Secret of Happiness in Life and Business!
Let me begin by telling you a story...
In Indiana, there lives a woman who works 8 hour days 6 days a week at a local computer company. We will call her "Barbara" for the sake of this article.
Barbara dreads getting up in the morning. She dreads getting ready for work. She dreads driving to work. She dreads clocking in. She absolutely hates her job.
She has a degree in computer science, but she can barely stand the sight of a computer anymore. Everything in her miserable life has become a drudgery to her. She can barely stand herself. The most important thing to her is that wonderful clock that chimes 5 p.m. when it is time for her to go home.
She rushes to her car...Drives as fast as the law allows home...and then immediately rushes into her house as fast as she can to the noise of overexcited door greeters. Both them and her have waited all day for this moment. Now, she can relax.
She sits down on the couch...collects up her pets (2 dogs and a cat) and gives each of them the attention she knows that they crave. She turns on "Animal Planet" on the television set and sits back breathing a sigh of relief that she lived through another day.
Every day this same process occurs. Sometimes she makes a stop by the library and gets a collection of books on "Dog Care" and on "Dog Training." On her day off (that wonderful day), her and her dogs go and spend the entire day at the local park. All of them wait all week for that wonderful event.
Because of the drudgery of her job and the desire she has to be constantly free from it, she decided to check into starting her own home business. Her friends sell Avon. As a matter of fact, one of them even makes enough money to do it full-time.
Barbara envies this woman...She gets up and works when she wants at her own business which she loves. She always seems to have a spring in her step and a smile on her face.
Then, one day her friend invites Barbara to join her. Excitement overflows inside of Barbara...She will be able to be in control of her own destiny. She can be in business for herself.
Barbara jumps at the chance...besides it is only $25 she says to herself..."What do I have to lose?" She is absolutely on fire with this new possibility...She can work for herself and make her own life.
She quickly begins to do everything her sponsor told her to do...She makes up lists of contacts. She begins contacting them all one by one. She does everything necessary to get started as fast as possible.
Barbara begins making a little money...(It always starts out small in your own home business), but something is missing. She stills has her job...She has her new home business and is beginning to make a little income doing it...BUT she has even less time than before to do the things she loves.
Her day off came and went...She had meetings to attend in her new business. Her dogs stayed home staring longingly at their leashes wondering what was wrong. Barbara is making more money now, but is no more free time than ever before.
Now, after the excitement of her new business has worn off, that telephone is getting pretty heavy to use. It is getting pretty tiring to come home from work every day and have to work this second job...even though it is hers.
One day, her sponsor quits and she has no one to help her stay motivated anymore. That was the final straw. She can't do it any more. She goes back to the old routine feeling guilty that she "failed" in her home business venture.
Later on down the road, this same process occurs. She joins another home business "opportunity" only to later give up and quit because she just can't take it anymore. Dozens of times this happens. Every time she feels more guilty that she just doesn't have what it takes to make it in her own home business.
Every time this occurs she ends up exhausted on her couch. The funny thing is that the answer to her problem has been right under her nose all of the time. It happens to be staring up at her lovingly right this moment holding it's leash.
Her problem has been that she works a job she hates. She wants a way out and others are promising her a solution that just isn't suited to her. They make money doing it because they love it. She makes a little at it and quits because she can't stand that JOB either.
For them, it is a way of life and a passion. For her, it is just another JOB, yet with less starting salary. Her passion is for her pets, but she spends time trying to work up passion for other people's desires.
I will let you off the hook and tell you...Barbara's problem is that she is trying the WRONG home business for her. She should be starting a business where her passion is at. Instead, she just trys to imitate others who have completely different desires.
I wonder if that is your problem? If you can't wait to get off your job and get out to the golf course, but you are trying to sell health products, it won't work. If you only want to garden all of the time, but sell make-up, you are dead in the water before you ever start.
THE BEST WAY TO PRODUCE A LIFESTYLE YOU ENJOY IS BY DOING WHAT YOU LOVE!
Take off the blinders...Take off the limitations. What do you love doing? What are your hobbies? What is it that you think about every time you get a spare moment?
That is the BUSINESS for you to be in...Don't tell me it can't be done. I will just tell you to figure out how to do it.
Let's go back to Barbara...What should she be doing? How about being a pet sitter, dog walker, pet day care, pet groomer, or dog trainer? She could write books on pet training, animal grooming, etc. That could be an information business. It could be a service business. Don't put limitations on yourself or others.
Don't tell me it can't be done! On TV, I just heard about a DOG BAKERY which only sells gourmet dog treats. They have over a million in sales and 20,000 mail order clients besides what they have in their little shop. If you love it, you will find a way once you make up your mind!
For many of you reading this, you may be in the wrong business. You are making money (Or you aren't making money it doesn't matter), but you just aren't happy. Well, now you have it. Somebody was finally willing to tell you the truth of the matter.
Find your LOVE and you will find success. Yes, it will be hard starting out. It is in any business you get started in. If your business is also your passion and your hobby though, YOU WILL make it through and won't quit when it gets hard, because you LOVE it.
Take my quick test below and let me know how it turns out for you...(Email me at webmaster@bizpromo.com and let me know if you passed or failed)
1) Do You Dread Getting Out of Bed Every Morning?
2) Do you constantly wish you could obtain freedom in your life somehow?
3) Have you tried a home business before and failed?
4) Do you wonder if there is any purpose to your life?
5) Do you wish you could spend more time at your hobby than at your job?
If you answered "YES" to any of those questions, you have some thinking ahead of you. If you answered "YES" to all of them, you better do something in a hurry!
THE BEST WAY TO PRODUCE A LIFESTYLE YOU ENJOY IS BY DOING WHAT YOU LOVE!
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
7 Easy Creative Rituals to Spark Your Imagination and Inspire Your Soul
7 Easy Creative Rituals to Spark Your Imagination and
Inspire Your Soul
By Nancy Marmolejo
Creativity is a mysterious force that visits us with great ideas, new ways of seeing the world and the courage to do things differently. Revitalizing your creative talents will help you in the most unexpectedly wonderful ways: a new business idea, a renewed commitment to self-care, an appreciation for the beauty that lies all around us.
Finding a small bit of time each day to feed this force will not only reward you with increased creativity, but also an expanded sense of appreciation and gratitude for the creative process.
The following list highlights simple yet powerful actions you can take to spark your creative energy from the inside out.
1. Keep a Daily Journal
Use a journal to jot down the meandering thoughts of your mind. Write, draw, doodle, paste collages together. Stuck between your great ideas are random thoughts, mental notes, and menial observations. Use your journal as a place to deposit these thoughts, keeping your creative mental workspace clear. Think of it as feng shui for the mind, a way of keeping the creative juices flowing.
2. Create Sacred Space
Find a place in your home to keep inspiring, motivating and spiritually significant objects. Remind yourself that creativity flows like water and wind, that it is steadfast like earth and powerful like fire. Collect objects from nature to remind you of this. Place things that awe and inspire you, projects you're most proud of, and photos of people who support and encourage your creative action.
3. Reflection.
Reflection can be a minute of appreciating someone or something, or it can be a day of meditation and writing. Find ways to incorporate reflection into your daily routine, noting how experiences and interactions help you grow as a creative person. This is great for surveying what inspires you and what blocks you, what attracts you and what doesn't.
4. Get Away.
If you can, find some time to sneak away and enjoy a creative pleasure. It can be an hour wandering through a craft store, window shopping, a hike in nature or a visit to a special place. If you have kids and can't get away alone, don't worry. Enjoy the outing and reflect on it together. There are no rules to creative getaways. It is whatever touches you at that moment.
5. Do Something Loca.
What's something crazy you've always dreamed of doing but didn't because of insecurity, fear or intimidation? Make a pact with yourself to get to know your Inner Loca (or loco for you guys reading this) and find ways to let her out to play each and every day.
6. See the World Through a Child's Eyes.
Children have the amazing ability to be open to the possibilities of just about anything. Give yourself playtime to see the world through the eyes of a child. Sometimes it can be simply sitting on the floor and looking at a room from a new angle, or giving yourself permission to laugh and have fun.
7. Chart Your Course
It's one thing to dream of creative things and it's another thing to make them happen. Look at all the wonderful ideas you have and pick one to act upon. Make a commitment to do at least one daily action to support this idea. Doing the footwork to make your dream a reality will show you how easy it really is to turn ideas into action.
Ritual is a series of repeated acts. By incorporating creative ritual in your life, you will increase your innovation and creativity in ways that will surprise and delight you. Try at least one of these actions and feel your creativity grow!
Inspire Your Soul
By Nancy Marmolejo
Creativity is a mysterious force that visits us with great ideas, new ways of seeing the world and the courage to do things differently. Revitalizing your creative talents will help you in the most unexpectedly wonderful ways: a new business idea, a renewed commitment to self-care, an appreciation for the beauty that lies all around us.
Finding a small bit of time each day to feed this force will not only reward you with increased creativity, but also an expanded sense of appreciation and gratitude for the creative process.
The following list highlights simple yet powerful actions you can take to spark your creative energy from the inside out.
1. Keep a Daily Journal
Use a journal to jot down the meandering thoughts of your mind. Write, draw, doodle, paste collages together. Stuck between your great ideas are random thoughts, mental notes, and menial observations. Use your journal as a place to deposit these thoughts, keeping your creative mental workspace clear. Think of it as feng shui for the mind, a way of keeping the creative juices flowing.
2. Create Sacred Space
Find a place in your home to keep inspiring, motivating and spiritually significant objects. Remind yourself that creativity flows like water and wind, that it is steadfast like earth and powerful like fire. Collect objects from nature to remind you of this. Place things that awe and inspire you, projects you're most proud of, and photos of people who support and encourage your creative action.
3. Reflection.
Reflection can be a minute of appreciating someone or something, or it can be a day of meditation and writing. Find ways to incorporate reflection into your daily routine, noting how experiences and interactions help you grow as a creative person. This is great for surveying what inspires you and what blocks you, what attracts you and what doesn't.
4. Get Away.
If you can, find some time to sneak away and enjoy a creative pleasure. It can be an hour wandering through a craft store, window shopping, a hike in nature or a visit to a special place. If you have kids and can't get away alone, don't worry. Enjoy the outing and reflect on it together. There are no rules to creative getaways. It is whatever touches you at that moment.
5. Do Something Loca.
What's something crazy you've always dreamed of doing but didn't because of insecurity, fear or intimidation? Make a pact with yourself to get to know your Inner Loca (or loco for you guys reading this) and find ways to let her out to play each and every day.
6. See the World Through a Child's Eyes.
Children have the amazing ability to be open to the possibilities of just about anything. Give yourself playtime to see the world through the eyes of a child. Sometimes it can be simply sitting on the floor and looking at a room from a new angle, or giving yourself permission to laugh and have fun.
7. Chart Your Course
It's one thing to dream of creative things and it's another thing to make them happen. Look at all the wonderful ideas you have and pick one to act upon. Make a commitment to do at least one daily action to support this idea. Doing the footwork to make your dream a reality will show you how easy it really is to turn ideas into action.
Ritual is a series of repeated acts. By incorporating creative ritual in your life, you will increase your innovation and creativity in ways that will surprise and delight you. Try at least one of these actions and feel your creativity grow!
Those Love Letters...
Those Love Letters...
Mera kuch saamaan tumhare paas pada hai
saavan ke kuch bheege bheege din rakhe hain
aur mere ik khat main lipti raat padi hai
vo raat bhulaa do, mera vo saaman lauta do
ek so sola chaand ki ratain
ek tumhare kaandhe ka til
geeli mahendi ki khushbu,
jhoot mooth ke shikwe
kuch jhooth mooth ke wade
sab yaad karaa do sab bhijwa do,
mera vo saamaan lauta do…
Again beautiful lyrics by Gulzar…n such touching song….True feelings of any gal..who has lost her luv….first luv is always so special n important… It happened with me years back..but still is fresh in my mind….Kya kya nahi karte hai…pyaar me…send each other cards…gifts…hand written luv letters….everything possible that can b done to show to person u luv…show…how much u luv….flowers...n what not...
But what happens…when things go wrong…after years of being in luv…u don’t get him/her than…That’s what happened with me..as I had written abt it…..earlier….but good thing is we have lost every contact now….don’t mail each other anymore….don’t call each other….my reason is I want to move ahead n his reason could b he wants to save his marriage….n we both respect each others decision….not to stay in touch….but just wish…each other happiness….
But what happened to those innumerable letter I wrote to him, the cards I had send….spend soo many hours in decorating letters n cards ( only gals can do this ) and than couriered them….than waited for the response as to whether he liked them or not….even e-mails were very much there..but still when its first time luv…u end up doing such things…just to show how much u luv him….:-) BUT the BIG Question was….what after both decide to go separate path in life….what is to b done with those letters n cards now…..coz u cant keep something that’s no more part of ur life…n if they come in the hands of wife or husband than they can lead to problems in happy married life….n consequences can b terrible...
So to avoid all this from happening…He decided to return all those cards n letters back to me…he said keep them till I find a permanent home n than return them back to me…right now I cant keep them…..I said fine send them BACK..n I got a courier….Envelope filled with number of letters n cards…so much luv n efforts n time n money was spend on them…didn’t know than that one fine day they will come back to me…. I had them all in front of me…looking at them again became emotional…n my friends thought WOW she had received soo many cards….how could I have told her…NOO they r no more cards n letters they r BURDEN on someone n r RETURNED to me….:-(
I took them all home….n same day BURNED THEM in front of my eyes….could see my luv burning….my emotions burning….HE didn’t belong to me anymore…..HAD to accept that Hard Fact....
Yeh khwaab dekhti hoon main
Ke jag padi hoon khwaab se…..
I had forever burnt the memories of our luv…anything that proved that we ever luved each other were destroyed by him n me….He happily confessed he loved his wife too much n cant afford to loose her….due to his past…I m happy today…no more sad…as time is a great healer….n wished him….from my heart…..
Mubaarakein tumhe ke tum
Kisi ke noor ho gaye….
Kisi ke itne paas ho
Ke hum se door ho gaye…..
Kisi ka pyaar leke tum Naya jahan basaaoge…..aur KHUS raho..b Happy…Thanks for those few happy moments…which could not last long….but I m happy they were there for some time…
Many of us here must have faced similar situation…What did u ppl do with those letters n cards which were once symbol of ur luv….but later became Obstacle…
posted on Friday, June 10, 2005 9:05 AM
Comments
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sharlin kaur
Very nice and creative writing. I really like entertainment blogs and it really with new and updated things.
Posted @ 11/19/2008 5:24 PM
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amiee mabey
u should do a real love letter 4 yng kids n dat shit xx
Posted @ 3/25/2007 7:16 AM
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Anil
I can emphatise with you.Even i had returned everything back to her.It was not because i didnt love her anymore.It is not because i was scared the new woman in my life(Now my wife) would get hurt.Even before i got married I told my wife all about that special girl who was part of my life.She understands.
Not everythings is perfect in this world.But whatever happens always happens for the good.Your beautiful blog brought back old memories. Things have changed and we are happy with our own lives.Dont keep in touch much but those memories are special.Dont need cards and photos to remember them.They are forever imprinted in the heart.
And life is different now and my wife is the best thing that has ever happened to me.She is now more special that anyone else in this whole wide world.
I guess only a woman can understand another woman.Though my wife wouldnt really be comfortable talking to her, she knows how difficult things would have been for us before we broke up.Sigh..!! Zindagi bhi ajeeb hai.Agar aisi mushkiley naa ho tho phir jeeney mein kya mazaa!!
Posted @ 2/25/2007 7:57 AM
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Romance Master
Un belivabil grat this new idea
Posted @ 1/31/2007 10:11 PM
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Negesse Tilaye
I have got this letter writing from internet web site I have deep interest to communicate with love or my partner by this good letter.
Posted @ 4/6/2006 6:12 PM
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Downtoearth
Beatirce..hii..
Its good u could keep those letters n pictures with u...n u still sit back n read n look at those letters..n u have been doing that since 25 yrs now... thats amazing...
That must b true love...Many had true love but not many have courage to keep those proof of once being in love....
Posted @ 2/7/2006 5:25 PM
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Beatirce (liltexas36@yahoo)
To tell you the truth ..I still have letters and pictures saved in a suitcase with important papers that hardly gets taken out of closet....When ever i have to look for something In the case I sit down and stat going through all the pictures and the letters and the cards that He (ex) send to me....
I can't get myself to get rid of them...they are like 25 year old letters ...I am 43 years old now and still can't get rid of them!!!
Posted @ 1/12/2006 8:18 PM
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deepak
hi vinya i love u for evr i truely and madly love u for ever and y dont u just think abt me and care abt m
Posted @ 10/31/2005 12:38 PM
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Downtoearth
WILD_ROSES..hii..
Hey nice to hear that...now life is becoming easier n things r fine now... I m happy to hear that dear...
May ur happines last forever..n loads of good wishes to u too.. Take care...:-)
luckyrahul...hii..
U can write too..so start blogging...n share ur thoughts n feelings with world....n O3 is best place to blog...
Thanks for liking all that i have writen...:-)
All the Best to u...:-)
Posted @ 9/17/2005 11:07 AM
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luckyrahul
Even I love blogging, and I have been following what down to earth has written in almost all the blogs as talking abt such emotional things is great. I feel now adays we are not even able to share such things with our parents and there are very few friends to share with, instead there are many such websites which encourage us to reveal our feelings. this is simply cool
Posted @ 9/17/2005 5:23 AM
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luckyrahul
hi all,
I just enjoy reading all ur blogs. its amazing
Posted @ 9/17/2005 5:20 AM
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WILD_ROSES
hi dte....
hwzzzzzzz u.......know wht after understandin thing..
and takin as they cumm....life becomes much...easier..
knw wht ...dte. thingzzzz r sooooo fine now...cant explain ya.......
tc.....loads of gud wishes....
Posted @ 9/16/2005 9:53 AM
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Downtoearth
WILD_ROSES..hii...
Thanks for going...through my posts...n thanks for appreciating...what I did with those memories...
Well u know life becomes difficult...when we regret our decession...so try not to repent n regret...n stay happy...:-)
Well it hapens..how can we easily forget the person we loved...we can destroy...thosephysical memories but cant destroy memories from our heart.... well I know we feel someday he might cvallup n atleast ask.'hoz u' but it never happens..but good...naa...He has forgotten us...or maybe pretend o forget us...
