landed up at the University of New Jersey in US, where I pursued my degree in software engineering.
While studying, I got in touch with other universities that offered courses in film-making and got myself enrolled at Howard. Those were the best days of my life. Everyone must go the US at least once, experience the life there -- the freedom, the dignity of labour -- come back and utilise it here, to make our land a better one.
So, how did Dollar Dreams happen?
Well, a film makes a social statement. It is watched by millions of people, all across, and the makers have a certain obligation towards society. What I saw was this unnatural craze to go to the US, by Indian youngsters -- each one of them wants to go there, be it for money, freedom, a green card, or to escape peer and parental pressure, whatever the reason -- I realised it was an issue, that needed to be addressed.
So, I began working on a script. I didn’t have anything concrete to work on when I came back from the US. I looked around, met a lot of people, talked to them about it. I did not want to undermine anyone or miss out on any of the details. So, I did some research and then went ahead with the script.
I used to work entire nights piecing the script together when I was in Texas. This took three months to complete. Then, began the real grind.
Looking for actors was hell. Movies and cinema are still not looked upon very kindly by people. The people we approached were very apprehensive about the whole project. We even had to put up posters in colleges to find what we were looking for.
What made things worse was that nobody knew me. I had no credentials as a director till then. I wondered if the movie would ever be released… you know, a million thoughts crossed my mind. Finally, after a long search, we found our six main actors.In all we had 86 actors -- a large cast, for a first film. We worked on a Rs 17-20 lakh budget, and completed the shooting in 20 days flat, sometimes running to about eight different locations in a single day. And after spending a month editing, it was finally done!
Looking back, what was the experience like?
The first movie is always special, always different. The spirit, the effervescence, the fervour, the freshness -- it's all there the first time! This movie will always remain extra-special to me, not just because it's my first film, but because of many other reasons.
Kind words and good deeds are eternal. Friends from school, those classmates whom I had supported and protected from angry teachers, stepped forward to help me raise money for my movie, voluntarily! People who I had least expected any assistance from came to my aid. And even though the amount wasn’t big or anything, the fact that they were there for me when I needed them the most, touched me deeply and made me very happy. All my friends and relatives had more faith in me and my film, than I did.
What is it that sets you apart from other directors?
Well, I’m here to make a statement, about the ill-practices of society. Unlike art films which are about the lowest rung of people, watched only by the cream of the society, or movies by Ramgopal Varma, Vishwanath, Karan Johar or even Nagesh Kukunoor. I’m not here to transport people into fantasy land. My film will be about the middle-class, aimed at a certain sector of the society. A class apart.
What are you like when you are not behind the camera, directing or seriously typing away at the computer at Citicorp?
Hmmm... (smiles) I play cricket with my friends. It's just a chotta-mota game we play. A reason to keep in touch with friends. Once upon a time, I used to play tennis, I represented the state, at the under-14 level. Other than that, I enjoy spending time at home with my parents and siblings.
Sometimes my wife and I go out to watch movies, to lunch or dinner... spend time together. But now she’s angry with me because we haven’t been spending enough time together.
I take pleasure in the simple things of life -- sunrises and sunsets, children playing. I like to stand here in my balcony and watch people act and react, observe their conversations... and I use all these points in my movies. I take inspiration from watching people, the real-life characters.
What's your favourite music?
Soft rock... Bryan Adams.
And favourite food?
Dal chawal -- simple.
So what are the dreams now?
Well, I’ve almost completed my next script. The film is titled Anand. It means contentment, happiness. I’ve being working on it real hard. I hope the movie shapes out the way I’ve dreamt it.
'I’m not here to transport people to fantasy land'
A peaceful countenance, intelligent dancing eyes, a confident stride and a pleasing, charming personality. Meet Shekhar Kammula. A man who dares to dream and dreams to launch a thousand dreams.
Dressed in a casual maroon shirt and off-white trousers, he meets us in his tiny and comfortable drawing room. Over a steaming cup of chai, we chat about his first venture, Dollar Dreams, his childhood, likes, dislikes, food and life.
