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Oral sex – get it licked!

Oral sex
Sex and relationships expert Dr Pam Spurr has just written her new book Sizzling Sex - The Sex Doctor's 250 Hottest Tips, Tricks And Techniques (J R Books £7.99).

It's packed with tips from the very sensual to the raunchy and here she selects some of the simplest oral sex tips - get ready to blow her mind.

Tongue swirling
Here's a little tip for some sexy tongue action! The tongue is a muscle like any other and needs to be worked out regularly. Occasionally you should simply swirl it around in your mouth, flick it and lap with it to keep it in tip-top shape for giving amazing oral sex.

Before you use this technique on her try swirling your tongue across one of your knuckles. Even on your masculine hand you'll feel how wonderful the swirling action is, going around and around on your knuckle.

Do this little action around her clitoral hood and if she likes it on her clitoris directly – she'll be in absolute heaven. Many men simply lap at the clitoris but if you perfect the swirling technique she'll thank you for it. You could also build up to doing a little "figure of 8" – a double swirl with your tongue, but that takes some practice. So use your knuckle!

Worship at her altar
This is a wonderful tip to try if you’re not shy around each other. However she needs to be fairly confident about her body, and about you, to enjoy this. If she's not, you definitely need subtle lighting to make her feel more body confident. Also, it may be a good idea to suggest doing this when she still has her knickers or a sexy nightdress on so she doesn't feel completely exposed.

At any point in your sex-play you can ask her to stand on the floor. Obviously you want to do this on a carpeted floor for your own comfort. Kneel between her parted legs and give her oral sex from this position. She'll feel incredibly dominant if she's wearing high heels and little else! You can hold onto her buttocks so that you can get the right pressure on her clitoris and vagina. Ask her to hold the back of your head as she stands above you to help guide you with the right pressure. Then enjoy worshipping at her altar!

Intimate grooming
Want to know what will really seem thoughtful to her and build intimacy and trust with her? Try this technique: ask her if you can groom her intimately. The first time you offer to do this should be when you're both feeling affectionate and maybe even a bit turned on. Keep things simple and suggest gently combing or brushing her pubic hair as she lies back. She's probably never had this offer before!

This is an amazing thing to do before giving oral sex as it gets rid of any stray pubic hairs that get caught in your teeth or in the back of your throat – not sexy in the slightest! As you groom her touch her in a sensual way and even compliment her, women are so paranoid about the way they look.

Loving the pearl
This technique is only to be used when she's really turned on. It'd be too much to try in the first few minutes of giving her oral pleasure. As a woman gets more aroused she usually becomes less sensitive than at the start of arousal. This technique is also fantastic for women who like direct clitoral stimulation.

In Loving the Pearl you can either pull her clitoral hood upwards exposing her clitoris more, or not; whatever her preference is. Now take your thumb and index finger and rest them either side of her clitoris. They should be highly lubricated with your saliva or lubricant.

Use small twisting, or back and forth motions, with these two fingers. Gently rub her clitoris between your thumb and index finger with these little motions. As you gradually build the pace ask her how it's feeling. She may want a quicker pace or she may want you to vary your touch from firmer to gentler. When you do it correctly, just as she wants it, this is like releasing the genie from the magic lamp that you've been rubbing!

Come on over
Here's a simple trick to give her the best of both worlds while you're giving her oral. It combines using your finger and tongue for double the pleasure. If you're lying or kneeling between her legs begin by simply licking and kissing her. As she gets more turned on introduce your fingertips to your sex-play. Stroke her labia gently as you continue your oral techniques.

Once she's really turned on, slowly slide your index or middle finger into her vagina. You can now begin to stimulate the inside of her vagina with your finger while tickling her clitoris with your tongue. To do this simple trick simply stroke this general area as if you're using your index finger to signal someone to "come on over". Do so gently as you continue giving her oral pleasure.

Nose nuzzling
There's hardly anything raunchier or simpler than this little tip when it comes to oral sex. This shows your down-and-dirty side that she's going to love. When you go to give her oral pleasure using whatever technique she enjoys, pause and start nuzzling her labia and clitoris with your nose. Move the tip of your nose in little circles around her clitoris. Then move it up and down between her moist labia. Then go back to licking and kissing her for a while.

You can then restart the nuzzling and tease her with this incredibly erotic sensation. You can quite literally take her breath away by using this intimate technique.