I know it hurts....but cant domuch...we have to feel happy to see him/her happy....:-)
Thanks for wonderful comments here...
Posted @ 9/12/2005 9:54 AM
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WILD_ROSES
hiya
dte...know wht i realy feel like sayin dis to u
sum 1 i real y loved is married now....but dis all
happned so sooooooon tht 44 i cud realize evertthin
was gone....now i regret bigggggggggtime.....n
everyday,,i wait thinkin tht sum day he will cal me to ask ...".hwz u"....but...dayz r jus passin..n i
feel tht was my love sooooo easy for jim to forget..
tht he cant even make a cal..??
it realy hurtzzzzzzzzz
thought i happy 4 him...but it hurtz....
?
Posted @ 9/11/2005 11:16 PM
# re: Those Love Letters...
WILD_ROSES
Hi.........
felt realy touched....when went thru all above...
kept on readin again...n again...coz everythin. seemzzz so much similar...ey i realy appreicate...wht u did...wid d sweeeeet memories...
but i regret....coz i realy miss sum 1 who nomore belongs to me....guess i dint get him coz of my mistaske,,,,perhhapz mistakes....but life goes on//////
Posted @ 9/11/2005 9:31 PM
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Downtoearth
kllloo
Love is not at all so difficult...to get...Only some dont get it...
Its the most beautiful thing in this world....
Posted @ 7/30/2005 2:32 PM
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kllloo
would you say love is so difficult why you say love mother love father love friend love jesus why you so difficult say "love " this world you donot say love someone who how to know you love her(he) is it very like kill you which say" i love you"why
Posted @ 7/30/2005 2:05 PM
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PG
hey DTE...
its me PG
i created my new blog site..my new address is -----
http://o3.indiatimes.com/
so i will shout from here now on.....Ok
haffun
cheers
Posted @ 7/18/2005 12:05 PM
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Downtoearth
PG...
U r not boring anyone...Welcome to O3...n yes do read blogs n comment... U too Have Fun....:-)
Posted @ 7/18/2005 11:38 AM
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PG
Hey DTE..
thanx for the help.. i feel u r right behind me to help...thanx a sack
i shall go thru few blogs n comment.....
i feel now am in a lot ....as all these days i was so lonely.....
i really like this...
hope i am not boring neone....
sorry guys if i am.. :-)
haffun
Posted @ 7/18/2005 11:01 AM
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Downtoearth
PG...
Visit....http://o3.indiatimes.com or http://o3.indiatimes.com/search.aspx
And visit the Blogs there....read n than comment whatever u feel...this way u will ppl will know u n will check ur blog n will comment there....
If u need further help...just leave a comment on my shout box...:-)
Posted @ 7/18/2005 10:48 AM
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PG
so how do i do this...can u guide me...i also like to listen to others and comment..i mean it...let me know..who knows i may learn something from those blogs...so i eagerly look for those...
please let me kno...
Posted @ 7/18/2005 10:44 AM
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Downtoearth
PG hii again...
Well Yes I feel Lucky abt it..got ppl here who care for me...
Well u too will get comments...u know u have to read others blogs too..n share ur comments there..this will make them realise...okk u too have a blog...n u need help....
Have a good day ahead n All the Best...
Posted @ 7/18/2005 10:32 AM
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PG
hey..
saw ur comment felt good...but i dont see much help as u r getting here....u r very lucky..u have so many ppl to help u out here...
i wish had these kind of comments in my blog also.....it makes me feel good whn i see urs...i wish the same for me also...
hope u will help me for few days.......
take care
Posted @ 7/18/2005 10:21 AM
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Downtoearth
PG hii...
Well just read ur Blog...n commented there....
Hope our comments will Help u...n All the best...
Posted @ 7/16/2005 9:03 AM
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PG
hi DTE
i saw this blog today felt very heart touching as some of things are close to mine break up with my gal;saw ppls response n bloggin....felt really good..as such am blogging abt my story....could u pls suggest or provide ur comments for me ...
hey ppl...
u also need to put ur comments for me...let me know wht am thinking is normal or not....or wht shud i think ?
my blog address - http://o3.indiatimes.com/brokenkeart
Please help this guy.......
Posted @ 7/15/2005 7:10 PM
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Downtoearth
Uptown Girl hii...
Yes u r right..we can never ever give up...the things that remind us abt them.... I had emails too some time back..but than deleted them....was trying to forget him....but I know destroying tangable things will not help....
Thanks for ur comment here...
Posted @ 7/15/2005 4:34 PM
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Uptown Girl
Amazing blog...no matter how hurt we are in love, we can never completely give up the things that remind us about them. The letters, the mails, the scribbled notes, the chat conversations, the smses...
Just so difficult to let go isn't it?
Posted @ 7/15/2005 4:04 PM
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Downtoearth
Ray of Hope...hii
U r loving that guy..without expecting love in return..well thats true love...N good u never build up any hopes frm him..thats why u r not hurt...
I wish u get love of ur life soon n who will give u love in return of ur love...coz Life has to go on...
Its nice to know u still love him....
All the Best to u.....
Posted @ 7/6/2005 9:26 AM
# re: Those Love Letters...
Ray of Hope
hi.. read that blog.. nad felt the pain that u have gone thru.. its nt tht i had a relationship.But i loved a guy n still loves him. I dont talk to him now on phone or direct or i dont see him..as he's no more in the same city.. i told him tht i love him.but he simply gave reply tht we 'll be friends.. n tht's the only time we talked abt love though i spoke to him few times on phone nad also on chat windows for long hours.. we never came across the love. n it do hurt me to the core of my heart, but i dont have a choice..n i dunno abt him. dunno whether he ever loved me.. n i thank him for one thing. he never gave me any hope.. at times when he hit my id, i happily say hi.. n bye.. and thats all.. i dont hate him...love him always..
Posted @ 7/5/2005 4:52 PM
# re: Those Love Letters...
downtoearth
Bhavesh....
Thanks for ur comment....
Well yeah he could have kept them with himself...but He said he didnt have place to keep them..I mean hide them from his wife...so he returned.....
Yeah it was painful...but atleast those letters which could have proved my love to him no more exist in this world....thats what he wanted....
Thanks for ur wishes...
Posted @ 6/22/2005 5:25 PM
# re: Those Love Letters...
Bhavesh
Hi there,
According to me you should have not accepted those letters from him. those are your feelings which you had sent to him, and i think its his belongings. Let him decide what has to be done with those letters and cards.
May be he must have done the same thing. At-least you would have not gone through that pain.
anyways. take Care. All the Best
Bhavesh
Posted @ 6/22/2005 5:14 PM
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downtoearth
Rajdeep..hii..
U r never later to comment..i always check back...
Even i didnt wanted to burn those letters...but didnt wanted to see him in trouble due to my letters n cards...n i knew he would have never asked them back...so I got rid of them....n set his free of burden of my love...
It was not easy I cried a lot....it was not at all easy to burn them...but that was the choice I had to make him happy but i have what he gave me....
Thanks for liking my blog...
Posted @ 6/22/2005 4:39 PM
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Rajdeep
Dear Downtoearth,
I have gone through your blog little lately. But I like it. Everybody have to move on in life and for that it is necessary to left behind the past. But according to me it is not a way to get pass the past. U can make that pain the strength of your life.
As I have gone through the same. She is now married to another guy. But I didnot burn any single thing that we share. I kept all her mails in my personal diary. Whenever I miss her i use to read them and feel her very close to me. She also didnot burn my things till I know. As I know may be she is staying in other world now but my memories will always cherise in her mind like her in my heart.
Anyway thanks for the blog .... It's very nice read.
Posted @ 6/22/2005 1:08 PM
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downtoearth
Sweetd...
Yeah its very difficult to actually BURN them..but than one has to do that so that we dont get hurt again n again by seeing them...coz that will remind us of our failed luv....Yesi agree love can actually Kill one.....
Thanks for ur comment....
Posted @ 6/20/2005 8:56 AM
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Sweetd
Ive been through this before! ive still got the letters and stuff and i dont know shud i do as u did burn them?..some part of my heart cant...but im waiting for the right day where ill do them! cuz i cant bare look at them just breaks my heart...i have his letters and writings...and because of this incident i dont keep anything to remind me of any luv that i get involved in...some part of my heart died cuz love can really kill!:)
Posted @ 6/18/2005 9:19 PM
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downtoearth
scarlett..hii..
Thanks for reading what I write....n appreciation is all I need..." the big small gal" is very special post to me...n it was not easy to write my feeling till date down....
Yes luv can last for a lifetime..n when we decide to move seperate ways in life the sweet memories of the luv which was once...stays inone corner of our heart forever...
My Age....well thats for u to guess...:-))
Posted @ 6/17/2005 11:51 AM
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scarlett
well..exactly...love can last for a life time..but i guess we shd keep tht peron in a seperate corner in our heart,be happy abt it n move it,right??..i've read quite few of ur articles DTE..n the article "the big small girl" was really touchin..i was wonderin..wht's ur age??..
scarlett
Posted @ 6/17/2005 11:41 AM
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downtoearth
scarlett...
U r not late to comment....
Well its upto u to decide that will u go back to him after being seperated..but i m sure his letters n stuff will never let u forget his love for u....
Great to hear that u feel happy even now....yes luv is such....leaves u feeling happy....Like its said naa Luv can touch u one time n last for a life time.........
Posted @ 6/16/2005 4:32 PM
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scarlett
well...wht can i say,i guess i atad bit late on commentin on this ...but it truly gels with..i read his letters n check out other stuff from time to time..but afer 9 months of being sseperated..i think,if he calls me bsck,wud i go back??..dunno the answer..but i was the happiest person in tht one year...i''ve known great love..n it was worht it!!..
Posted @ 6/16/2005 2:30 PM
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downtoearth
Pearl...
Yes...He didnt have heart to destroy them himself..so though of returning back to me..infact he had asked me to keep them with me for some time...n later on return back....BUT i thought he will b in constant risk n will always fear that someone maybe his wife or later in life his kids might find out...Soo to save him from all that situations which could have arised in future...I took decession of burning them forver....
He was sad n was angry when heard that..but could not do anything....
But i m happy like u..n have whatever gifts n cards he gave me...I have them n will cherish them all my life...
U r right Practically speaking i would have destroyed what he gave me..if I would have found out he was fake or lying....but i knew he was not...So kept them....n just burned his burden....
Posted @ 6/14/2005 12:31 PM
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pearl
no we cannot specify w.r.t gals only. this happens with boys too. even they cannot part.n as u have mentioned until single, the day u will settle down even u will and u should. i would say that person who returned to u had only the option of returning it to u may be coz he cared for ur n his feelings - coz it would be hard for him too, to destroy it.
y? i m holding on is becoz that person was always concerned that i never loose wat he gave me. and they will remain with me until some earthquake or toronado hits up. i mean a natural calamity can make me part with it but not the rest of the world.
n practically, if the feelings are today found to be fake, we find that the person we were involved with did not have genuine involvement with us, it makes no sense to keep on the memories.
Posted @ 6/14/2005 12:15 PM
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downtoearth
Pearl...
I m sure u r single now...so till we r single we can afford to take that risk of keeping what was given to us with us...n to tellu the truth..gal r lil more emotional....even i have the cards he gave me...I have just burned what he returned what all I gave him....dont have heart to burn what he gave me....
Posted @ 6/14/2005 12:04 PM
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pearl
but at personal end, i m carrying the risk, i hold on to wat my luv given me, though i know we wont and cannot stay to gether.
Posted @ 6/14/2005 11:48 AM
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xxx-vote4 ur fav blog/bloger-chck my post 4details
may be you'll are talking of the same friend :D
Posted @ 6/14/2005 10:02 AM
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downtoearth
Hii Pearl...
Yeah see same thing happend with ur friend's friend...
Its a hard fact n bitter truth..that when the two ppl in luv cant get together...than those momentos of luv has to b destroyed either by burning...tearing or floating....
Thats the sad end they get....
Posted @ 6/14/2005 9:55 AM
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pearl
i can just narrate about a freind of mine, who told me about one of his freind who when was going to get married gave all the cards and letters to him to either bury, burn or float them off in water! coz he did not have the gutts to do so. the girl with whom he was in luv was settled in another country and the boys mother was not ready to let him go.
Posted @ 6/14/2005 9:44 AM
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downtoearth
XXX...
Well thats good atleast now u make it a point to keep all the stuff that ur gf gives u.....good to hear u ant to keep them for urself n not coz she might get hurt....:-)
Posted @ 6/14/2005 8:35 AM
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xxx-vote4 ur fav blog/bloger-chck my post 4details
dte
those were letters of my ex, so it did not matter.
but i do keep all the stuff of my girl now, I don't do it because she might get hurt, but because i want to.
Posted @ 6/13/2005 5:32 PM
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downtoearth
XXX....
Now thats very rude..I mean u just threw those letters like rest of the garbage !!!!!
Maybe u r too Practical....n u r not emotional...BUT a suggestion...dont let ur gf know that u dont value her letters...okk...coz gals r very emotional..she might get hurt.....
Posted @ 6/13/2005 5:20 PM
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xxx-vote4 ur fav blog/bloger-chck my post 4details
hi DTE
well for guys its much easier to do away with those memories, i remember finding a few letters of my ex , i just threw them out like i threw the rest of the garbage
take care
Posted @ 6/13/2005 5:05 PM
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v_blog
thanx....
Posted @ 6/13/2005 3:47 PM
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downtoearth
talktome..hii..
Thanks for ur comment....
Yeah...I Burned that Burden which he had....on him...n this has set both of us free...
Tomar...
Good....All the Best for anything u do....n give me some good news in this regards soon...:-))
Posted @ 6/13/2005 3:43 PM
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v_blog
Let c wot hapn these daz i m trying my luck on somone
so lets c whether it reaches the apogee of attraction or just ends in perfunctory meets....wish me luck.......
Posted @ 6/13/2005 3:35 PM
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talktome
While reading ur blog, I realised, there is very little difference between the way we spell BURDEN and BURNED...good u burned the burden!
Posted @ 6/13/2005 3:33 PM
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downtoearth
Tomar..
Thats g8..so u had gala time..with friends....:-)
Well I wish ur whole week is gr8....n u keep on having gala time..:-)
Posted @ 6/13/2005 3:19 PM
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v_blog
My weekend was gr88
freaked out with friends........... one of my friend came home from hydrabad as he was leaving for usa on tuesday nite.......so had a gala time......
Posted @ 6/13/2005 3:07 PM
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downtoearth
Ram...
Yes so I write...what i feel i can write about...:-)
Tomar hii...
Good afternoon...
My weekend wa ok...how was urs???
Posted @ 6/13/2005 2:49 PM
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v_blog
Hi DTE,
Howz ur weekend.
Posted @ 6/13/2005 2:43 PM
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Ram
Dte,
Anywayz...each one knows what they are better at :)
Posted @ 6/13/2005 11:58 AM
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downtoearth
Buddy....
I m sorry.....:-(
Now i too wish...u had one of her letters....
Ram...
Well I appreciate ur suggestion....but again same answer u were missing since few days...well n if u take a look u will find post on different issues..apart from relationships...:-)
And I write what i can write about...coz u need to have lil bit of knowledge n expereince before writing abt something...
Posted @ 6/13/2005 11:26 AM
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Ram
Dte,
GM . Oh ok.
If i cud tell u something, u cud possibly write differently other than realtionships..! Just a constructive suggestion!
Posted @ 6/13/2005 11:20 AM
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idiot
she stopped becoz it was one way traffic all the way.
she cant write anything now buddy.
they dont have a mailing service frm heaven to earth!!!!
Posted @ 6/13/2005 11:19 AM
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downtoearth
Ram hii
Good Morning....
Ram...these r not seperate relationships.....if u have read previous posts than u will come they know I m talking in context to previous post n relationship only...
Posted @ 6/13/2005 11:14 AM
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Ram
Hey dte,
Howz u doing?
yet another blog on ur relationships!!!!!!
So, how did u manage so many relationships, after all?
Posted @ 6/13/2005 11:08 AM
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downtoearth
patakha...hii....
Yeh Sher bahut acche hai....specially the first one by Akhtar Sheerani....
miT chale merii umiido.n kii tarah harf magar
aaj tak tere Khato.n se terii Khushbuu na ga_ii
Thanks for sharing....here....
Posted @ 6/13/2005 10:19 AM
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patakha
miT chale merii umiido.n kii tarah harf magar
aaj tak tere Khato.n se terii Khushbuu na ga_ii
[Akhtar Sheerani]
kyaa kyaa fareb dil ko diye iztiraab me.n
un kii taraf se aap likhe Khat javaab me.n
[Daag Dehlvi]
Posted @ 6/13/2005 10:14 AM
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downtoearth
Buddy hii..
Good Morning...Yeah my weekends r always boring...but did something good..cleaned my room...:-)
Why u destroyed but??? See now u r wishing ki u had one....
Anyways ask her to write more....:-)I think she came to know that u r destroying her letters that why she stopped writing..right??
Posted @ 6/13/2005 10:08 AM
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idiot
hii buddy
so back at work after the boring weekend?
i never wrote a love letter!!!
and those i recieved , i destroyed.
and after sometime, she got annoyed and stopped writing!!!
and now i wish i had at least one she wrote.but i have none :(
Posted @ 6/13/2005 9:59 AM
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downtoearth
AngelzFear...
Good atleast u have decided to keep that diary with u forever..unlike me.....
Jaded hii...
Thanks for ur comment...
He had fear that his wife may gethold of them n than it will create trouble for him...so returned....n how could i see those letters just lying with me....when those were burden onhim..than what the the point of my keeping them with me...so i deceided to burn them...n informed him....ur trouble is over forever....
Posted @ 6/13/2005 8:38 AM
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jaded
Really nice post dte....straight from the heart.....
that guy really returned ur letters....what a moron....he lives a mole hill or something,didnt have space...huh!......sorry for that .....if u still ave feelings for him......but its just that i havent heard of something like this b4........and u burnt them all..how bold was that.....right step definitely....really dte and practical thing to do....
Posted @ 6/12/2005 10:42 PM
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AngelzFear
Hi,
yeah the diary is still with me......but safe under lock and key .....so that nobody ever again gets to have a peep into that day again.
Posted @ 6/12/2005 8:40 PM
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downtoearth
Amar..hii..
Thanks....Yeah that what i feel...experience teaches u something everytime...n I have taken +tive from it...n today i m happy....abt it..:-)
X8...