"I am a pucca Hyderabadi," he grins, a boyish grin. "I love everything about the city, the people, the roads, the food -- everything. That’s why, even after spending six years in the US, I came back... I want to stay here."
Shekhar, as he would like to be called, comes from a close-knit family -- two brothers and two sisters, with him being the youngest of the lot. Petted and pampered? "Yes," he chuckles.
Hina Kausar Alam finds out more...
So, what was childhood like?
Well, I’m from St Patrick's High School and the memories of my childhood are vague. All I have is a broad picture of myself. I was pretty generous. I was very popular in school, because of my generosity... I am an Aquarian, I had a lot of friends.
The dildar type of guy, perhaps?
I was quiet, and was the class leader from standard III to IX. I always supported and protected the boys from the teachers, that’s why I was popular, I think.
Other than that, I have a picture of childhood, seeped in contentment, knit by love. We'd spend our evenings together after coming back from school, sit in the kitchen and tell each other about the day's happenings, while mother gave us something to eat.
What about those college ke din?
Oh! Nothing out of the ordinary. I completed my intermediate studies from St Alphonsa’s, my engineering from Osmania University... then went through the usual rut of GRE, TOEFL, and landed up at the University of New Jersey in US, where I pursued my degree in software engineering.
While studying, I got in touch with other universities that offered courses in film-making and got myself enrolled at Howard. Those were the best days of my life. Everyone must go the US at least once, experience the life there -- the freedom, the dignity of labour -- come back and utilise it here, to make our land a better one.
So, how did Dollar Dreams happen?
Well, a film makes a social statement. It is watched by millions of people, all across, and the makers have a certain obligation towards society. What I saw was this unnatural craze to go to the US, by Indian youngsters -- each one of them wants to go there, be it for money, freedom, a green card, or to escape peer and parental pressure, whatever the reason -- I realised it was an issue, that needed to be addressed.
So, I began working on a script. I didn’t have anything concrete to work on when I came back from the US. I looked around, met a lot of people, talked to them about it. I did not want to undermine anyone or miss out on any of the details. So, I did some research and then went ahead with the script.
I used to work entire nights piecing the script together when I was in Texas. This took three months to complete. Then, began the real grind.
Looking for actors was hell. Movies and cinema are still not looked upon very kindly by people. The people we approached were very apprehensive about the whole project. We even had to put up posters in colleges to find what we were looking for.
What made things worse was that nobody knew me. I had no credentials as a director till then. I wondered if the movie would ever be released… you know, a million thoughts crossed my mind. Finally, after a long search, we found our six main actors.In all we had 86 actors -- a large cast, for a first film. We worked on a Rs 17-20 lakh budget, and completed the shooting in 20 days flat, sometimes running to about eight different locations in a single day. And after spending a month editing, it was finally done!
Looking back, what was the experience like?
The first movie is always special, always different. The spirit, the effervescence, the fervour, the freshness -- it's all there the first time! This movie will always remain extra-special to me, not just because it's my first film, but because of many other reasons.
Kind words and good deeds are eternal. Friends from school, those classmates whom I had supported and protected from angry teachers, stepped forward to help me raise money for my movie, voluntarily! People who I had least expected any assistance from came to my aid. And even though the amount wasn’t big or anything, the fact that they were there for me when I needed them the most, touched me deeply and made me very happy. All my friends and relatives had more faith in me and my film, than I did.
What is it that sets you apart from other directors?
Well, I’m here to make a statement, about the ill-practices of society. Unlike art films which are about the lowest rung of people, watched only by the cream of the society, or movies by Ramgopal Varma, Vishwanath, Karan Johar or even Nagesh Kukunoor. I’m not here to transport people into fantasy land. My film will be about the middle-class, aimed at a certain sector of the society. A class apart.
What are you like when you are not behind the camera, directing or seriously typing away at the computer at Citicorp?
