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Are you hot in bed or a hopeless wreck? Read on for tips to get your act right...

What makes a person great in bed? It's not just about the intense chemistry or mind-blowing foreplay. The whole point is to be completely in tune with your partner's feelings and body.

Here is a list of common goof-ups that one needs to avoid in the bedroom.

What’s that?
It's surprising to note the number of people who don't know enough about sex. In fact, not knowing about how your partner's body works can cause a lot of embarrassment in the bedroom. And with the amount of information readily available, one has no excuse for not knowing about basic anatomy. Try the net, sex books and other options. Once you have the basic knowledge right, the rest is all a matter of 'trying and testing' to see what works and what doesn't with your partner.

Read my mind
We expect our lovers to be mind readers. Expecting your lover to second-guess your every desire is rubbish. Just because someone knows you well and wants to please you doesn't mean they suddenly have access to a magic wand or tarot cards. Many of us think that our lover comes equipped with an amazing radar that allows them to know exactly what mood we are in. Well it is upto you, speak up or forever lie back.

Loss of interest
We only seem to like sex at the beginning. But once the relationship is serious, we lose interest in it. This is a general concern. Your partner is all over you in the beginning but then you stop wanting it at all. There's a far less sinister and more logical reason to explain it. People get bored with sex if it becomes predictable. And if we're bored, it's hard for us to orgasm because we need a lot more mental and physical stimulation to topple over the edge. It may not be the healthiest of attitudes but it is understandable. Most people wouldn't dream of sitting down to the same meal every single night of their life yet most couples follow the same routine every single time they have sex. Vary just one thing every time you have sex. It might be a different position. A new room. Turn the lights on or off. Dress differently. Play some soft music. It just takes a little imagination but it works wonders.

A one-sided effort
We always leave sex up to the other person. We often tend to think it's not only our partner’s job to initiate sex, but it’s also their responsibility to do all the work while at it. Learn to take some responsibility in the bedroom. It is wrong to expect your lover to do everything while you just lie there. Take the lead by seducing your partner occasionally. Try and take control during foreplay. Make the right moves and show your interest rather than the other way around. If you want to really impress your partner, initiate sex when your lover is least expecting it, like in the middle of a meal or when at a crowded party.

Body conscious
Most of us are often paranoid about our body shape as we think they are imperfect. The truth is — and it's been proven over and over again — our idea of a perfect body isn't the same as our partner’s. If you think fat and lumpy, your partner might feel otherwise. If you're jumping into bed, worried about your body, there is no doubt that your sex life will suffer. Sex is all about what's happening inside, not outside. If you're desperately trying to suck your stomach in, you're not mentally tuning into being turned on. Being a good lover is about feeling confident and making your partner feel the same.