I think u r right...Thanks 4 ur comment...
Posted @ 6/11/2005 4:26 PM
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Amar
if u r breaking apart...better remove all the traces as it wont hunt u later..though one wll never be able to 'burn' the emotional scars...its life...face it and move ahead...everything , each experience teaches you something, gives you something...take the +ve from everything and look forward for the good.
Posted @ 6/11/2005 4:15 PM
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x8
something must b there .......some 1 better.........some 1 who will b just fit for u .........y no 1 was till now may b bcoz the time has'nt ripen...........or they may b not so capable 2 understand u ..........some 1 who want u in the same way u want........or may b something else........
4 uke ghar mein der hai andher nahin........
Posted @ 6/11/2005 12:29 PM
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downtoearth
Hii Leon...
Nice to see ur comment....
Yesit hard when the other person dosent realise how much u love her...it must have been tough n difficult for u...
Buti was lucky didnt face this problem...but than everything ended...n I m happy person now...single n alone but happy....:-)
So as i always say time is a big healer...things will b fine at ur end too..one fine day..so dont worry n b happy n positive...
Posted @ 6/11/2005 10:57 AM
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leon_nerd
Hi DTE.
I know how hard it is to do that. But u know it pains so much. Its not that we wasted time to decorating those things...searching the market for the right gift....but the fact that our gifts....cannot make the other person realise how much we love them. This might not be ur case but it happened to me. I roamed like crazy in the markets searching for a the right gift but in the end.....she didn't even realie that how much i love her.
Posted @ 6/11/2005 10:49 AM
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downtoearth
Lark Good Morning...:-)
I m good....
Well me too working as always but not alone...n listening to music...:-)
Posted @ 6/11/2005 10:48 AM
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lark
Good Morning DTE,
Howz you?? hey this sat also i have to work..its so boring when no one is in the office and ;you are the only one who has to work..........what about you???
Posted @ 6/11/2005 10:41 AM
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downtoearth
sayan331 hii...
I think u r still single...n that makes it possible for u to keep everything of hers by ur side....but i m sure things will change when u will marry....coz than u will not want ur prospective wife to have some mis-understanding coz of ur past..right....
Till u r single u can keep them n feel good n remember ur old good times spend together n asu say may be u will come out stronger...
Thanks for ur comment....
Posted @ 6/11/2005 9:35 AM
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sayan331
Hey...touching one..really touching one....I have kept all of them...I have kept everything of hers...I want to get rid of things by keeping them at my side...will come out stronger I guess. And I guess....I am much stronger than I was 14 months ago !!
Posted @ 6/11/2005 9:27 AM
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downtoearth
shalz hii again...:-)
Yeah i decided to move on....he wanted me to keep those letters with me..he never imagined in his dreams also that I will Burn them...but later I told him...Dont worry I m OUT of UR Life Forever...n Never ever u will hear from me or see me....
N I did that....I m hapy abt my decession..but it took some time I mean years to come out...But now I have completely overcome that n I can smile now n feel happy abt whole thing....:-)
U too have a nice day....:-)
Posted @ 6/11/2005 9:09 AM
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shalz
hi dte:)
i feel if one has decided to move on, then the break should be clean and complete, no point in holding onto to letters n cards n the like.tossing out of false sentiment is important, it helps in the healing process and the resolving of feelings.
i liked your take on it, that he wanted you to hold on to those things,and u decided not to. u took the power in your hands, and thts gr8.
have a nice day:)
Posted @ 6/11/2005 8:59 AM
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downtoearth
idontknowwhoim...hii again....
U seem to express urself everytime with these beautiful lyrics...n each time they r soo good....
Specially this one....tooo touching...
tere khushboo meiN basay khat main jalata kaisay
pyaar mein doobay huye khat main jalata kaisay
teray haathoN ke likhay khat main jalata kaisay
jinko duniya ki nigaahoN say chupayey rakha
jinko ik umar kalayjay say lagayay rakha
deen jinko jinhay imaan banaay rakha
jinka har lafz mujhay yaad paani ki tarah
yaad they mujko jo paigaam-e-zubaani ki tarah
mujko jo pyaarey they anmol nishani ki tarah
toone duniya ki nigaahoN say jo bach kar likhay
saal-ha-saal mere naam barabar likhay
kabhi din mein to kabhi raat ko uTh kar likhay
teray khat aaj main Ganga mein baha aaya hooN
aag behtay huye paani meiN laga aaya hooN
Posted @ 6/11/2005 8:45 AM
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downtoearth
AnglezFear hiii...
Thanks again or telling me that...thats very nice of u to tell that every time...:-)
Yeah AF sometimes...any proof which symbolises ourlove for that person is bad...we can only have their momories in out heart...form where no one can destroy it....cards, letters n diaries can b easily b destroyed just to satisfy ourself ki okk see we have forgotten them....
Thanks for comment from home....:-)
Hope everything at ur end is cool now...where is that diary now??? still with u kya????
Posted @ 6/11/2005 8:42 AM
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idontknowwhoim
the last three depicts something,it's only the cycle and nothing else
Posted @ 6/10/2005 6:38 PM
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idontknowwhoim
tere khushboo meiN basay khat main jalata kaisay
pyaar mein doobay huye khat main jalata kaisay
teray haathoN ke likhay khat main jalata kaisay
jinko duniya ki nigaahoN say chupayey rakha
jinko ik umar kalayjay say lagayay rakha
deen jinko jinhay imaan banaay rakha
jinka har lafz mujhay yaad paani ki tarah
yaad they mujko jo paigaam-e-zubaani ki tarah
mujko jo pyaarey they anmol nishani ki tarah
toone duniya ki nigaahoN say jo bach kar likhay
saal-ha-saal mere naam barabar likhay
kabhi din mein to kabhi raat ko uTh kar likhay
teray khat aaj main Ganga mein baha aaya hooN
aag behtay huye paani meiN laga aaya hooN
Posted @ 6/10/2005 6:35 PM
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idontknowwhoim
abkehum bichDe to shaayad kabhi khwaaboN meiN mile
jis tarah sookhe huye phool kitaaboN meiN mile
dhoonD uJde huye logon meiN wafa ke moti
ye khazane tuJhe mumkin hai kharaboN meiN mile
tu khuda hai na mera ishq faristoN jaisa
dono insaaN haiN to inum itne hijaaboN mein mile
gham-e-duniya bhi gham-e-yaar meiN shaamil kar lo
nasha behta hai sharaaboN meiN to sharaboN meiN mile
ab laboN meiN hooN na tu hai na wo maaji hai faraaq
jaise do saaye tamaana ke saraabOn meiN mile
Posted @ 6/10/2005 6:31 PM
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idontknowwhoim
apne haathoN kee lakiroN meiN basa le muJhko
main hooN tera to naseeb apna bana le muJhko
muJhse too poochne aaya hai wafa ke maani
ye teri saadaa-dili maar na Daale muJhko
khud ko maiN baaNt na DaalooN kahiN daaman-daaman
kar diya tune agar mere hawaale muJhko
waada fir waada hai maiN zehar bhi pee jaaooN 'qateel'
shaRt ye hai koi baahoN meiN sambhaale muJhko
Posted @ 6/10/2005 6:10 PM
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guess
nope! didnt put on [more!! -chuckle!! :D] weight(lucky me!!)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 5:10 PM
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AnglezFear
Hi DTE,
woman u r tooo frank .and palin and simple....now I would have told u that any number of times...but but...everytime i have to tell u that again.....
now coming to your post....well...since u read crybaby...u have a fair idea about my love life...the day everything blew up...I made a last ditch attempt...gave a card to the gal...with everything written...she took it....read it..and after some time...that card was returned to me cause she said...she couldn't keep it...I tore it rite infront of her and threw it down the gutter to satisfy my ego..
and then i wrote 20 pages that nite in my private diary[only time i ever wrote in my diary].....and two yrs later...that diary fell in my mom's hand....and then there was an storm in home....but luckily my father managed everything...and I didn't have to do any explaining
Posted @ 6/10/2005 5:08 PM
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downtoearth
Prasad...
Thanks for ur good wishes....
Reyn...hii...
Seeing ur comment after long time..how r u doing?After that confusion with CC u dissapeared...:-))
Thanks for liking this post...
Yes Reyn..I have myself expereinced this n now I know Time is the great Healer...n i can think abt him n smile...while few years back alli used to do was just cry...so it happened with time...
U too have a gr8 evening...
Sapphire...
U r stronger than me...coz u still see them n have courage to face those letters n cards...which I didnt have....so i opted that path....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 5:07 PM
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sapphire
u sure have a strong will power..i never had the heart to do something like this.......
Posted @ 6/10/2005 4:55 PM
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reyn
DTE!!!
How're you doing? =)
A well-written post again!!!
"..could see my luv burning….my emotions burning…." - yes, as they say.. "The first cut is the deepest" :)
Your decision to burn them was absolutely right, though the memories and feelings wouldn't burn away as quickly as those papers filled with love did...
and yes, time IS the best healer. I looked at the 'clock' in your blog and smiled =)
Have a great evening!!
Posted @ 6/10/2005 4:52 PM
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prasad
DTE,
Ur so rite.
I wish u get the very best tht life has to offer.
Posted @ 6/10/2005 4:50 PM
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downtoearth
Tomar...
Thats exactaly we all do..ONLY very few have courage to go through pain of seeing those things again n again...n remember good times spent together...
So we tend to return anything that will remind us of that person.....n try to forget...its like Out of sight..Out of Mind.....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 4:49 PM
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v_blog
Yess becoz thats remind me of her so i returned that........
Posted @ 6/10/2005 4:39 PM
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downtoearth
Tomar hii...
Thanks for liking this post...
Well its depends from person to person, u r right there...but One thing is there..that we would never like to see the person we once loved unhappy...soo if thses things make them unhappy or become burden than its better to get rid of them...
I even deleted innumerable e-mails he had send...coz never wanted to read anything related to him n me again....
So see u too had returned the gift she once gave u...
Posted @ 6/10/2005 4:30 PM
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v_blog
Hi Dte,
So another goood blog from you..........
I think all these thngs depend person to person. Some people think that they sud not posses any item given by their beloved when its over and some people use to keep those things. Everybody has his/her own reason to slake him/herself. I agree when it is over both ends find themselves in a eldritch situation even then they try to indurate that it is over.When my relationship was over i profusely thanked her for everythng she did for me and returned that single gift she had given to me..........
Posted @ 6/10/2005 4:22 PM
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downtoearth
Guess hii...
Well sad to know same thing happend with u too...even u had to burn them....:-(
Yes its very depressing....n heart breaking...buring something which once u wrote n posted...is all returned to u...
So u ate loads of ice-cream to fight back depression...well hope u didnt end up putting weight....:-)
But I m sure buring them had helped u n me to move ahead with life without looking back....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 3:35 PM
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guess
hi! wonderful post dte!! didnt read others' comments though!
i too got back my cards and letters and was forced to burn them
that was the first time i felt depression and i remember i ate loads of icecream !! :(
Posted @ 6/10/2005 3:26 PM
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downtoearth
Prasad...hii...
I said He is Happy....that mean I m Happy too...as i said before too we both have decided to move ahead with out life without being in touch...coz talking n exchanging mails can bring back those memories of the past which we have managed to forget....
Yes u r right ...The most difficult thing to do is to watch the person u love, love somebody else...BUT I feel Happy atleast at some point that personi loved ..loved me too....n I feel happy abt it...:-)
I just hope n wish he gives same luv to his wife too...atleast he is not cheating her....
And its said Naa...NO news is always Good News...soo like wise no communication is Best communication...:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 3:22 PM
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Prasad
Hi DTE,
Well u said it....u can both feel gud and bad abt the things tht has happended and it is for u to decide.
I saw in one comment tht u have written tht he is happy.....but are u?????? and i think u should b.
The most difficult thing to do is to watch the person u love, love somebody else.
Yes it is a very thin line between friendship and love....but if u r in love wit a friend...ru really being a gud friend 'cause how will u feel when they talk abt their marriage to someother person....will u feel happy for a friend. It is better to let go than to b friends wit the person who is rippin ur heart without knowining.
Posted @ 6/10/2005 3:14 PM
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lark
Very true dte, the person didnt had courage to share with his life partner......
YOu have a wonderful day!!!
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:58 PM
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downtoearth
Die Hard Indian
Hii...Thanks for ur comment...
So I think I did right thing by destroying them coz that could have caused trouble for him n me in our married life....n its better to end the traces n proof of that relationship which could not survive...
Well i m sure most ppl like you n me would have destroyed them for our better future....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:57 PM
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Die Hard Indian
DTE
It is a wonderful post. It does remind me of my first love ....which too like most others came to an end. I did treasure the love letters ...gifts for quite some time. But before my marriage....i too destroyed them to guard against any problems that i might encounter when my wife discovers them.
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:54 PM
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downtoearth
namita...hiii...
What ever u wrote i can relate myself with it...cox I havebeen through similar situations....if u would have read my posts u would come to know...had series of broken affairs...n each time..when i was going through some rough time..or was trying to forget my lost love someone supported me n than we became friends n than luv....but than each one left me....n its very painful to let them go...but its coz we luv each other that we want the ppl we luv to b Happy...n if staying in touch or talking hurts n brings back the pain than its Better to stop n avoid any contact...n just wish them happiness....
And yes there is very very thin line between friendship n luv...n many times ppl have been hurt coz they failed to understand wheather its luv of just plain friendship...
And once u luv a friends than it becomes hard to get that friend back.....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:54 PM
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downtoearth
Lark hii Good afternoon....
This shows u have courage to share abt ur relationship with ur prospective hubby n u would assume him to understand this too..ki yes its okk as these days everyone has at least once been into relationship....n u expect him to understand this..coz that was ur past...n ur Hubby will b ur present n future...
But dear in my case He didnt have that courage...otherwise he could have kept them n shared with his wife...but he didnt...he wanted me to keep them but instead i destroyed them.....for His better future.....
I still have One Only card he gave me...coz I think I have courage to share it with my future hubby....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:45 PM
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namita
friendship and love have a very thin line dividing it and i never knew when i crossed the line... the only time i knew it was love was when i had to leave it...the pain and the strong emotions which i felt at the time of leaving left me baffled. my 2nd love was also something which i never admitted... i knew something this nice cannot stay with me for long...in fact it was this person who was my anchor while i was hurting from the loss of my 1st love. he sailed me thru and made me laugh during my difficult times...and then fell in love with me(i too loved him though i did not admit it for fear of hurting him)
and then the day when we had to part and we decided to keep in touch but the 2nd mail from him requested me not to write anymore since he had difficulty forgetting me and since he was such a sweet friend i no longer wrote...i wanted him to heal i dunno whether his scars have healed but i want my friend back. i think 6 yrs is a long period to heal...
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:41 PM
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downtoearth
sapphire..hii...
Yeah if I too would have kept them than like u I too would have read n smiled n missed him...so never wanted to keep something which he didnt want to keep with me...
He still have few gifts I gave coz they didnt have my name on them....
Buddy...
Good keep on trying n u will suceed one fine day...:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:39 PM
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lark
Good Afternoon DTE,
Hmm...dte was in relationship in past, we never exchanged cards or letters but during that phase i had an habit of writting diary....so i use to write about the time spend and even after our break up till sometime i use to write about it all.......later i got busy with work and stopped writting.......but i still read those at times and sometimes laugh.feel how were things then........but never felt like burning them........but i feel good about reading them..at times it helps me giving an insite on my attitude and thinking.......
But donot really know if we would have exchanged letter and will destroy them later becoz we parted our ways...i dont think will do that..at least not for the reason that what if i get married and my spouse gets to know about it, i feel these days everyone has at least once been into relationship so i would rather share it with my life partner. Because it was past now things are different it was then and not now, Now you are with someone and he is your priority and he is your future.
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:38 PM
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idiot
will try
but have been trying for long......
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:34 PM
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sapphire
i have all letters and cards with me ..(if they were returned i kept them not returned i nevr asked) ...still read them sometimes n smile .....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:24 PM
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downtoearth
Namita Thanks....for reading all my posts...
One more thanks for liking this post n appreciating it.....:-)
Well all i can say from what u wrote is u did very good act by backing off....coz that could have ruined his married life...n it was soo nice of u to think abt his wife..who would have suffered unnecessaraly...due to one wrong move....
Hats off to u Namita for taking such right n good decesion....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:01 PM
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downtoearth
Buddy hii...
Yes....I didnt burn my love...I just burned some paper n he could have thrown them himself but seems he didnt have courage to do anything...so i did that n I m happy n glad I did that....no regrets today....
Buddy dont worry I m not crying over my past...see i m smiling now...i just remembered that n wrote down..:-)
I never forget anything given by anyone...I cherist n remember it ...coz they r not just gifts naa..there is so much luv n emotions attatched with it....
Buddy u too dont forget who gave u what...:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 1:57 PM
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namita
hi dte
i make it a point to read all ur posts ...u sure write well...we all have experiences but to express it so well is no mean deal...a very good post... it just reminded me of my past wherein i was in a similar situation and i was the one to back off..i just did not want to break up his family...in fact he was the one who wanted to file for a divorce from his wife when i got a jolt...i decide i cud not go ahead with this...i cud not ruin someone else's life for my love. love must go....he was such a gud friend of mine and i did not know when it turned into an affair...maybe my act was cowardice but i am happy that i do not have to deal with my conscience any more..i wud never have been happy ruining someone's marriage after all it was not her fault and she too loved him a lot.
tc
Posted @ 6/10/2005 1:48 PM
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downtoearth
Serenade..hii..
How r u doing....
I felt same when i read ur post....hardships we faced r somewhat similar....but path we choose to face those hardships r different....
Yes true something r not in out hands...n this was oneof them..its sad to read what happened with u....n it has happened with many of us....BUT we r strong n dealing with this....n today we r writing abt it...
Well one thing is there we cant not forget whoever we loved..irrespective of wheather we got him/her or not...BUT dear life has to go on naa....
I m glad to hear my posts make an effect on u...I wish u too get best in Life....God Bless u...
And u did make sense to me...so dont say u r not making sense...:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 1:45 PM
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idiot
well done
u burned them.
good
they shud have been burned.its nothing like burning ur love.u just burned some paper.thats all.u never decorated and wasted time on the paper.it was for him. once he is gone, they are worthless.they may have created problems for u in the future.
u really are a practical gal.
and u have move ahead is great.
there is no point crying over the past.
vaise i usually forget everything.after some time i forget wat was given by whom and sometimes i loss them( talkin abt gifts.).i am one careless soul........i forget about everything.