Hmmm... (smiles) I play cricket with my friends. It's just a chotta-mota game we play. A reason to keep in touch with friends. Once upon a time, I used to play tennis, I represented the state, at the under-14 level. Other than that, I enjoy spending time at home with my parents and siblings.
Sometimes my wife and I go out to watch movies, to lunch or dinner... spend time together. But now she’s angry with me because we haven’t been spending enough time together.
I take pleasure in the simple things of life -- sunrises and sunsets, children playing. I like to stand here in my balcony and watch people act and react, observe their conversations... and I use all these points in my movies. I take inspiration from watching people, the real-life characters.
What's your favourite music?
Soft rock... Bryan Adams.
And favourite food?
Dal chawal -- simple.
So what are the dreams now?
Well, I’ve almost completed my next script. The film is titled Anand. It means contentment, happiness. I’ve being working on it real hard. I hope the movie shapes out the way I’ve dreamt it.
Dressed in a casual maroon shirt and off-white trousers, he meets us in his tiny and comfortable drawing room. Over a steaming cup of chai, we chat about his first venture, Dollar Dreams, his childhood, likes, dislikes, food and life.
"I am a pucca Hyderabadi," he grins, a boyish grin. "I love everything about the city, the people, the roads, the food -- everything. That’s why, even after spending six years in the US, I came back... I want to stay here."
Shekhar, as he would like to be called, comes from a close-knit family -- two brothers and two sisters, with him being the youngest of the lot. Petted and pampered? "Yes," he chuckles.
Hina Kausar Alam finds out more...
So, what was childhood like?
Well, I’m from St Patrick's High School and the memories of my childhood are vague. All I have is a broad picture of myself. I was pretty generous. I was very popular in school, because of my generosity... I am an Aquarian, I had a lot of friends.
The dildar type of guy, perhaps?
I was quiet, and was the class leader from standard III to IX. I always supported and protected the boys from the teachers, that’s why I was popular, I think.
Other than that, I have a picture of childhood, seeped in contentment, knit by love. We'd spend our evenings together after coming back from school, sit in the kitchen and tell each other about the day's happenings, while mother gave us something to eat.
What about those college ke din?
Oh! Nothing out of the ordinary. I completed my intermediate studies from St Alphonsa’s, my engineering from Osmania University... then went through the usual rut of GRE, TOEFL, and landed up at the University of New Jersey in US, where I pursued my degree in software engineering.
While studying, I got in touch with other universities that offered courses in film-making and got myself enrolled at Howard. Those were the best days of my life. Everyone must go the US at least once, experience the life there -- the freedom, the dignity of labour -- come back and utilise it here, to make our land a better one.
So, how did Dollar Dreams happen?
Well, a film makes a social statement. It is watched by millions of people, all across, and the makers have a certain obligation towards society. What I saw was this unnatural craze to go to the US, by Indian youngsters -- each one of them wants to go there, be it for money, freedom, a green card, or to escape peer and parental pressure, whatever the reason -- I realised it was an issue, that needed to be addressed.
So, I began working on a script. I didn’t have anything concrete to work on when I came back from the US. I looked around, met a lot of people, talked to them about it. I did not want to undermine anyone or miss out on any of the details. So, I did some research and then went ahead with the script.
I used to work entire nights piecing the script together when I was in Texas. This took three months to complete. Then, began the real grind.
Looking for actors was hell. Movies and cinema are still not looked upon very kindly by people. The people we approached were very apprehensive about the whole project. We even had to put up posters in colleges to find what we were looking for.
What made things worse was that nobody knew me. I had no credentials as a director till then. I wondered if the movie would ever be released… you know, a million thoughts crossed my mind. Finally, after a long search, we found our six main actors.In all we had 86 actors -- a large cast, for a first film. We worked on a Rs 17-20 lakh budget, and completed the shooting in 20 days flat, sometimes running to about eight different locations in a single day. And after spending a month editing, it was finally done!
Looking back, what was the experience like?
The first movie is always special, always different. The spirit, the effervescence, the fervour, the freshness -- it's all there the first time! This movie will always remain extra-special to me, not just because it's my first film, but because of many other reasons.
Kind words and good deeds are eternal. Friends from school, those classmates whom I had supported and protected from angry teachers, stepped forward to help me raise money for my movie, voluntarily! People who I had least expected any assistance from came to my aid. And even though the amount wasn’t big or anything, the fact that they were there for me when I needed them the most, touched me deeply and made me very happy. All my friends and relatives had more faith in me and my film, than I did.
What is it that sets you apart from other directors?
Well, I’m here to make a statement, about the ill-practices of society. Unlike art films which are about the lowest rung of people, watched only by the cream of the society, or movies by Ramgopal Varma, Vishwanath, Karan Johar or even Nagesh Kukunoor. I’m not here to transport people into fantasy land. My film will be about the middle-class, aimed at a certain sector of the society. A class apart.
What are you like when you are not behind the camera, directing or seriously typing away at the computer at Citicorp?
Hmmm... (smiles) I play cricket with my friends. It's just a chotta-mota game we play. A reason to keep in touch with friends. Once upon a time, I used to play tennis, I represented the state, at the under-14 level. Other than that, I enjoy spending time at home with my parents and siblings.
Sometimes my wife and I go out to watch movies, to lunch or dinner... spend time together. But now she’s angry with me because we haven’t been spending enough time together.
I take pleasure in the simple things of life -- sunrises and sunsets, children playing. I like to stand here in my balcony and watch people act and react, observe their conversations... and I use all these points in my movies. I take inspiration from watching people, the real-life characters.
What's your favourite music?
Soft rock... Bryan Adams.
And favourite food?
Dal chawal -- simple.
So what are the dreams now?
Well, I’ve almost completed my next script. The film is titled Anand. It means contentment, happiness. I’ve being working on it real hard. I hope the movie shapes out the way I’ve dreamt it.
'I’m not here to transport people to fantasy land'
A peaceful countenance, intelligent dancing eyes, a confident stride and a pleasing, charming personality. Meet Shekhar Kammula. A man who dares to dream and dreams to launch a thousand dreams.
Dressed in a casual maroon shirt and off-white trousers, he meets us in his tiny and comfortable drawing room. Over a steaming cup of chai, we chat about his first venture, Dollar Dreams, his childhood, likes, dislikes, food and life.
"I am a pucca Hyderabadi," he grins, a boyish grin. "I love everything about the city, the people, the roads, the food -- everything. That’s why, even after spending six years in the US, I came back... I want to stay here."
Shekhar, as he would like to be called, comes from a close-knit family -- two brothers and two sisters, with him being the youngest of the lot. Petted and pampered? "Yes," he chuckles.
Hina Kausar Alam finds out more...
So, what was childhood like?
Well, I’m from St Patrick's High School and the memories of my childhood are vague. All I have is a broad picture of myself. I was pretty generous. I was very popular in school, because of my generosity... I am an Aquarian, I had a lot of friends.
The dildar type of guy, perhaps?
I was quiet, and was the class leader from standard III to IX. I always supported and protected the boys from the teachers, that’s why I was popular, I think.
Other than that, I have a picture of childhood, seeped in contentment, knit by love. We'd spend our evenings together after coming back from school, sit in the kitchen and tell each other about the day's happenings, while mother gave us something to eat.
What about those college ke din?
Oh! Nothing out of the ordinary. I completed my intermediate studies from St Alphonsa’s, my engineering from Osmania University... then went through the usual rut of GRE, TOEFL, and landed up at the University of New Jersey in US, where I pursued my degree in software engineering.
While studying, I got in touch with other universities that offered courses in film-making and got myself enrolled at Howard. Those were the best days of my life. Everyone must go the US at least once, experience the life there -- the freedom, the dignity of labour -- come back and utilise it here, to make our land a better one.
So, how did Dollar Dreams happen?
Well, a film makes a social statement. It is watched by millions of people, all across, and the makers have a certain obligation towards society. What I saw was this unnatural craze to go to the US, by Indian youngsters -- each one of them wants to go there, be it for money, freedom, a green card, or to escape peer and parental pressure, whatever the reason -- I realised it was an issue, that needed to be addressed.