Posted @ 6/10/2005 1:39 PM
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Serenade
"dte"
Somethings are never in our hands. And love is an essential, which has no 'destination' defined. Its sad to know that it happened to you. But it happened to me also. I don't know why your each post resembles so much of my life too.
I didn't leave him, he left me, because he thought I was not worth marrying. It hurt me, I felt I lost so many things of my life. I cannot forget him, and still think of him.
I have preserved all the gifts, and letters. But life is this.
Sweetheart, your posts are making an effect over me, and you really deserve the best.
I know I am not making any sense.
God Bless You ;=)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 1:38 PM
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downtoearth
mansi_delhi81..hii
Seeing u after long time..where r ur jokes..miss them..
Yes Mansi it was straight from heart....Thanks for wishes dear....they mean a lot to me...
Shilpa...hi..
Thanks for liking my blog...
Yes i agree with u some things happen to change us for good...
Yes even i m happy i got rid of them....
Hope to see more ofur comments here...
Posted @ 6/10/2005 1:37 PM
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shilpa
DTE
very nice blog!:) I think some things happen only to change us for good. No offense, but these things have no other meaning or significance to it. Good you got rid of them:)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 1:17 PM
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mansi_delhi81
such a nice post DTE - straight from the heart.
i m glad to know tht u r so strong and a bold human being and above all a good human being.
all the best for your life ahead :-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 1:10 PM
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downtoearth
Bluescorp hii...
Well its very sad to know u have been throught same situation in life....
When we had parted n he got married we have told each other we will always luv each other n b in luv no matter what...but these things dissapear when u start loving ur wife than ur past luv n ur gf just becomes a memory..whom u remember when u r alone....or sad but never whenu r hois point of views..it may not apply true for u...so plz dont mind..if i m wrong...
Andi fully agree with u that if u love someone truly , u can never curse that person....i never did that...my best wishes r always with him...no matter what he did to me....
Thanks for ur comment...
Prasad
Yes u said it right....One cannot live in the Past,but you can let a little of the Past live in you....n u can remember it sometimes...n feel good n bad both....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 12:32 PM
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downtoearth
amita..hii...
Okk so it was healthy n just laughed it off...:-)
Buti still feel he should not have forgotton those flowers u gave...but good there wasno mis understanding betweenu two coz of this..thats the biggest thing....
dehati_chhokra..hii..
Thanks again for ur comment...
Well yeah maybe he isnt have courage to tell his wife abt me so he thought its better top return them to me...n I think i did right thing by burning them...
I have forgotten him...n its my past now...He is very happy....
Dabbu hii..
I think he luved me..but just didnt have enough courage to tell his to his parents n later when he got married he decided to call it off...n than those were burden on him...but he could have himself thrown them..but he returned them to me..thinking i will always keep them..but I decided to burn them....instead...n leave him alone....
And Yes after many years Life still goeson...nowi dont give any more gifts n cards to anyone...:-) Fearing they might return them to me.....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 12:26 PM
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Prasad
One cannot live in the Past,but you can let a little of the Past live in you.
Posted @ 6/10/2005 12:11 PM
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Bluescorp
Hi DTE...
This story has touched a raw nerve in me. You know most people do exactly as you have mentioned.
The reason behind this is lack of trust. I feel that the most important thing in any relationship is trust.
Of this breaks the relationship goes into comma....it exists but just for the name sake. Its 9 months since
I had a breakup....6 long years had just come to an end....I am still picking up the bits and pieces of my life...
and as you said , it was my first love. But I did not return anything and she did not either. One thing we both have
agreed is that the love will never die....I can still feel her holding my hands when I take a walk.....It brings a lot of tears
and the heart pains....but I respect her. And I am sure u will agree with me, that if u love someone truly , u can never
curse that person. I feel I have lost the ability to love....but life is just not fair to all.....but I know that....
Kisi ka pyaar leke tum
Naya jahan basaaoge
Yeh shaam jab bhi aayegi
Tum humko yaad aaoge
Bye...
Bluescorp
Posted @ 6/10/2005 12:09 PM
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Dabbu
Hi Dte,
I always read ur letter in free time, as it takes me some other nostalgic world. Hey, its a terrible thing to happen when a relationship breaks. I have never been into any serious relationships, so never gave or received any gifts or cards, etc etc. However, the memories of those who passed off me still haunts and those little things that we have shared still speak the warmth of the good times we had.
One of my friend had drawn my face (Schematic) on a ice cream stick, and i still have it. First of all breaking of reln itself is such a pain, and to return the happy moments in form of tangibles....what to say? may be never loved you in first place. Sorry for guessing on ur personal life, but its unfortunate again for you to have a insensible guy like him
But then, life goes on......... as ever
take care
Posted @ 6/10/2005 12:06 PM
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dehati_chhokra
Hi DTE...
after reading it i felt dumbstruck...it was such a cowardly act to return back the letters...he was not worth you...and i think you did right in burning the letters...just forget him and move ahead and you'll meet someone sincere and worth you. I know one of my friend(guy) who faced similar situation.
take care.....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 11:28 AM
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amita
dte
Hez my closest buddy yaar .. we laughed off that incident later .. :))
i have a tendency to demand and give explanations always :D hehe
I know that flowers part was a bit 2 much .. i gave him 15 sunflower like flowers (red in color) with big stalks since i got them at a discount .. they werent too comfortable to carry around .. but it was my gift na and if he forgot it his mistake haha
i still laugh at what i did ;)
:))))
Posted @ 6/10/2005 11:15 AM
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etceteras
Amita, i am sure your soul gave your friend another chance too :))
Posted @ 6/10/2005 11:08 AM
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downtoearth
ravindra hii...
It happened longggg back...I m already moving ahead with life...:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 11:04 AM
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downtoearth
Amita...
Well he left the flowers u gave...well that was rude on his part....
But u r a brave gal....u did right thing...n used ur mind..n gave those precious flowers to that child...who must b very happy to receive them...i m sure it must b memorable moment of that childs life...
But what was ur friends reaction to this????
Hats off to u Amita u did right thing...:-)
Din...
Let me check n comment....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 11:03 AM
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ravindra
Great that u burnt those letters. Now, get on with life.
Posted @ 6/10/2005 11:01 AM
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downtoearth
etceteras...hii..
Yeah Life teaches us many things....and Life is a Expereince....
I remember when we were in luv we used to say...u r the Best thing that can happen to my Life..it was all so beautiful...n lovely....BUT just didnt last long....but it was there n that leaves me feel happy....
Yeah maybe he came to teach me something n i learned some lesson of life....
Yeah nice song.....Aadmi Mushafir hai, atte jate raste mein yadeen chodd jata hai :-)
Thanks for ur comment...:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:59 AM
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Dinesh
DTE saw that and commented too! I need ur reply to my question there!
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:55 AM
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amita
dte
I gave flowers just once to someone .. maybe hez reading this right now ;).
We had an argument while watching a movie and he left my pretty flowers on the seat ..
Gosh i was furious ..Guess what i did .. Picked my flowers nd when we came out of the movie gave it to a street kid ;)
And i told my friend .. Kids love flowers :))))..lame excuse again ;)
See u give to those who appreciate it ..That child smiled at me 2 ... hahaha
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:52 AM
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etceteras
Life is an experience. Its a process of evolving to the next level. Falling in love is an event that occurs to change or add something in your persona. DTE if that person had not come into your life, maybe you would have been on a different path, a different atitude.
Speaking on life, this is my favourite song and I recall it mostly when there is a goodbye to be said..
Aadmi Mushafir hai, atte jate raste mein yadeen chodd jata hai :))
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:50 AM
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downtoearth
Kavi hii...
Yeah right..when we think practically its BETTER to get rid of them....so that they dont create problems in Life....
And if i still had them..than it would have been more painful to see them everyday..I m glad they r no more there.....
Thanks for ur comment...:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:46 AM
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downtoearth
Tech hii...
Yeah right said....atleast we should b happy that we loved someone n got love in return....like u said...
its better to have loved and lost..than never to have loved....
Flowers u can give when u r in same city....in my case we were in different cities...so had to depend on cards n letters...
Amita hii..
Yeah we can give flowers but u know what if i get flowers than I HATE TO SEE THEM DRY....n just can throw them....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:44 AM
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kavitha
hi dte, fortunately or unfortunately, never had the opportunity to get or give a love letter which later became an obstacle.
but I feel tis better to throw or destroy these things once the relationship ends cos otherwise they can kindle memories and leave a bitter taste.......
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:42 AM
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downtoearth
Din hii...
Exactaly i wanted to write abt those untangible things that we shared together...but what i meant was with those letter I burt those too..or atleast tried to burn.....or I say I managed to burn or forget....
I agree 100% emotions and memories are far harder to wipe away...they leave a scar forever in ur life...n their memories stay forever in ur heart...
Thanks for ur comment Din..i have commented too on ur post..do check it out...:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:40 AM
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amita
techj
I give flowers 2 ;) haha
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:34 AM
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techj
jan 2005...
i burnt my bday card i got form tat gal...
tats it
i never gave anything but flowers to all the galz...
DTE
its better to have loved and lost..than never to have loved....
but i freakin pains...ouch!!!
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:31 AM
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Dinesh
DTE u talk abt tangible things. Wats more the burden is the mental part. The times u shared, vivid memories, happy times, her scent, her aura, the air around her, her hair, the first kiss, the glint in her eye, the 1000 heart beats u get! I feel tangible things are easy to dispose. I've never received/ givena physical letter. Gifts yeah cards yes. But i don't attach much importance to writings on a card. The gifts i do treasure! and still keep!
But the emotions and memories are far harder to wipe away! Been there done that, moved on yes! Wasn't easy, Isn't gonna be easy too! Maybe one day far away when u have a family of ur own and old, u'll look back and say life aint been bitter after all. But living everyday u'll def feel different! Nice post thgh!
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:21 AM
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downtoearth
Amita...
Yeah u r right there.....:-)
Care for ppl u care for u...
Naveen...
Thanks....:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:14 AM
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amita
dte
Just follow one rule in ur life
U give what u get .. If u dont do it u really get hurt .. if someone loves me 10% i give 20%
but if someones doesnt care a damn abt me then i give -20% ;) hehe ..
But this makes sense .. U shud care most abt pple who care abt u .. Else u dont have to worry abt that person at all .. :)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:11 AM
# Those Love Letters...
guy_on_black_YBX
Hiya
you wud sure get that , and you worth someones waitin for you out there, time will get bring him to you. wish to get to hear bout him soooon. :(
Naveen
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:03 AM
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downtoearth
Amita...hii...
Good Morning....
Yeah Life has more to offer than a few letters...which he didnt have courage to keep...n I feel good i have burned them....
Have a gr8 day ahead....Amita n thanks for ur comment....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 9:55 AM
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downtoearth
Naveen Thanks....
Yes...burn the past n move ahead...maybe something good is in store...maybe i get something...maybe this time i will not have to burn anything again...with just this hope....moving ahead....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 9:52 AM
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amita
dte
Good morning dear
I think its very stupid of him to return things u gave so lovingly ..
So what if ur not in some relationship nymore .. there are prized memories .. if he cant live with it then he doesnt deserve it ..trust me .. u did the right thing in burning them off .. Never heard of a more lame excuse abt shifting homes ;) ...
Move ahead dear ... there are better men than him ..
U will meet a person who appreciates it and See if he has done this with u .. time will get back to him one day .. A persons karma always comes back to him/her ...
Take care
and have a nice day honey :)
Cheer up .. Live has more to offer than a few letters that someone returns :D :D
Posted @ 6/10/2005 9:50 AM
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guy_on_black_YBX
Hiya
DTE been grt, another good blog tough it might have hurt you while puttin this down, think that was a good thing to do to burn those letters cuz you might not come across those memories that frequently otherwise. And its realy grt that you have decided to get a head with life, there are very few who are capable of doin that? Hats off to you.
Naveen
Mera kuch saamaan tumhare paas pada hai
saavan ke kuch bheege bheege din rakhe hain
aur mere ik khat main lipti raat padi hai
vo raat bhulaa do, mera vo saaman lauta do
ek so sola chaand ki ratain
ek tumhare kaandhe ka til
geeli mahendi ki khushbu,
jhoot mooth ke shikwe
kuch jhooth mooth ke wade
sab yaad karaa do sab bhijwa do,
mera vo saamaan lauta do…
Again beautiful lyrics by Gulzar…n such touching song….True feelings of any gal..who has lost her luv….first luv is always so special n important… It happened with me years back..but still is fresh in my mind….Kya kya nahi karte hai…pyaar me…send each other cards…gifts…hand written luv letters….everything possible that can b done to show to person u luv…show…how much u luv….flowers...n what not...
But what happens…when things go wrong…after years of being in luv…u don’t get him/her than…That’s what happened with me..as I had written abt it…..earlier….but good thing is we have lost every contact now….don’t mail each other anymore….don’t call each other….my reason is I want to move ahead n his reason could b he wants to save his marriage….n we both respect each others decision….not to stay in touch….but just wish…each other happiness….
But what happened to those innumerable letter I wrote to him, the cards I had send….spend soo many hours in decorating letters n cards ( only gals can do this ) and than couriered them….than waited for the response as to whether he liked them or not….even e-mails were very much there..but still when its first time luv…u end up doing such things…just to show how much u luv him….:-) BUT the BIG Question was….what after both decide to go separate path in life….what is to b done with those letters n cards now…..coz u cant keep something that’s no more part of ur life…n if they come in the hands of wife or husband than they can lead to problems in happy married life….n consequences can b terrible...
So to avoid all this from happening…He decided to return all those cards n letters back to me…he said keep them till I find a permanent home n than return them back to me…right now I cant keep them…..I said fine send them BACK..n I got a courier….Envelope filled with number of letters n cards…so much luv n efforts n time n money was spend on them…didn’t know than that one fine day they will come back to me…. I had them all in front of me…looking at them again became emotional…n my friends thought WOW she had received soo many cards….how could I have told her…NOO they r no more cards n letters they r BURDEN on someone n r RETURNED to me….:-(
I took them all home….n same day BURNED THEM in front of my eyes….could see my luv burning….my emotions burning….HE didn’t belong to me anymore…..HAD to accept that Hard Fact....
Yeh khwaab dekhti hoon main
Ke jag padi hoon khwaab se…..
I had forever burnt the memories of our luv…anything that proved that we ever luved each other were destroyed by him n me….He happily confessed he loved his wife too much n cant afford to loose her….due to his past…I m happy today…no more sad…as time is a great healer….n wished him….from my heart…..
Mubaarakein tumhe ke tum
Kisi ke noor ho gaye….
Kisi ke itne paas ho
Ke hum se door ho gaye…..
Kisi ka pyaar leke tum Naya jahan basaaoge…..aur KHUS raho..b Happy…Thanks for those few happy moments…which could not last long….but I m happy they were there for some time…
Many of us here must have faced similar situation…What did u ppl do with those letters n cards which were once symbol of ur luv….but later became Obstacle…
posted on Friday, June 10, 2005 9:05 AM
Comments
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sharlin kaur
Very nice and creative writing. I really like entertainment blogs and it really with new and updated things.
Posted @ 11/19/2008 5:24 PM
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amiee mabey
u should do a real love letter 4 yng kids n dat shit xx
Posted @ 3/25/2007 7:16 AM
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Anil
I can emphatise with you.Even i had returned everything back to her.It was not because i didnt love her anymore.It is not because i was scared the new woman in my life(Now my wife) would get hurt.Even before i got married I told my wife all about that special girl who was part of my life.She understands.
Not everythings is perfect in this world.But whatever happens always happens for the good.Your beautiful blog brought back old memories. Things have changed and we are happy with our own lives.Dont keep in touch much but those memories are special.Dont need cards and photos to remember them.They are forever imprinted in the heart.
And life is different now and my wife is the best thing that has ever happened to me.She is now more special that anyone else in this whole wide world.
I guess only a woman can understand another woman.Though my wife wouldnt really be comfortable talking to her, she knows how difficult things would have been for us before we broke up.Sigh..!! Zindagi bhi ajeeb hai.Agar aisi mushkiley naa ho tho phir jeeney mein kya mazaa!!
Posted @ 2/25/2007 7:57 AM
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Romance Master
Un belivabil grat this new idea
Posted @ 1/31/2007 10:11 PM
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Negesse Tilaye
I have got this letter writing from internet web site I have deep interest to communicate with love or my partner by this good letter.
Posted @ 4/6/2006 6:12 PM
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Downtoearth
Beatirce..hii..
Its good u could keep those letters n pictures with u...n u still sit back n read n look at those letters..n u have been doing that since 25 yrs now... thats amazing...
That must b true love...Many had true love but not many have courage to keep those proof of once being in love....
Posted @ 2/7/2006 5:25 PM
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Beatirce (liltexas36@yahoo)
To tell you the truth ..I still have letters and pictures saved in a suitcase with important papers that hardly gets taken out of closet....When ever i have to look for something In the case I sit down and stat going through all the pictures and the letters and the cards that He (ex) send to me....
I can't get myself to get rid of them...they are like 25 year old letters ...I am 43 years old now and still can't get rid of them!!!
Posted @ 1/12/2006 8:18 PM
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deepak
hi vinya i love u for evr i truely and madly love u for ever and y dont u just think abt me and care abt m
Posted @ 10/31/2005 12:38 PM
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Downtoearth
WILD_ROSES..hii..
Hey nice to hear that...now life is becoming easier n things r fine now... I m happy to hear that dear...
May ur happines last forever..n loads of good wishes to u too.. Take care...:-)
luckyrahul...hii..
U can write too..so start blogging...n share ur thoughts n feelings with world....n O3 is best place to blog...
Thanks for liking all that i have writen...:-)
All the Best to u...:-)
Posted @ 9/17/2005 11:07 AM
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luckyrahul
Even I love blogging, and I have been following what down to earth has written in almost all the blogs as talking abt such emotional things is great. I feel now adays we are not even able to share such things with our parents and there are very few friends to share with, instead there are many such websites which encourage us to reveal our feelings. this is simply cool
Posted @ 9/17/2005 5:23 AM
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luckyrahul
hi all,
I just enjoy reading all ur blogs. its amazing
Posted @ 9/17/2005 5:20 AM
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WILD_ROSES
hi dte....
hwzzzzzzz u.......know wht after understandin thing..
and takin as they cumm....life becomes much...easier..
knw wht ...dte. thingzzzz r sooooo fine now...cant explain ya.......
tc.....loads of gud wishes....