So, I began working on a script. I didn’t have anything concrete to work on when I came back from the US. I looked around, met a lot of people, talked to them about it. I did not want to undermine anyone or miss out on any of the details. So, I did some research and then went ahead with the script.
I used to work entire nights piecing the script together when I was in Texas. This took three months to complete. Then, began the real grind.
Looking for actors was hell. Movies and cinema are still not looked upon very kindly by people. The people we approached were very apprehensive about the whole project. We even had to put up posters in colleges to find what we were looking for.
What made things worse was that nobody knew me. I had no credentials as a director till then. I wondered if the movie would ever be released… you know, a million thoughts crossed my mind. Finally, after a long search, we found our six main actors.In all we had 86 actors -- a large cast, for a first film. We worked on a Rs 17-20 lakh budget, and completed the shooting in 20 days flat, sometimes running to about eight different locations in a single day. And after spending a month editing, it was finally done!
Looking back, what was the experience like?
The first movie is always special, always different. The spirit, the effervescence, the fervour, the freshness -- it's all there the first time! This movie will always remain extra-special to me, not just because it's my first film, but because of many other reasons.
Kind words and good deeds are eternal. Friends from school, those classmates whom I had supported and protected from angry teachers, stepped forward to help me raise money for my movie, voluntarily! People who I had least expected any assistance from came to my aid. And even though the amount wasn’t big or anything, the fact that they were there for me when I needed them the most, touched me deeply and made me very happy. All my friends and relatives had more faith in me and my film, than I did.
What is it that sets you apart from other directors?
Well, I’m here to make a statement, about the ill-practices of society. Unlike art films which are about the lowest rung of people, watched only by the cream of the society, or movies by Ramgopal Varma, Vishwanath, Karan Johar or even Nagesh Kukunoor. I’m not here to transport people into fantasy land. My film will be about the middle-class, aimed at a certain sector of the society. A class apart.
What are you like when you are not behind the camera, directing or seriously typing away at the computer at Citicorp?
Hmmm... (smiles) I play cricket with my friends. It's just a chotta-mota game we play. A reason to keep in touch with friends. Once upon a time, I used to play tennis, I represented the state, at the under-14 level. Other than that, I enjoy spending time at home with my parents and siblings.
Sometimes my wife and I go out to watch movies, to lunch or dinner... spend time together. But now she’s angry with me because we haven’t been spending enough time together.
I take pleasure in the simple things of life -- sunrises and sunsets, children playing. I like to stand here in my balcony and watch people act and react, observe their conversations... and I use all these points in my movies. I take inspiration from watching people, the real-life characters.
What's your favourite music?
Soft rock... Bryan Adams.
And favourite food?
Dal chawal -- simple.
So what are the dreams now?
Well, I’ve almost completed my next script. The film is titled Anand. It means contentment, happiness. I’ve being working on it real hard. I hope the movie shapes out the way I’ve dreamt it.
Dressed in a casual maroon shirt and off-white trousers, he meets us in his tiny and comfortable drawing room. Over a steaming cup of chai, we chat about his first venture, Dollar Dreams, his childhood, likes, dislikes, food and life.
"I am a pucca Hyderabadi," he grins, a boyish grin. "I love everything about the city, the people, the roads, the food -- everything. That’s why, even after spending six years in the US, I came back... I want to stay here."
Shekhar, as he would like to be called, comes from a close-knit family -- two brothers and two sisters, with him being the youngest of the lot. Petted and pampered? "Yes," he chuckles.
Hina Kausar Alam finds out more...
So, what was childhood like?
Well, I’m from St Patrick's High School and the memories of my childhood are vague. All I have is a broad picture of myself. I was pretty generous. I was very popular in school, because of my generosity... I am an Aquarian, I had a lot of friends.
The dildar type of guy, perhaps?
I was quiet, and was the class leader from standard III to IX. I always supported and protected the boys from the teachers, that’s why I was popular, I think.
Other than that, I have a picture of childhood, seeped in contentment, knit by love. We'd spend our evenings together after coming back from school, sit in the kitchen and tell each other about the day's happenings, while mother gave us something to eat.
What about those college ke din?
Oh! Nothing out of the ordinary. I completed my intermediate studies from St Alphonsa’s, my engineering from Osmania University... then went through the usual rut of GRE, TOEFL, and landed up at the University of New Jersey in US, where I pursued my degree in software engineering.
While studying, I got in touch with other universities that offered courses in film-making and got myself enrolled at Howard. Those were the best days of my life. Everyone must go the US at least once, experience the life there -- the freedom, the dignity of labour -- come back and utilise it here, to make our land a better one.
So, how did Dollar Dreams happen?
Well, a film makes a social statement. It is watched by millions of people, all across, and the makers have a certain obligation towards society. What I saw was this unnatural craze to go to the US, by Indian youngsters -- each one of them wants to go there, be it for money, freedom, a green card, or to escape peer and parental pressure, whatever the reason -- I realised it was an issue, that needed to be addressed.
So, I began working on a script. I didn’t have anything concrete to work on when I came back from the US. I looked around, met a lot of people, talked to them about it. I did not want to undermine anyone or miss out on any of the details. So, I did some research and then went ahead with the script.
I used to work entire nights piecing the script together when I was in Texas. This took three months to complete. Then, began the real grind.
Looking for actors was hell. Movies and cinema are still not looked upon very kindly by people. The people we approached were very apprehensive about the whole project. We even had to put up posters in colleges to find what we were looking for.
What made things worse was that nobody knew me. I had no credentials as a director till then. I wondered if the movie would ever be released… you know, a million thoughts crossed my mind. Finally, after a long search, we found our six main actors.In all we had 86 actors -- a large cast, for a first film. We worked on a Rs 17-20 lakh budget, and completed the shooting in 20 days flat, sometimes running to about eight different locations in a single day. And after spending a month editing, it was finally done!
Looking back, what was the experience like?
The first movie is always special, always different. The spirit, the effervescence, the fervour, the freshness -- it's all there the first time! This movie will always remain extra-special to me, not just because it's my first film, but because of many other reasons.
Kind words and good deeds are eternal. Friends from school, those classmates whom I had supported and protected from angry teachers, stepped forward to help me raise money for my movie, voluntarily! People who I had least expected any assistance from came to my aid. And even though the amount wasn’t big or anything, the fact that they were there for me when I needed them the most, touched me deeply and made me very happy. All my friends and relatives had more faith in me and my film, than I did.
What is it that sets you apart from other directors?
Well, I’m here to make a statement, about the ill-practices of society. Unlike art films which are about the lowest rung of people, watched only by the cream of the society, or movies by Ramgopal Varma, Vishwanath, Karan Johar or even Nagesh Kukunoor. I’m not here to transport people into fantasy land. My film will be about the middle-class, aimed at a certain sector of the society. A class apart.
What are you like when you are not behind the camera, directing or seriously typing away at the computer at Citicorp?
Hmmm... (smiles) I play cricket with my friends. It's just a chotta-mota game we play. A reason to keep in touch with friends. Once upon a time, I used to play tennis, I represented the state, at the under-14 level. Other than that, I enjoy spending time at home with my parents and siblings.
Sometimes my wife and I go out to watch movies, to lunch or dinner... spend time together. But now she’s angry with me because we haven’t been spending enough time together.
I take pleasure in the simple things of life -- sunrises and sunsets, children playing. I like to stand here in my balcony and watch people act and react, observe their conversations... and I use all these points in my movies. I take inspiration from watching people, the real-life characters.
What's your favourite music?
Soft rock... Bryan Adams.
And favourite food?
Dal chawal -- simple.
So what are the dreams now?
Well, I’ve almost completed my next script. The film is titled Anand. It means contentment, happiness. I’ve being working on it real hard. I hope the movie shapes out the way I’ve dreamt it.
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