Posted @ 9/16/2005 9:53 AM
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Downtoearth
WILD_ROSES..hii...
Thanks for going...through my posts...n thanks for appreciating...what I did with those memories...
Well u know life becomes difficult...when we regret our decession...so try not to repent n regret...n stay happy...:-)
Well it hapens..how can we easily forget the person we loved...we can destroy...thosephysical memories but cant destroy memories from our heart.... well I know we feel someday he might cvallup n atleast ask.'hoz u' but it never happens..but good...naa...He has forgotten us...or maybe pretend o forget us...
I know it hurts....but cant domuch...we have to feel happy to see him/her happy....:-)
Thanks for wonderful comments here...
Posted @ 9/12/2005 9:54 AM
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WILD_ROSES
hiya
dte...know wht i realy feel like sayin dis to u
sum 1 i real y loved is married now....but dis all
happned so sooooooon tht 44 i cud realize evertthin
was gone....now i regret bigggggggggtime.....n
everyday,,i wait thinkin tht sum day he will cal me to ask ...".hwz u"....but...dayz r jus passin..n i
feel tht was my love sooooo easy for jim to forget..
tht he cant even make a cal..??
it realy hurtzzzzzzzzz
thought i happy 4 him...but it hurtz....
?
Posted @ 9/11/2005 11:16 PM
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WILD_ROSES
Hi.........
felt realy touched....when went thru all above...
kept on readin again...n again...coz everythin. seemzzz so much similar...ey i realy appreicate...wht u did...wid d sweeeeet memories...
but i regret....coz i realy miss sum 1 who nomore belongs to me....guess i dint get him coz of my mistaske,,,,perhhapz mistakes....but life goes on//////
Posted @ 9/11/2005 9:31 PM
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Downtoearth
kllloo
Love is not at all so difficult...to get...Only some dont get it...
Its the most beautiful thing in this world....
Posted @ 7/30/2005 2:32 PM
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kllloo
would you say love is so difficult why you say love mother love father love friend love jesus why you so difficult say "love " this world you donot say love someone who how to know you love her(he) is it very like kill you which say" i love you"why
Posted @ 7/30/2005 2:05 PM
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PG
hey DTE...
its me PG
i created my new blog site..my new address is -----
http://o3.indiatimes.com/
so i will shout from here now on.....Ok
haffun
cheers
Posted @ 7/18/2005 12:05 PM
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Downtoearth
PG...
U r not boring anyone...Welcome to O3...n yes do read blogs n comment... U too Have Fun....:-)
Posted @ 7/18/2005 11:38 AM
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PG
Hey DTE..
thanx for the help.. i feel u r right behind me to help...thanx a sack
i shall go thru few blogs n comment.....
i feel now am in a lot ....as all these days i was so lonely.....
i really like this...
hope i am not boring neone....
sorry guys if i am.. :-)
haffun
Posted @ 7/18/2005 11:01 AM
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Downtoearth
PG...
Visit....http://o3.indiatimes.com or http://o3.indiatimes.com/search.aspx
And visit the Blogs there....read n than comment whatever u feel...this way u will ppl will know u n will check ur blog n will comment there....
If u need further help...just leave a comment on my shout box...:-)
Posted @ 7/18/2005 10:48 AM
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PG
so how do i do this...can u guide me...i also like to listen to others and comment..i mean it...let me know..who knows i may learn something from those blogs...so i eagerly look for those...
please let me kno...
Posted @ 7/18/2005 10:44 AM
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Downtoearth
PG hii again...
Well Yes I feel Lucky abt it..got ppl here who care for me...
Well u too will get comments...u know u have to read others blogs too..n share ur comments there..this will make them realise...okk u too have a blog...n u need help....
Have a good day ahead n All the Best...
Posted @ 7/18/2005 10:32 AM
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PG
hey..
saw ur comment felt good...but i dont see much help as u r getting here....u r very lucky..u have so many ppl to help u out here...
i wish had these kind of comments in my blog also.....it makes me feel good whn i see urs...i wish the same for me also...
hope u will help me for few days.......
take care
Posted @ 7/18/2005 10:21 AM
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Downtoearth
PG hii...
Well just read ur Blog...n commented there....
Hope our comments will Help u...n All the best...
Posted @ 7/16/2005 9:03 AM
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PG
hi DTE
i saw this blog today felt very heart touching as some of things are close to mine break up with my gal;saw ppls response n bloggin....felt really good..as such am blogging abt my story....could u pls suggest or provide ur comments for me ...
hey ppl...
u also need to put ur comments for me...let me know wht am thinking is normal or not....or wht shud i think ?
my blog address - http://o3.indiatimes.com/brokenkeart
Please help this guy.......
Posted @ 7/15/2005 7:10 PM
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Downtoearth
Uptown Girl hii...
Yes u r right..we can never ever give up...the things that remind us abt them.... I had emails too some time back..but than deleted them....was trying to forget him....but I know destroying tangable things will not help....
Thanks for ur comment here...
Posted @ 7/15/2005 4:34 PM
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Uptown Girl
Amazing blog...no matter how hurt we are in love, we can never completely give up the things that remind us about them. The letters, the mails, the scribbled notes, the chat conversations, the smses...
Just so difficult to let go isn't it?
Posted @ 7/15/2005 4:04 PM
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Downtoearth
Ray of Hope...hii
U r loving that guy..without expecting love in return..well thats true love...N good u never build up any hopes frm him..thats why u r not hurt...
I wish u get love of ur life soon n who will give u love in return of ur love...coz Life has to go on...
Its nice to know u still love him....
All the Best to u.....
Posted @ 7/6/2005 9:26 AM
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Ray of Hope
hi.. read that blog.. nad felt the pain that u have gone thru.. its nt tht i had a relationship.But i loved a guy n still loves him. I dont talk to him now on phone or direct or i dont see him..as he's no more in the same city.. i told him tht i love him.but he simply gave reply tht we 'll be friends.. n tht's the only time we talked abt love though i spoke to him few times on phone nad also on chat windows for long hours.. we never came across the love. n it do hurt me to the core of my heart, but i dont have a choice..n i dunno abt him. dunno whether he ever loved me.. n i thank him for one thing. he never gave me any hope.. at times when he hit my id, i happily say hi.. n bye.. and thats all.. i dont hate him...love him always..
Posted @ 7/5/2005 4:52 PM
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downtoearth
Bhavesh....
Thanks for ur comment....
Well yeah he could have kept them with himself...but He said he didnt have place to keep them..I mean hide them from his wife...so he returned.....
Yeah it was painful...but atleast those letters which could have proved my love to him no more exist in this world....thats what he wanted....
Thanks for ur wishes...
Posted @ 6/22/2005 5:25 PM
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Bhavesh
Hi there,
According to me you should have not accepted those letters from him. those are your feelings which you had sent to him, and i think its his belongings. Let him decide what has to be done with those letters and cards.
May be he must have done the same thing. At-least you would have not gone through that pain.
anyways. take Care. All the Best
Bhavesh
Posted @ 6/22/2005 5:14 PM
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downtoearth
Rajdeep..hii..
U r never later to comment..i always check back...
Even i didnt wanted to burn those letters...but didnt wanted to see him in trouble due to my letters n cards...n i knew he would have never asked them back...so I got rid of them....n set his free of burden of my love...
It was not easy I cried a lot....it was not at all easy to burn them...but that was the choice I had to make him happy but i have what he gave me....
Thanks for liking my blog...
Posted @ 6/22/2005 4:39 PM
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Rajdeep
Dear Downtoearth,
I have gone through your blog little lately. But I like it. Everybody have to move on in life and for that it is necessary to left behind the past. But according to me it is not a way to get pass the past. U can make that pain the strength of your life.
As I have gone through the same. She is now married to another guy. But I didnot burn any single thing that we share. I kept all her mails in my personal diary. Whenever I miss her i use to read them and feel her very close to me. She also didnot burn my things till I know. As I know may be she is staying in other world now but my memories will always cherise in her mind like her in my heart.
Anyway thanks for the blog .... It's very nice read.
Posted @ 6/22/2005 1:08 PM
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downtoearth
Sweetd...
Yeah its very difficult to actually BURN them..but than one has to do that so that we dont get hurt again n again by seeing them...coz that will remind us of our failed luv....Yesi agree love can actually Kill one.....
Thanks for ur comment....
Posted @ 6/20/2005 8:56 AM
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Sweetd
Ive been through this before! ive still got the letters and stuff and i dont know shud i do as u did burn them?..some part of my heart cant...but im waiting for the right day where ill do them! cuz i cant bare look at them just breaks my heart...i have his letters and writings...and because of this incident i dont keep anything to remind me of any luv that i get involved in...some part of my heart died cuz love can really kill!:)
Posted @ 6/18/2005 9:19 PM
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downtoearth
scarlett..hii..
Thanks for reading what I write....n appreciation is all I need..." the big small gal" is very special post to me...n it was not easy to write my feeling till date down....
Yes luv can last for a lifetime..n when we decide to move seperate ways in life the sweet memories of the luv which was once...stays inone corner of our heart forever...
My Age....well thats for u to guess...:-))
Posted @ 6/17/2005 11:51 AM
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scarlett
well..exactly...love can last for a life time..but i guess we shd keep tht peron in a seperate corner in our heart,be happy abt it n move it,right??..i've read quite few of ur articles DTE..n the article "the big small girl" was really touchin..i was wonderin..wht's ur age??..
scarlett
Posted @ 6/17/2005 11:41 AM
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downtoearth
scarlett...
U r not late to comment....
Well its upto u to decide that will u go back to him after being seperated..but i m sure his letters n stuff will never let u forget his love for u....
Great to hear that u feel happy even now....yes luv is such....leaves u feeling happy....Like its said naa Luv can touch u one time n last for a life time.........
Posted @ 6/16/2005 4:32 PM
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scarlett
well...wht can i say,i guess i atad bit late on commentin on this ...but it truly gels with..i read his letters n check out other stuff from time to time..but afer 9 months of being sseperated..i think,if he calls me bsck,wud i go back??..dunno the answer..but i was the happiest person in tht one year...i''ve known great love..n it was worht it!!..
Posted @ 6/16/2005 2:30 PM
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downtoearth
Pearl...
Yes...He didnt have heart to destroy them himself..so though of returning back to me..infact he had asked me to keep them with me for some time...n later on return back....BUT i thought he will b in constant risk n will always fear that someone maybe his wife or later in life his kids might find out...Soo to save him from all that situations which could have arised in future...I took decession of burning them forver....
He was sad n was angry when heard that..but could not do anything....
But i m happy like u..n have whatever gifts n cards he gave me...I have them n will cherish them all my life...
U r right Practically speaking i would have destroyed what he gave me..if I would have found out he was fake or lying....but i knew he was not...So kept them....n just burned his burden....
Posted @ 6/14/2005 12:31 PM
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pearl
no we cannot specify w.r.t gals only. this happens with boys too. even they cannot part.n as u have mentioned until single, the day u will settle down even u will and u should. i would say that person who returned to u had only the option of returning it to u may be coz he cared for ur n his feelings - coz it would be hard for him too, to destroy it.
y? i m holding on is becoz that person was always concerned that i never loose wat he gave me. and they will remain with me until some earthquake or toronado hits up. i mean a natural calamity can make me part with it but not the rest of the world.
n practically, if the feelings are today found to be fake, we find that the person we were involved with did not have genuine involvement with us, it makes no sense to keep on the memories.
Posted @ 6/14/2005 12:15 PM
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downtoearth
Pearl...
I m sure u r single now...so till we r single we can afford to take that risk of keeping what was given to us with us...n to tellu the truth..gal r lil more emotional....even i have the cards he gave me...I have just burned what he returned what all I gave him....dont have heart to burn what he gave me....
Posted @ 6/14/2005 12:04 PM
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pearl
but at personal end, i m carrying the risk, i hold on to wat my luv given me, though i know we wont and cannot stay to gether.
Posted @ 6/14/2005 11:48 AM
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xxx-vote4 ur fav blog/bloger-chck my post 4details
may be you'll are talking of the same friend :D
Posted @ 6/14/2005 10:02 AM
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downtoearth
Hii Pearl...
Yeah see same thing happend with ur friend's friend...
Its a hard fact n bitter truth..that when the two ppl in luv cant get together...than those momentos of luv has to b destroyed either by burning...tearing or floating....
Thats the sad end they get....
Posted @ 6/14/2005 9:55 AM
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pearl
i can just narrate about a freind of mine, who told me about one of his freind who when was going to get married gave all the cards and letters to him to either bury, burn or float them off in water! coz he did not have the gutts to do so. the girl with whom he was in luv was settled in another country and the boys mother was not ready to let him go.
Posted @ 6/14/2005 9:44 AM
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downtoearth
XXX...
Well thats good atleast now u make it a point to keep all the stuff that ur gf gives u.....good to hear u ant to keep them for urself n not coz she might get hurt....:-)
Posted @ 6/14/2005 8:35 AM
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xxx-vote4 ur fav blog/bloger-chck my post 4details
dte
those were letters of my ex, so it did not matter.
but i do keep all the stuff of my girl now, I don't do it because she might get hurt, but because i want to.
Posted @ 6/13/2005 5:32 PM
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downtoearth
XXX....
Now thats very rude..I mean u just threw those letters like rest of the garbage !!!!!
Maybe u r too Practical....n u r not emotional...BUT a suggestion...dont let ur gf know that u dont value her letters...okk...coz gals r very emotional..she might get hurt.....
Posted @ 6/13/2005 5:20 PM
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xxx-vote4 ur fav blog/bloger-chck my post 4details
hi DTE
well for guys its much easier to do away with those memories, i remember finding a few letters of my ex , i just threw them out like i threw the rest of the garbage
take care
Posted @ 6/13/2005 5:05 PM
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v_blog
thanx....
Posted @ 6/13/2005 3:47 PM
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downtoearth
talktome..hii..
Thanks for ur comment....
Yeah...I Burned that Burden which he had....on him...n this has set both of us free...
Tomar...
Good....All the Best for anything u do....n give me some good news in this regards soon...:-))
Posted @ 6/13/2005 3:43 PM
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v_blog
Let c wot hapn these daz i m trying my luck on somone
so lets c whether it reaches the apogee of attraction or just ends in perfunctory meets....wish me luck.......
Posted @ 6/13/2005 3:35 PM
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talktome
While reading ur blog, I realised, there is very little difference between the way we spell BURDEN and BURNED...good u burned the burden!
Posted @ 6/13/2005 3:33 PM
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downtoearth
Tomar..
Thats g8..so u had gala time..with friends....:-)
Well I wish ur whole week is gr8....n u keep on having gala time..:-)
Posted @ 6/13/2005 3:19 PM
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v_blog
My weekend was gr88
freaked out with friends........... one of my friend came home from hydrabad as he was leaving for usa on tuesday nite.......so had a gala time......
Posted @ 6/13/2005 3:07 PM
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downtoearth
Ram...
Yes so I write...what i feel i can write about...:-)
Tomar hii...
Good afternoon...
My weekend wa ok...how was urs???
Posted @ 6/13/2005 2:49 PM
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v_blog
Hi DTE,
Howz ur weekend.
Posted @ 6/13/2005 2:43 PM
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Ram
Dte,
Anywayz...each one knows what they are better at :)
Posted @ 6/13/2005 11:58 AM
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downtoearth
Buddy....
I m sorry.....:-(
Now i too wish...u had one of her letters....
Ram...
Well I appreciate ur suggestion....but again same answer u were missing since few days...well n if u take a look u will find post on different issues..apart from relationships...:-)
And I write what i can write about...coz u need to have lil bit of knowledge n expereince before writing abt something...
Posted @ 6/13/2005 11:26 AM
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Ram
Dte,
GM . Oh ok.
If i cud tell u something, u cud possibly write differently other than realtionships..! Just a constructive suggestion!
Posted @ 6/13/2005 11:20 AM
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idiot
she stopped becoz it was one way traffic all the way.
she cant write anything now buddy.
they dont have a mailing service frm heaven to earth!!!!
Posted @ 6/13/2005 11:19 AM
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downtoearth
Ram hii
Good Morning....
Ram...these r not seperate relationships.....if u have read previous posts than u will come they know I m talking in context to previous post n relationship only...
Posted @ 6/13/2005 11:14 AM
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Ram
Hey dte,
Howz u doing?
yet another blog on ur relationships!!!!!!
So, how did u manage so many relationships, after all?
Posted @ 6/13/2005 11:08 AM
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downtoearth
patakha...hii....
Yeh Sher bahut acche hai....specially the first one by Akhtar Sheerani....
miT chale merii umiido.n kii tarah harf magar
aaj tak tere Khato.n se terii Khushbuu na ga_ii
Thanks for sharing....here....
Posted @ 6/13/2005 10:19 AM
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patakha
miT chale merii umiido.n kii tarah harf magar
aaj tak tere Khato.n se terii Khushbuu na ga_ii
[Akhtar Sheerani]
kyaa kyaa fareb dil ko diye iztiraab me.n
un kii taraf se aap likhe Khat javaab me.n
[Daag Dehlvi]
Posted @ 6/13/2005 10:14 AM
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downtoearth
Buddy hii..
Good Morning...Yeah my weekends r always boring...but did something good..cleaned my room...:-)
Why u destroyed but??? See now u r wishing ki u had one....
Anyways ask her to write more....:-)I think she came to know that u r destroying her letters that why she stopped writing..right??
Posted @ 6/13/2005 10:08 AM
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idiot
hii buddy
so back at work after the boring weekend?
i never wrote a love letter!!!
and those i recieved , i destroyed.
and after sometime, she got annoyed and stopped writing!!!
and now i wish i had at least one she wrote.but i have none :(
Posted @ 6/13/2005 9:59 AM
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downtoearth
AngelzFear...
Good atleast u have decided to keep that diary with u forever..unlike me.....
Jaded hii...
Thanks for ur comment...
He had fear that his wife may gethold of them n than it will create trouble for him...so returned....n how could i see those letters just lying with me....when those were burden onhim..than what the the point of my keeping them with me...so i deceided to burn them...n informed him....ur trouble is over forever....
Posted @ 6/13/2005 8:38 AM
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jaded
Really nice post dte....straight from the heart.....
that guy really returned ur letters....what a moron....he lives a mole hill or something,didnt have space...huh!......sorry for that .....if u still ave feelings for him......but its just that i havent heard of something like this b4........and u burnt them all..how bold was that.....right step definitely....really dte and practical thing to do....
Posted @ 6/12/2005 10:42 PM
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AngelzFear
Hi,
yeah the diary is still with me......but safe under lock and key .....so that nobody ever again gets to have a peep into that day again.
Posted @ 6/12/2005 8:40 PM
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downtoearth
Amar..hii..
Thanks....Yeah that what i feel...experience teaches u something everytime...n I have taken +tive from it...n today i m happy....abt it..:-)
X8...
I think u r right...Thanks 4 ur comment...
Posted @ 6/11/2005 4:26 PM
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Amar
if u r breaking apart...better remove all the traces as it wont hunt u later..though one wll never be able to 'burn' the emotional scars...its life...face it and move ahead...everything , each experience teaches you something, gives you something...take the +ve from everything and look forward for the good.
Posted @ 6/11/2005 4:15 PM
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x8
something must b there .......some 1 better.........some 1 who will b just fit for u .........y no 1 was till now may b bcoz the time has'nt ripen...........or they may b not so capable 2 understand u ..........some 1 who want u in the same way u want........or may b something else........
4 uke ghar mein der hai andher nahin........
Posted @ 6/11/2005 12:29 PM
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downtoearth
Hii Leon...
Nice to see ur comment....
Yesit hard when the other person dosent realise how much u love her...it must have been tough n difficult for u...
Buti was lucky didnt face this problem...but than everything ended...n I m happy person now...single n alone but happy....:-)
So as i always say time is a big healer...things will b fine at ur end too..one fine day..so dont worry n b happy n positive...
Posted @ 6/11/2005 10:57 AM
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leon_nerd
Hi DTE.
I know how hard it is to do that. But u know it pains so much. Its not that we wasted time to decorating those things...searching the market for the right gift....but the fact that our gifts....cannot make the other person realise how much we love them. This might not be ur case but it happened to me. I roamed like crazy in the markets searching for a the right gift but in the end.....she didn't even realie that how much i love her.
Posted @ 6/11/2005 10:49 AM
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downtoearth
Lark Good Morning...:-)
I m good....
Well me too working as always but not alone...n listening to music...:-)
Posted @ 6/11/2005 10:48 AM
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lark
Good Morning DTE,
Howz you?? hey this sat also i have to work..its so boring when no one is in the office and ;you are the only one who has to work..........what about you???
Posted @ 6/11/2005 10:41 AM
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downtoearth
sayan331 hii...
I think u r still single...n that makes it possible for u to keep everything of hers by ur side....but i m sure things will change when u will marry....coz than u will not want ur prospective wife to have some mis-understanding coz of ur past..right....
Till u r single u can keep them n feel good n remember ur old good times spend together n asu say may be u will come out stronger...
Thanks for ur comment....
Posted @ 6/11/2005 9:35 AM
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sayan331
Hey...touching one..really touching one....I have kept all of them...I have kept everything of hers...I want to get rid of things by keeping them at my side...will come out stronger I guess. And I guess....I am much stronger than I was 14 months ago !!
Posted @ 6/11/2005 9:27 AM
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downtoearth
shalz hii again...:-)
Yeah i decided to move on....he wanted me to keep those letters with me..he never imagined in his dreams also that I will Burn them...but later I told him...Dont worry I m OUT of UR Life Forever...n Never ever u will hear from me or see me....
N I did that....I m hapy abt my decession..but it took some time I mean years to come out...But now I have completely overcome that n I can smile now n feel happy abt whole thing....:-)
U too have a nice day....:-)
Posted @ 6/11/2005 9:09 AM
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shalz
hi dte:)
i feel if one has decided to move on, then the break should be clean and complete, no point in holding onto to letters n cards n the like.tossing out of false sentiment is important, it helps in the healing process and the resolving of feelings.
i liked your take on it, that he wanted you to hold on to those things,and u decided not to. u took the power in your hands, and thts gr8.
have a nice day:)
Posted @ 6/11/2005 8:59 AM
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downtoearth
idontknowwhoim...hii again....
U seem to express urself everytime with these beautiful lyrics...n each time they r soo good....
Specially this one....tooo touching...
tere khushboo meiN basay khat main jalata kaisay
pyaar mein doobay huye khat main jalata kaisay
teray haathoN ke likhay khat main jalata kaisay
jinko duniya ki nigaahoN say chupayey rakha
jinko ik umar kalayjay say lagayay rakha
deen jinko jinhay imaan banaay rakha
jinka har lafz mujhay yaad paani ki tarah
yaad they mujko jo paigaam-e-zubaani ki tarah
mujko jo pyaarey they anmol nishani ki tarah
toone duniya ki nigaahoN say jo bach kar likhay
saal-ha-saal mere naam barabar likhay
kabhi din mein to kabhi raat ko uTh kar likhay
teray khat aaj main Ganga mein baha aaya hooN
aag behtay huye paani meiN laga aaya hooN
Posted @ 6/11/2005 8:45 AM
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downtoearth
AnglezFear hiii...
Thanks again or telling me that...thats very nice of u to tell that every time...:-)
Yeah AF sometimes...any proof which symbolises ourlove for that person is bad...we can only have their momories in out heart...form where no one can destroy it....cards, letters n diaries can b easily b destroyed just to satisfy ourself ki okk see we have forgotten them....
Thanks for comment from home....:-)
Hope everything at ur end is cool now...where is that diary now??? still with u kya????
Posted @ 6/11/2005 8:42 AM
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idontknowwhoim
the last three depicts something,it's only the cycle and nothing else
Posted @ 6/10/2005 6:38 PM
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idontknowwhoim
tere khushboo meiN basay khat main jalata kaisay
pyaar mein doobay huye khat main jalata kaisay
teray haathoN ke likhay khat main jalata kaisay
jinko duniya ki nigaahoN say chupayey rakha
jinko ik umar kalayjay say lagayay rakha
deen jinko jinhay imaan banaay rakha
jinka har lafz mujhay yaad paani ki tarah
yaad they mujko jo paigaam-e-zubaani ki tarah
mujko jo pyaarey they anmol nishani ki tarah
toone duniya ki nigaahoN say jo bach kar likhay
saal-ha-saal mere naam barabar likhay
kabhi din mein to kabhi raat ko uTh kar likhay
teray khat aaj main Ganga mein baha aaya hooN
aag behtay huye paani meiN laga aaya hooN
Posted @ 6/10/2005 6:35 PM
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idontknowwhoim
abkehum bichDe to shaayad kabhi khwaaboN meiN mile
jis tarah sookhe huye phool kitaaboN meiN mile
dhoonD uJde huye logon meiN wafa ke moti
ye khazane tuJhe mumkin hai kharaboN meiN mile
tu khuda hai na mera ishq faristoN jaisa
dono insaaN haiN to inum itne hijaaboN mein mile
gham-e-duniya bhi gham-e-yaar meiN shaamil kar lo
nasha behta hai sharaaboN meiN to sharaboN meiN mile
ab laboN meiN hooN na tu hai na wo maaji hai faraaq
jaise do saaye tamaana ke saraabOn meiN mile
Posted @ 6/10/2005 6:31 PM
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idontknowwhoim
apne haathoN kee lakiroN meiN basa le muJhko
main hooN tera to naseeb apna bana le muJhko
muJhse too poochne aaya hai wafa ke maani
ye teri saadaa-dili maar na Daale muJhko
khud ko maiN baaNt na DaalooN kahiN daaman-daaman
kar diya tune agar mere hawaale muJhko
waada fir waada hai maiN zehar bhi pee jaaooN 'qateel'
shaRt ye hai koi baahoN meiN sambhaale muJhko
Posted @ 6/10/2005 6:10 PM
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guess
nope! didnt put on [more!! -chuckle!! :D] weight(lucky me!!)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 5:10 PM
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AnglezFear
Hi DTE,
woman u r tooo frank .and palin and simple....now I would have told u that any number of times...but but...everytime i have to tell u that again.....
now coming to your post....well...since u read crybaby...u have a fair idea about my love life...the day everything blew up...I made a last ditch attempt...gave a card to the gal...with everything written...she took it....read it..and after some time...that card was returned to me cause she said...she couldn't keep it...I tore it rite infront of her and threw it down the gutter to satisfy my ego..
and then i wrote 20 pages that nite in my private diary[only time i ever wrote in my diary].....and two yrs later...that diary fell in my mom's hand....and then there was an storm in home....but luckily my father managed everything...and I didn't have to do any explaining
Posted @ 6/10/2005 5:08 PM
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downtoearth
Prasad...
Thanks for ur good wishes....
Reyn...hii...
Seeing ur comment after long time..how r u doing?After that confusion with CC u dissapeared...:-))
Thanks for liking this post...
Yes Reyn..I have myself expereinced this n now I know Time is the great Healer...n i can think abt him n smile...while few years back alli used to do was just cry...so it happened with time...
U too have a gr8 evening...
Sapphire...
U r stronger than me...coz u still see them n have courage to face those letters n cards...which I didnt have....so i opted that path....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 5:07 PM
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sapphire
u sure have a strong will power..i never had the heart to do something like this.......
Posted @ 6/10/2005 4:55 PM
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reyn
DTE!!!
How're you doing? =)
A well-written post again!!!
"..could see my luv burning….my emotions burning…." - yes, as they say.. "The first cut is the deepest" :)
Your decision to burn them was absolutely right, though the memories and feelings wouldn't burn away as quickly as those papers filled with love did...
and yes, time IS the best healer. I looked at the 'clock' in your blog and smiled =)
Have a great evening!!
Posted @ 6/10/2005 4:52 PM
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prasad
DTE,
Ur so rite.
I wish u get the very best tht life has to offer.
Posted @ 6/10/2005 4:50 PM
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downtoearth
Tomar...
Thats exactaly we all do..ONLY very few have courage to go through pain of seeing those things again n again...n remember good times spent together...
So we tend to return anything that will remind us of that person.....n try to forget...its like Out of sight..Out of Mind.....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 4:49 PM
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v_blog
Yess becoz thats remind me of her so i returned that........
Posted @ 6/10/2005 4:39 PM
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downtoearth
Tomar hii...
Thanks for liking this post...
Well its depends from person to person, u r right there...but One thing is there..that we would never like to see the person we once loved unhappy...soo if thses things make them unhappy or become burden than its better to get rid of them...
I even deleted innumerable e-mails he had send...coz never wanted to read anything related to him n me again....
So see u too had returned the gift she once gave u...
Posted @ 6/10/2005 4:30 PM
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v_blog
Hi Dte,
So another goood blog from you..........
I think all these thngs depend person to person. Some people think that they sud not posses any item given by their beloved when its over and some people use to keep those things. Everybody has his/her own reason to slake him/herself. I agree when it is over both ends find themselves in a eldritch situation even then they try to indurate that it is over.When my relationship was over i profusely thanked her for everythng she did for me and returned that single gift she had given to me..........
Posted @ 6/10/2005 4:22 PM
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downtoearth
Guess hii...
Well sad to know same thing happend with u too...even u had to burn them....:-(
Yes its very depressing....n heart breaking...buring something which once u wrote n posted...is all returned to u...
So u ate loads of ice-cream to fight back depression...well hope u didnt end up putting weight....:-)
But I m sure buring them had helped u n me to move ahead with life without looking back....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 3:35 PM
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guess
hi! wonderful post dte!! didnt read others' comments though!
i too got back my cards and letters and was forced to burn them
that was the first time i felt depression and i remember i ate loads of icecream !! :(
Posted @ 6/10/2005 3:26 PM
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downtoearth
Prasad...hii...
I said He is Happy....that mean I m Happy too...as i said before too we both have decided to move ahead with out life without being in touch...coz talking n exchanging mails can bring back those memories of the past which we have managed to forget....
Yes u r right ...The most difficult thing to do is to watch the person u love, love somebody else...BUT I feel Happy atleast at some point that personi loved ..loved me too....n I feel happy abt it...:-)
I just hope n wish he gives same luv to his wife too...atleast he is not cheating her....
And its said Naa...NO news is always Good News...soo like wise no communication is Best communication...:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 3:22 PM
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Prasad
Hi DTE,
Well u said it....u can both feel gud and bad abt the things tht has happended and it is for u to decide.
I saw in one comment tht u have written tht he is happy.....but are u?????? and i think u should b.
The most difficult thing to do is to watch the person u love, love somebody else.
Yes it is a very thin line between friendship and love....but if u r in love wit a friend...ru really being a gud friend 'cause how will u feel when they talk abt their marriage to someother person....will u feel happy for a friend. It is better to let go than to b friends wit the person who is rippin ur heart without knowining.
Posted @ 6/10/2005 3:14 PM
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lark
Very true dte, the person didnt had courage to share with his life partner......
YOu have a wonderful day!!!
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:58 PM
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downtoearth
Die Hard Indian
Hii...Thanks for ur comment...
So I think I did right thing by destroying them coz that could have caused trouble for him n me in our married life....n its better to end the traces n proof of that relationship which could not survive...
Well i m sure most ppl like you n me would have destroyed them for our better future....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:57 PM
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Die Hard Indian
DTE
It is a wonderful post. It does remind me of my first love ....which too like most others came to an end. I did treasure the love letters ...gifts for quite some time. But before my marriage....i too destroyed them to guard against any problems that i might encounter when my wife discovers them.
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:54 PM
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downtoearth
namita...hiii...
What ever u wrote i can relate myself with it...cox I havebeen through similar situations....if u would have read my posts u would come to know...had series of broken affairs...n each time..when i was going through some rough time..or was trying to forget my lost love someone supported me n than we became friends n than luv....but than each one left me....n its very painful to let them go...but its coz we luv each other that we want the ppl we luv to b Happy...n if staying in touch or talking hurts n brings back the pain than its Better to stop n avoid any contact...n just wish them happiness....
And yes there is very very thin line between friendship n luv...n many times ppl have been hurt coz they failed to understand wheather its luv of just plain friendship...
And once u luv a friends than it becomes hard to get that friend back.....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:54 PM
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downtoearth
Lark hii Good afternoon....
This shows u have courage to share abt ur relationship with ur prospective hubby n u would assume him to understand this too..ki yes its okk as these days everyone has at least once been into relationship....n u expect him to understand this..coz that was ur past...n ur Hubby will b ur present n future...
But dear in my case He didnt have that courage...otherwise he could have kept them n shared with his wife...but he didnt...he wanted me to keep them but instead i destroyed them.....for His better future.....
I still have One Only card he gave me...coz I think I have courage to share it with my future hubby....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:45 PM
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namita
friendship and love have a very thin line dividing it and i never knew when i crossed the line... the only time i knew it was love was when i had to leave it...the pain and the strong emotions which i felt at the time of leaving left me baffled. my 2nd love was also something which i never admitted... i knew something this nice cannot stay with me for long...in fact it was this person who was my anchor while i was hurting from the loss of my 1st love. he sailed me thru and made me laugh during my difficult times...and then fell in love with me(i too loved him though i did not admit it for fear of hurting him)
and then the day when we had to part and we decided to keep in touch but the 2nd mail from him requested me not to write anymore since he had difficulty forgetting me and since he was such a sweet friend i no longer wrote...i wanted him to heal i dunno whether his scars have healed but i want my friend back. i think 6 yrs is a long period to heal...
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:41 PM
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downtoearth
sapphire..hii...
Yeah if I too would have kept them than like u I too would have read n smiled n missed him...so never wanted to keep something which he didnt want to keep with me...
He still have few gifts I gave coz they didnt have my name on them....
Buddy...
Good keep on trying n u will suceed one fine day...:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:39 PM
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lark
Good Afternoon DTE,
Hmm...dte was in relationship in past, we never exchanged cards or letters but during that phase i had an habit of writting diary....so i use to write about the time spend and even after our break up till sometime i use to write about it all.......later i got busy with work and stopped writting.......but i still read those at times and sometimes laugh.feel how were things then........but never felt like burning them........but i feel good about reading them..at times it helps me giving an insite on my attitude and thinking.......
But donot really know if we would have exchanged letter and will destroy them later becoz we parted our ways...i dont think will do that..at least not for the reason that what if i get married and my spouse gets to know about it, i feel these days everyone has at least once been into relationship so i would rather share it with my life partner. Because it was past now things are different it was then and not now, Now you are with someone and he is your priority and he is your future.
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:38 PM
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idiot
will try
but have been trying for long......
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:34 PM
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sapphire
i have all letters and cards with me ..(if they were returned i kept them not returned i nevr asked) ...still read them sometimes n smile .....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:24 PM
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downtoearth
Namita Thanks....for reading all my posts...
One more thanks for liking this post n appreciating it.....:-)
Well all i can say from what u wrote is u did very good act by backing off....coz that could have ruined his married life...n it was soo nice of u to think abt his wife..who would have suffered unnecessaraly...due to one wrong move....
Hats off to u Namita for taking such right n good decesion....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 2:01 PM
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downtoearth
Buddy hii...
Yes....I didnt burn my love...I just burned some paper n he could have thrown them himself but seems he didnt have courage to do anything...so i did that n I m happy n glad I did that....no regrets today....
Buddy dont worry I m not crying over my past...see i m smiling now...i just remembered that n wrote down..:-)
I never forget anything given by anyone...I cherist n remember it ...coz they r not just gifts naa..there is so much luv n emotions attatched with it....
Buddy u too dont forget who gave u what...:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 1:57 PM
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namita
hi dte
i make it a point to read all ur posts ...u sure write well...we all have experiences but to express it so well is no mean deal...a very good post... it just reminded me of my past wherein i was in a similar situation and i was the one to back off..i just did not want to break up his family...in fact he was the one who wanted to file for a divorce from his wife when i got a jolt...i decide i cud not go ahead with this...i cud not ruin someone else's life for my love. love must go....he was such a gud friend of mine and i did not know when it turned into an affair...maybe my act was cowardice but i am happy that i do not have to deal with my conscience any more..i wud never have been happy ruining someone's marriage after all it was not her fault and she too loved him a lot.
tc
Posted @ 6/10/2005 1:48 PM
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downtoearth
Serenade..hii..
How r u doing....
I felt same when i read ur post....hardships we faced r somewhat similar....but path we choose to face those hardships r different....
Yes true something r not in out hands...n this was oneof them..its sad to read what happened with u....n it has happened with many of us....BUT we r strong n dealing with this....n today we r writing abt it...
Well one thing is there we cant not forget whoever we loved..irrespective of wheather we got him/her or not...BUT dear life has to go on naa....
I m glad to hear my posts make an effect on u...I wish u too get best in Life....God Bless u...
And u did make sense to me...so dont say u r not making sense...:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 1:45 PM
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idiot
well done
u burned them.
good
they shud have been burned.its nothing like burning ur love.u just burned some paper.thats all.u never decorated and wasted time on the paper.it was for him. once he is gone, they are worthless.they may have created problems for u in the future.
u really are a practical gal.
and u have move ahead is great.
there is no point crying over the past.
vaise i usually forget everything.after some time i forget wat was given by whom and sometimes i loss them( talkin abt gifts.).i am one careless soul........i forget about everything.
Posted @ 6/10/2005 1:39 PM
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Serenade
"dte"
Somethings are never in our hands. And love is an essential, which has no 'destination' defined. Its sad to know that it happened to you. But it happened to me also. I don't know why your each post resembles so much of my life too.
I didn't leave him, he left me, because he thought I was not worth marrying. It hurt me, I felt I lost so many things of my life. I cannot forget him, and still think of him.
I have preserved all the gifts, and letters. But life is this.
Sweetheart, your posts are making an effect over me, and you really deserve the best.
I know I am not making any sense.
God Bless You ;=)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 1:38 PM
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downtoearth
mansi_delhi81..hii
Seeing u after long time..where r ur jokes..miss them..
Yes Mansi it was straight from heart....Thanks for wishes dear....they mean a lot to me...
Shilpa...hi..
Thanks for liking my blog...
Yes i agree with u some things happen to change us for good...
Yes even i m happy i got rid of them....
Hope to see more ofur comments here...
Posted @ 6/10/2005 1:37 PM
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shilpa
DTE
very nice blog!:) I think some things happen only to change us for good. No offense, but these things have no other meaning or significance to it. Good you got rid of them:)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 1:17 PM
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mansi_delhi81
such a nice post DTE - straight from the heart.
i m glad to know tht u r so strong and a bold human being and above all a good human being.
all the best for your life ahead :-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 1:10 PM
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downtoearth
Bluescorp hii...
Well its very sad to know u have been throught same situation in life....
When we had parted n he got married we have told each other we will always luv each other n b in luv no matter what...but these things dissapear when u start loving ur wife than ur past luv n ur gf just becomes a memory..whom u remember when u r alone....or sad but never whenu r hois point of views..it may not apply true for u...so plz dont mind..if i m wrong...
Andi fully agree with u that if u love someone truly , u can never curse that person....i never did that...my best wishes r always with him...no matter what he did to me....
Thanks for ur comment...
Prasad
Yes u said it right....One cannot live in the Past,but you can let a little of the Past live in you....n u can remember it sometimes...n feel good n bad both....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 12:32 PM
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downtoearth
amita..hii...
Okk so it was healthy n just laughed it off...:-)
Buti still feel he should not have forgotton those flowers u gave...but good there wasno mis understanding betweenu two coz of this..thats the biggest thing....
dehati_chhokra..hii..
Thanks again for ur comment...
Well yeah maybe he isnt have courage to tell his wife abt me so he thought its better top return them to me...n I think i did right thing by burning them...
I have forgotten him...n its my past now...He is very happy....
Dabbu hii..
I think he luved me..but just didnt have enough courage to tell his to his parents n later when he got married he decided to call it off...n than those were burden on him...but he could have himself thrown them..but he returned them to me..thinking i will always keep them..but I decided to burn them....instead...n leave him alone....
And Yes after many years Life still goeson...nowi dont give any more gifts n cards to anyone...:-) Fearing they might return them to me.....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 12:26 PM
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Prasad
One cannot live in the Past,but you can let a little of the Past live in you.
Posted @ 6/10/2005 12:11 PM
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Bluescorp
Hi DTE...
This story has touched a raw nerve in me. You know most people do exactly as you have mentioned.
The reason behind this is lack of trust. I feel that the most important thing in any relationship is trust.
Of this breaks the relationship goes into comma....it exists but just for the name sake. Its 9 months since
I had a breakup....6 long years had just come to an end....I am still picking up the bits and pieces of my life...
and as you said , it was my first love. But I did not return anything and she did not either. One thing we both have
agreed is that the love will never die....I can still feel her holding my hands when I take a walk.....It brings a lot of tears
and the heart pains....but I respect her. And I am sure u will agree with me, that if u love someone truly , u can never
curse that person. I feel I have lost the ability to love....but life is just not fair to all.....but I know that....
Kisi ka pyaar leke tum
Naya jahan basaaoge
Yeh shaam jab bhi aayegi
Tum humko yaad aaoge
Bye...
Bluescorp
Posted @ 6/10/2005 12:09 PM
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Dabbu
Hi Dte,
I always read ur letter in free time, as it takes me some other nostalgic world. Hey, its a terrible thing to happen when a relationship breaks. I have never been into any serious relationships, so never gave or received any gifts or cards, etc etc. However, the memories of those who passed off me still haunts and those little things that we have shared still speak the warmth of the good times we had.
One of my friend had drawn my face (Schematic) on a ice cream stick, and i still have it. First of all breaking of reln itself is such a pain, and to return the happy moments in form of tangibles....what to say? may be never loved you in first place. Sorry for guessing on ur personal life, but its unfortunate again for you to have a insensible guy like him
But then, life goes on......... as ever
take care
Posted @ 6/10/2005 12:06 PM
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dehati_chhokra
Hi DTE...
after reading it i felt dumbstruck...it was such a cowardly act to return back the letters...he was not worth you...and i think you did right in burning the letters...just forget him and move ahead and you'll meet someone sincere and worth you. I know one of my friend(guy) who faced similar situation.
take care.....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 11:28 AM
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amita
dte
Hez my closest buddy yaar .. we laughed off that incident later .. :))
i have a tendency to demand and give explanations always :D hehe
I know that flowers part was a bit 2 much .. i gave him 15 sunflower like flowers (red in color) with big stalks since i got them at a discount .. they werent too comfortable to carry around .. but it was my gift na and if he forgot it his mistake haha
i still laugh at what i did ;)
:))))
Posted @ 6/10/2005 11:15 AM
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etceteras
Amita, i am sure your soul gave your friend another chance too :))
Posted @ 6/10/2005 11:08 AM
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downtoearth
ravindra hii...
It happened longggg back...I m already moving ahead with life...:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 11:04 AM
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downtoearth
Amita...
Well he left the flowers u gave...well that was rude on his part....
But u r a brave gal....u did right thing...n used ur mind..n gave those precious flowers to that child...who must b very happy to receive them...i m sure it must b memorable moment of that childs life...
But what was ur friends reaction to this????
Hats off to u Amita u did right thing...:-)
Din...
Let me check n comment....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 11:03 AM
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ravindra
Great that u burnt those letters. Now, get on with life.
Posted @ 6/10/2005 11:01 AM
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downtoearth
etceteras...hii..
Yeah Life teaches us many things....and Life is a Expereince....
I remember when we were in luv we used to say...u r the Best thing that can happen to my Life..it was all so beautiful...n lovely....BUT just didnt last long....but it was there n that leaves me feel happy....
Yeah maybe he came to teach me something n i learned some lesson of life....
Yeah nice song.....Aadmi Mushafir hai, atte jate raste mein yadeen chodd jata hai :-)
Thanks for ur comment...:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:59 AM
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Dinesh
DTE saw that and commented too! I need ur reply to my question there!
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:55 AM
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amita
dte
I gave flowers just once to someone .. maybe hez reading this right now ;).
We had an argument while watching a movie and he left my pretty flowers on the seat ..
Gosh i was furious ..Guess what i did .. Picked my flowers nd when we came out of the movie gave it to a street kid ;)
And i told my friend .. Kids love flowers :))))..lame excuse again ;)
See u give to those who appreciate it ..That child smiled at me 2 ... hahaha
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:52 AM
# re: Those Love Letters...
etceteras
Life is an experience. Its a process of evolving to the next level. Falling in love is an event that occurs to change or add something in your persona. DTE if that person had not come into your life, maybe you would have been on a different path, a different atitude.
Speaking on life, this is my favourite song and I recall it mostly when there is a goodbye to be said..
Aadmi Mushafir hai, atte jate raste mein yadeen chodd jata hai :))
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:50 AM
# re: Those Love Letters...
downtoearth
Kavi hii...
Yeah right..when we think practically its BETTER to get rid of them....so that they dont create problems in Life....
And if i still had them..than it would have been more painful to see them everyday..I m glad they r no more there.....
Thanks for ur comment...:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:46 AM
# re: Those Love Letters...
downtoearth
Tech hii...
Yeah right said....atleast we should b happy that we loved someone n got love in return....like u said...
its better to have loved and lost..than never to have loved....
Flowers u can give when u r in same city....in my case we were in different cities...so had to depend on cards n letters...
Amita hii..
Yeah we can give flowers but u know what if i get flowers than I HATE TO SEE THEM DRY....n just can throw them....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:44 AM
# re: Those Love Letters...
kavitha
hi dte, fortunately or unfortunately, never had the opportunity to get or give a love letter which later became an obstacle.
but I feel tis better to throw or destroy these things once the relationship ends cos otherwise they can kindle memories and leave a bitter taste.......
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:42 AM
# re: Those Love Letters...
downtoearth
Din hii...
Exactaly i wanted to write abt those untangible things that we shared together...but what i meant was with those letter I burt those too..or atleast tried to burn.....or I say I managed to burn or forget....
I agree 100% emotions and memories are far harder to wipe away...they leave a scar forever in ur life...n their memories stay forever in ur heart...
Thanks for ur comment Din..i have commented too on ur post..do check it out...:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:40 AM
# re: Those Love Letters...
amita
techj
I give flowers 2 ;) haha
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:34 AM
# re: Those Love Letters...
techj
jan 2005...
i burnt my bday card i got form tat gal...
tats it
i never gave anything but flowers to all the galz...
DTE
its better to have loved and lost..than never to have loved....
but i freakin pains...ouch!!!
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:31 AM
# re: Those Love Letters...
Dinesh
DTE u talk abt tangible things. Wats more the burden is the mental part. The times u shared, vivid memories, happy times, her scent, her aura, the air around her, her hair, the first kiss, the glint in her eye, the 1000 heart beats u get! I feel tangible things are easy to dispose. I've never received/ givena physical letter. Gifts yeah cards yes. But i don't attach much importance to writings on a card. The gifts i do treasure! and still keep!
But the emotions and memories are far harder to wipe away! Been there done that, moved on yes! Wasn't easy, Isn't gonna be easy too! Maybe one day far away when u have a family of ur own and old, u'll look back and say life aint been bitter after all. But living everyday u'll def feel different! Nice post thgh!
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:21 AM
# re: Those Love Letters...
downtoearth
Amita...
Yeah u r right there.....:-)
Care for ppl u care for u...
Naveen...
Thanks....:-)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:14 AM
# re: Those Love Letters...
amita
dte
Just follow one rule in ur life
U give what u get .. If u dont do it u really get hurt .. if someone loves me 10% i give 20%
but if someones doesnt care a damn abt me then i give -20% ;) hehe ..
But this makes sense .. U shud care most abt pple who care abt u .. Else u dont have to worry abt that person at all .. :)
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:11 AM
# Those Love Letters...
guy_on_black_YBX
Hiya
you wud sure get that , and you worth someones waitin for you out there, time will get bring him to you. wish to get to hear bout him soooon. :(
Naveen
Posted @ 6/10/2005 10:03 AM
# re: Those Love Letters...
downtoearth
Amita...hii...
Good Morning....
Yeah Life has more to offer than a few letters...which he didnt have courage to keep...n I feel good i have burned them....
Have a gr8 day ahead....Amita n thanks for ur comment....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 9:55 AM
# re: Those Love Letters...
downtoearth
Naveen Thanks....
Yes...burn the past n move ahead...maybe something good is in store...maybe i get something...maybe this time i will not have to burn anything again...with just this hope....moving ahead....
Posted @ 6/10/2005 9:52 AM
# re: Those Love Letters...
amita
dte
Good morning dear
I think its very stupid of him to return things u gave so lovingly ..
So what if ur not in some relationship nymore .. there are prized memories .. if he cant live with it then he doesnt deserve it ..trust me .. u did the right thing in burning them off .. Never heard of a more lame excuse abt shifting homes ;) ...
Move ahead dear ... there are better men than him ..
U will meet a person who appreciates it and See if he has done this with u .. time will get back to him one day .. A persons karma always comes back to him/her ...
Take care
and have a nice day honey :)
Cheer up .. Live has more to offer than a few letters that someone returns :D :D
Posted @ 6/10/2005 9:50 AM
# re: Those Love Letters...
guy_on_black_YBX
Hiya
DTE been grt, another good blog tough it might have hurt you while puttin this down, think that was a good thing to do to burn those letters cuz you might not come across those memories that frequently otherwise. And its realy grt that you have decided to get a head with life, there are very few who are capable of doin that? Hats off to you.
Naveen
WE! THE WOMAN
WE! THE WOMAN
Hii friends…here I am with one more of my blog….this partly is written by me and part is copy paste of idea and comments I liked. On the Eve of Women’s Day would like to say something….some thoughts are mine and some are others.
Today is 7th march…n tomorrow is 8th March….WOMEN’S DAY…n I was sitting n pondering what does it mean to me and to many more like me….why was this started…why its there in Country like ours…where Women r most suppressed. I see programs organized on State of women health, some one offering free medical check ups, Talk shows being organized, Healthy Recipe’s being discussed….and much more. In short trying to make few women make feel special on this Women’s Day…..
As women’s day draw near, women all over the country hit headlines - for countless contributions to the country's development and well-being; for achievements in business and sport; and for the quiet, behind-the-scenes role they play every day, as workers, wives and mothers.
I am the only women working in this organization…but still i wonder if any of my male colleague will even care to come n just wish me Happy Women’s Day!!!! But its okk..its not a Valentine’s Day…...where everyone atleast comes up n wish u…like Happy Holi or Happy Diwali…..but Happy Women day…I don’t think It will be wished…J No this is not a complain ….its hardly going to effect me or my work here….I am just talking about the attitude. And few of my men friends would question Why is there no Men's Day? Because every day except Women's Day is Men's Day….J
But I don’t want to talk about just myself on this women’s day…as I am not the ONLY one here…I want to talk about Indian Women, the common Indian Women, who is unnoticed and uncared and always taken for granted. There is this quote by late prime minister Jawaharlal Nehru:- You can tell the condition of a nation by looking at the status of its women…..
Her name is Sunita, Sakina or Sandra. She is 20 going on 50. She lives in a city, a town, a village. She is cook, nurse, bookkeeper, seamstress, sweeper, general cleaner-up, washerwoman, entertainer, amateur child psychologist, imparter of religious and ethical instruction, teacher, sex educationist, counsellor, and, often, wage earner to boot, all rolled into one. She is your average, anonymous Indian woman homemaker. ( Sunday Times )
The persistence of hunger and abject poverty in India and other parts of the world is due in large measure to the subjugation, marginalization and disempowerment of women. Women suffer from hunger and poverty in greater numbers and to a great degree then men. At the same time, it is women who bear the primary responsibility for actions needed to end hunger: education, nutrition, health and family income.
Looking through the lens of hunger and poverty, there are seven major areas of discrimination against women in India:
* Malnutrition: India has exceptionally high rates of child malnutrition, because tradition in India requires that women eat last and least throughout their lives, even when pregnant and lactating. Malnourished women give birth to malnourished children, perpetuating the cycle.
* Poor Health: Females receive less health care than males. Many women die in childbirth of easily prevented complications. Working conditions and environmental pollution further impairs women's health.
* Lack of education: Families are far less likely to educate girls than boys, and far more likely to pull them out of school, either to help out at home or from fear of violence.
* Overwork: Women work longer hours and their work is more arduous than men's, yet their work is unrecognized. Men report that "women, like children, eat and do nothing." Technological progress in agriculture has had a negative impact on women.
* Unskilled: In women's primary employment sector - agriculture - extension services overlook women.
* Mistreatment: In recent years, there has been an alarming rise in atrocities against women in India, in terms of rapes, assaults and dowry-related murders. Fear of violence suppresses the aspirations of all women. Female infanticide and sex-selective abortions are additional forms of violence that reflect the devaluing of females in Indian society.
* Powerlessness: While women are guaranteed equality under the constitution, legal protection has little effect in the face of prevailing patriarchal traditions. Women lack power to decide who they will marry, and are often married off as children. Legal loopholes are used to deny women inheritance rights.
India has a long history of activism for women's welfare and rights, which has increasingly focused on women's economic rights. A range of government programs have been launched to increase economic opportunity for women, although there appear to be no existing programs to address the cultural and traditional discrimination against women that leads to her abject conditions.
Her name is Sunita, Sakina, Sandra. And the future belongs to her. It had better. Because without her we don’t have much of a future.
Hii friends…here I am with one more of my blog….this partly is written by me and part is copy paste of idea and comments I liked. On the Eve of Women’s Day would like to say something….some thoughts are mine and some are others.
Today is 7th march…n tomorrow is 8th March….WOMEN’S DAY…n I was sitting n pondering what does it mean to me and to many more like me….why was this started…why its there in Country like ours…where Women r most suppressed. I see programs organized on State of women health, some one offering free medical check ups, Talk shows being organized, Healthy Recipe’s being discussed….and much more. In short trying to make few women make feel special on this Women’s Day…..
As women’s day draw near, women all over the country hit headlines - for countless contributions to the country's development and well-being; for achievements in business and sport; and for the quiet, behind-the-scenes role they play every day, as workers, wives and mothers.
I am the only women working in this organization…but still i wonder if any of my male colleague will even care to come n just wish me Happy Women’s Day!!!! But its okk..its not a Valentine’s Day…...where everyone atleast comes up n wish u…like Happy Holi or Happy Diwali…..but Happy Women day…I don’t think It will be wished…J No this is not a complain ….its hardly going to effect me or my work here….I am just talking about the attitude. And few of my men friends would question Why is there no Men's Day? Because every day except Women's Day is Men's Day….J
But I don’t want to talk about just myself on this women’s day…as I am not the ONLY one here…I want to talk about Indian Women, the common Indian Women, who is unnoticed and uncared and always taken for granted. There is this quote by late prime minister Jawaharlal Nehru:- You can tell the condition of a nation by looking at the status of its women…..
Her name is Sunita, Sakina or Sandra. She is 20 going on 50. She lives in a city, a town, a village. She is cook, nurse, bookkeeper, seamstress, sweeper, general cleaner-up, washerwoman, entertainer, amateur child psychologist, imparter of religious and ethical instruction, teacher, sex educationist, counsellor, and, often, wage earner to boot, all rolled into one. She is your average, anonymous Indian woman homemaker. ( Sunday Times )
The persistence of hunger and abject poverty in India and other parts of the world is due in large measure to the subjugation, marginalization and disempowerment of women. Women suffer from hunger and poverty in greater numbers and to a great degree then men. At the same time, it is women who bear the primary responsibility for actions needed to end hunger: education, nutrition, health and family income.
Looking through the lens of hunger and poverty, there are seven major areas of discrimination against women in India:
* Malnutrition: India has exceptionally high rates of child malnutrition, because tradition in India requires that women eat last and least throughout their lives, even when pregnant and lactating. Malnourished women give birth to malnourished children, perpetuating the cycle.
* Poor Health: Females receive less health care than males. Many women die in childbirth of easily prevented complications. Working conditions and environmental pollution further impairs women's health.
* Lack of education: Families are far less likely to educate girls than boys, and far more likely to pull them out of school, either to help out at home or from fear of violence.
* Overwork: Women work longer hours and their work is more arduous than men's, yet their work is unrecognized. Men report that "women, like children, eat and do nothing." Technological progress in agriculture has had a negative impact on women.
* Unskilled: In women's primary employment sector - agriculture - extension services overlook women.
* Mistreatment: In recent years, there has been an alarming rise in atrocities against women in India, in terms of rapes, assaults and dowry-related murders. Fear of violence suppresses the aspirations of all women. Female infanticide and sex-selective abortions are additional forms of violence that reflect the devaluing of females in Indian society.
* Powerlessness: While women are guaranteed equality under the constitution, legal protection has little effect in the face of prevailing patriarchal traditions. Women lack power to decide who they will marry, and are often married off as children. Legal loopholes are used to deny women inheritance rights.
India has a long history of activism for women's welfare and rights, which has increasingly focused on women's economic rights. A range of government programs have been launched to increase economic opportunity for women, although there appear to be no existing programs to address the cultural and traditional discrimination against women that leads to her abject conditions.
Her name is Sunita, Sakina, Sandra. And the future belongs to her. It had better. Because without her we don’t have much of a future.
My Mother India...
Hello Friend…. Hope u all r doing fine…I know I have been missing from here since quite a time… seems I m again stuck with 'Blogger’s Block' as its termed… but I am thinking of ending my lifecycle as a blogger than I can not end without mentioning here abt One Imp. Person that was always there for me…. 24x7x365…from the time I was born……. Yes she is my MOM…. I call her ‘Mummy’ like most…
I should have written this on 14th May that was right day ‘Mother’s Day’ but I feel there cant b any special day to think n thank your MOM.. she doesn’t need just One Day… she’s got everyday…. So today I m writing abt her…who was never in limelight….a very simple…. down to earth home maker…who gave up her career as an Artist after her marriage at the age of 24….. She was very good Painter…and I even remember running n spoiling n tearing few of the portraits made by her… Sorry Mom for doing that… L I was not aware of their importance…
My Mother I never thought was ever inspiration for me… I always ignored her… I always took her advises in wrong manner… till data I have been doing that… but she was always there and still is there looking after all my needs.. caring for me…. Being present there with whatever I need… I just need to tell her I need this n she will b there with that….. She never expected anything in return for all this… her love is been always unconditional….. I always overlooked her favors ….. but inspite of all this I always Love her….. which I never said…
I remember fighting for her with everyone… she is very quite, simple n soft and thus prone to injustice…. from everyone…. But I make sure.. I will not let this happen… no one can hurt her now…. Not till I m there for her…. But in this process I might b hurting her…. But she always have big heart to forgive me…..every time…
I know I have not been a good daughter to u…. never done anything that will make u proud of me…. But still U always loved ur this bad daughter…. And all I can give u in return is that I will never ever hurt u…. consciously from now onwards…. And I will be more careful and sensitive towards ur feeling and expectations from me…. And will stop taking u for granted… and will become ur good daughter…
You are my brother, sister, friend, guide…. and above all biggest critic… J which I love…. I m always unsure abt how I look in any dress unless i receive special comment from ur side…. And I can see in ur eyes How that’s looking… J Thanks every morning for doing that… n keep on doing that…. I love to stand besides u …as I m taller than u…and how can i forget cannot sleep until we fight over some useless topic….n than laugh also... J I love to see smile on ur face .. thats why i crack those stupid senseless jokes...
Mom..u sacrificed ur happiness and dreams for me..and never got appreciated in returned…. Not by ur husband…. father…brother… none.. and not even by Me… L But something changed me this morning when I saw u tiered this morning….something pinched me…..and I can assure u now mom that I will change… I will try to make u proud in every sphere...
I love u Mom and cant imagine life without u around…. Hats off to u mom… u are my Super Mom…. THANK U MOM…. For everything…. Thank GOD for giving me my MOM …This is the new beginning today…
I should have written this on 14th May that was right day ‘Mother’s Day’ but I feel there cant b any special day to think n thank your MOM.. she doesn’t need just One Day… she’s got everyday…. So today I m writing abt her…who was never in limelight….a very simple…. down to earth home maker…who gave up her career as an Artist after her marriage at the age of 24….. She was very good Painter…and I even remember running n spoiling n tearing few of the portraits made by her… Sorry Mom for doing that… L I was not aware of their importance…
My Mother I never thought was ever inspiration for me… I always ignored her… I always took her advises in wrong manner… till data I have been doing that… but she was always there and still is there looking after all my needs.. caring for me…. Being present there with whatever I need… I just need to tell her I need this n she will b there with that….. She never expected anything in return for all this… her love is been always unconditional….. I always overlooked her favors ….. but inspite of all this I always Love her….. which I never said…
I remember fighting for her with everyone… she is very quite, simple n soft and thus prone to injustice…. from everyone…. But I make sure.. I will not let this happen… no one can hurt her now…. Not till I m there for her…. But in this process I might b hurting her…. But she always have big heart to forgive me…..every time…
I know I have not been a good daughter to u…. never done anything that will make u proud of me…. But still U always loved ur this bad daughter…. And all I can give u in return is that I will never ever hurt u…. consciously from now onwards…. And I will be more careful and sensitive towards ur feeling and expectations from me…. And will stop taking u for granted… and will become ur good daughter…
You are my brother, sister, friend, guide…. and above all biggest critic… J which I love…. I m always unsure abt how I look in any dress unless i receive special comment from ur side…. And I can see in ur eyes How that’s looking… J Thanks every morning for doing that… n keep on doing that…. I love to stand besides u …as I m taller than u…and how can i forget cannot sleep until we fight over some useless topic….n than laugh also... J I love to see smile on ur face .. thats why i crack those stupid senseless jokes...
Mom..u sacrificed ur happiness and dreams for me..and never got appreciated in returned…. Not by ur husband…. father…brother… none.. and not even by Me… L But something changed me this morning when I saw u tiered this morning….something pinched me…..and I can assure u now mom that I will change… I will try to make u proud in every sphere...
I love u Mom and cant imagine life without u around…. Hats off to u mom… u are my Super Mom…. THANK U MOM…. For everything…. Thank GOD for giving me my MOM …This is the new beginning today…
Make your first night memorable
Make your first night memorable
A little anxiety coupled with moments of anticipation and finally some wild thoughts, the perfect first night experience is often sprinkled with
Lovemaking couple Forget first night boo-boos and make it a special one
Most couples nurse nervous speculations and deep seated performance anxiety about their first night of closeness. Hearsay from newly wed friends or common beliefs picked up from random sources add to the sexual tension. Knowing the exact way to get it right is an arduous task and if gone wrong, you may end up facing a catastrophic situation in your bedroom with your first nuptial boo-boos.
We spoke to some couples to know the common blunders they made (inadvertently) on their first night. Of course, it wasn't just about 'sex' on the first night, as there were numerous other problems which could ruin the first night craze...
Boo-boo: A moment in haste and its all waste
Without much knowledge about sex, couples encountered awkward situations like premature ejaculation for men or women getting overtly apprehensive about vaginal pain and hymen bleeding. Fear is the biggest factor affecting performance on the first night.
Top Tip: Make the act more pleasurable
No person is a master sex performer, so indulge in a prolonged foreplay session to make your first night a tender bonding experience. Even if things go wrong, stay calm and try again after some time. Sometimes the wedding stress and the discomfort of an all new environment takes a mental toll. The body and mind may not be fully open for the experience of sexual discovery. Being patient is key.
Boo-boo: Experiments can wait
Agreed that it's your first time with your partner, but don't get overtly excited. Couples are all geared up to try new acts in bed, but first try and figure out your partner's comfort quotient.
Top Tip: Every night is a first night
Don't think that the first night is your 'one and only' chance to make love passionately, with time your bond will grow even more special with your better half. The first night is just the beginning of pleasures. Don't fret and waste it in performance anxiety!
Boo-boo: Look sexy in tradition
It's believed that a bride must remain in her wedding outfit and let the husband come and lift up the veil (‘ghoongat’). But modern day brides aren't too interested in donning the ostentatious outfit for too long and the minute they enter the bedroom; they prefer to undress into a sexy lingerie/night gown. Now, no matter how sensuous your night gown maybe, it doesn't have the same charm as a wedding ensemble. This fashion faux pas forms a lesser known, but common goof-up for brides.
Top Tip: Gifts Galore
As the husband lifts up the veil of the bride's wedding outfit, she's entitled to a surprise gift (for 'mooh dikhayee'). Rings, pendants, necklaces are passé; think of something out-of-the-blue, maybe a romantic honeymoon package, which she would be least expecting or a glamorous outfit, a transparent, hot dress, which you'd like her to get clad in just for your eyes.
A little anxiety coupled with moments of anticipation and finally some wild thoughts, the perfect first night experience is often sprinkled with
Lovemaking couple Forget first night boo-boos and make it a special one
Most couples nurse nervous speculations and deep seated performance anxiety about their first night of closeness. Hearsay from newly wed friends or common beliefs picked up from random sources add to the sexual tension. Knowing the exact way to get it right is an arduous task and if gone wrong, you may end up facing a catastrophic situation in your bedroom with your first nuptial boo-boos.
We spoke to some couples to know the common blunders they made (inadvertently) on their first night. Of course, it wasn't just about 'sex' on the first night, as there were numerous other problems which could ruin the first night craze...
Boo-boo: A moment in haste and its all waste
Without much knowledge about sex, couples encountered awkward situations like premature ejaculation for men or women getting overtly apprehensive about vaginal pain and hymen bleeding. Fear is the biggest factor affecting performance on the first night.
Top Tip: Make the act more pleasurable
No person is a master sex performer, so indulge in a prolonged foreplay session to make your first night a tender bonding experience. Even if things go wrong, stay calm and try again after some time. Sometimes the wedding stress and the discomfort of an all new environment takes a mental toll. The body and mind may not be fully open for the experience of sexual discovery. Being patient is key.
Boo-boo: Experiments can wait
Agreed that it's your first time with your partner, but don't get overtly excited. Couples are all geared up to try new acts in bed, but first try and figure out your partner's comfort quotient.
Top Tip: Every night is a first night
Don't think that the first night is your 'one and only' chance to make love passionately, with time your bond will grow even more special with your better half. The first night is just the beginning of pleasures. Don't fret and waste it in performance anxiety!
Boo-boo: Look sexy in tradition
It's believed that a bride must remain in her wedding outfit and let the husband come and lift up the veil (‘ghoongat’). But modern day brides aren't too interested in donning the ostentatious outfit for too long and the minute they enter the bedroom; they prefer to undress into a sexy lingerie/night gown. Now, no matter how sensuous your night gown maybe, it doesn't have the same charm as a wedding ensemble. This fashion faux pas forms a lesser known, but common goof-up for brides.
Top Tip: Gifts Galore
As the husband lifts up the veil of the bride's wedding outfit, she's entitled to a surprise gift (for 'mooh dikhayee'). Rings, pendants, necklaces are passé; think of something out-of-the-blue, maybe a romantic honeymoon package, which she would be least expecting or a glamorous outfit, a transparent, hot dress, which you'd like her to get clad in just for your eyes.
Culture no barrier to great cinema
Harishchandrachi Factory's elimination from the running for the best foreign film Oscar is the continuation of a fine Indian tradition. A meagre handful of Indian films have made it to the shortlist since the awards were established; three so far, with none of them going on to win. And often, when an Indian entry is knocked out, there are graceless observations about cultural bias and prejudice by observers here. Paresh Mokashi, director of Harishchandrachi Factory has not gone quite so far, but he has trotted out another old trope; that American tastes differ from Indian tastes, and therefore the Oscar jury's rejection of the movie does not truly reflect the movie's worth. His reasoning, unfortunately, is flimsy.
Cultural barriers may indeed prevent much of the dross being churned out by film industries the world over from crossing over to international audiences. But those movies are made to cater to the lowest common denominator. The Oscars, on the other hand, are meant to reward excellence. And that is where Mokashi's reasoning falls short. Cinematic excellence is not bounded by geographical and cultural limits. Movies of this kind are often like a Rorschach test; every audience can find something to take away from them. They present a localised narrative, but through it they reflect certain truths and observations that resonate across cultures. That these films are in another language or have a different aesthetic sensibility does not prevent audiences from recognising this.
If Mokashi's logic were true, there would be no explaining the movies that do go on to win in the foreign language category every year, many of them from cultures as or more alien to the US as India's. When an Indian movie, Lagaan, last made it to the shortlist, it lost out to No Man's Land, a film from Bosnia-Herzegovina, made in a language unknown to US audiences, set in the middle of a conflict alien to them. Yet, its blackly ironic reflection on the tragedy of human nature made a mockery of such barriers. Indian movies have lost for no other reason than they fall short of such standards.
Cultural barriers may indeed prevent much of the dross being churned out by film industries the world over from crossing over to international audiences. But those movies are made to cater to the lowest common denominator. The Oscars, on the other hand, are meant to reward excellence. And that is where Mokashi's reasoning falls short. Cinematic excellence is not bounded by geographical and cultural limits. Movies of this kind are often like a Rorschach test; every audience can find something to take away from them. They present a localised narrative, but through it they reflect certain truths and observations that resonate across cultures. That these films are in another language or have a different aesthetic sensibility does not prevent audiences from recognising this.
If Mokashi's logic were true, there would be no explaining the movies that do go on to win in the foreign language category every year, many of them from cultures as or more alien to the US as India's. When an Indian movie, Lagaan, last made it to the shortlist, it lost out to No Man's Land, a film from Bosnia-Herzegovina, made in a language unknown to US audiences, set in the middle of a conflict alien to them. Yet, its blackly ironic reflection on the tragedy of human nature made a mockery of such barriers. Indian movies have lost for no other reason than they fall short of such standards.
Oscars aren't everything
Oscars aren't everything
Paresh Mokashi, director of India's entry to the Oscars, Harishchandrachi Factory, has shrugged off the disappointment of the Marathi movie not making it into the shortlist of the Academy's best foreign films by saying that American audiences might not identify with such an Indian film. Despite what film-makers would have us believe, he's absolutely right. Movies are a cultural product, and while some short-on-plot long-on-special effects spectaculars might hit the bull's eye around the world, the smaller, more intimate films that actually care about their characters often don't. And when the movie conventions are as different as those of Indian cinema and Hollywood, the cultural disconnect is even larger.
When was the last time an Indian film was a true crossover hit? Slumdog Millionaire, successful though it is, hardly qualifies as an Indian film. The director was British, and it was produced by British and American studios. Ang Lee, director of Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon, makes his films for western audiences, which is why they do so well there. It's true that several big budget Hindi films hit the big time in the US and UK, but that is largely due to the NRI community in those countries. The song-and-dance routine with a three-hour plus runtime is hardly what audiences in the West expect from their films.
It cuts both ways. The majority of what Hollywood releases in India barely makes money. Sure, this year Avatar and 2012 were huge money-spinners, but those are exceptions. Just like western audiences don't expect heroes and heroines to dance around trees, Indian audiences find it hard to relate to talky, introspective films without any musical relief.
Why are we so obsessed with winning a western award anyway? Art doesn't have to have universal appeal to be regarded as art. It is understandable that a great Hindi, Bengali or Marathi film that speaks to Indians about their lives and experiences would utterly fail to move Americans, who don't have the same cultural idiom as their Indian counterparts. The Oscars are one barometer of good film-making, but we have plenty of our own to go around
Paresh Mokashi, director of India's entry to the Oscars, Harishchandrachi Factory, has shrugged off the disappointment of the Marathi movie not making it into the shortlist of the Academy's best foreign films by saying that American audiences might not identify with such an Indian film. Despite what film-makers would have us believe, he's absolutely right. Movies are a cultural product, and while some short-on-plot long-on-special effects spectaculars might hit the bull's eye around the world, the smaller, more intimate films that actually care about their characters often don't. And when the movie conventions are as different as those of Indian cinema and Hollywood, the cultural disconnect is even larger.
When was the last time an Indian film was a true crossover hit? Slumdog Millionaire, successful though it is, hardly qualifies as an Indian film. The director was British, and it was produced by British and American studios. Ang Lee, director of Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon, makes his films for western audiences, which is why they do so well there. It's true that several big budget Hindi films hit the big time in the US and UK, but that is largely due to the NRI community in those countries. The song-and-dance routine with a three-hour plus runtime is hardly what audiences in the West expect from their films.
It cuts both ways. The majority of what Hollywood releases in India barely makes money. Sure, this year Avatar and 2012 were huge money-spinners, but those are exceptions. Just like western audiences don't expect heroes and heroines to dance around trees, Indian audiences find it hard to relate to talky, introspective films without any musical relief.
Why are we so obsessed with winning a western award anyway? Art doesn't have to have universal appeal to be regarded as art. It is understandable that a great Hindi, Bengali or Marathi film that speaks to Indians about their lives and experiences would utterly fail to move Americans, who don't have the same cultural idiom as their Indian counterparts. The Oscars are one barometer of good film-making, but we have plenty of our own to go around
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