Spice up your sex life!

Hectic lifestyles, stress at work, an over-demanding boss, social visits, kids’ homework – is life getting in the way of romance and some great sex?

Worry not, here’s how you can get some spice back into your life with these tips from sex and relationship counsellors:

• Do not take it as just another routine activity; just another item on your daily to-do list. It is a special bond between two people and requires a great deal of investment in terms of emotions, time and effort. There's no short cut.

• Most of us think that the act itself loses its charm over the years. But guys, don’t you agree that being with him/her for all these years has strengthened the bond of trust? Now you can actually demand him/her to fulfil your wildest fantasies. So, what are you waiting for? Get demanding!

• A hot tip: Innovate, experiment to keep the fires blazing. Dump the bed...go for the sofa, or the kitchen floor...

• If time is your problem, you have to manage it. Instead of finding big days for big things all the time, don’t miss upon those tiny moments of fun and pleasure. Pick him or her from the office tonight, share some cosy moments in the car, build up the excitement...you never know what lies in store.

• Yes, it is your lifeline; unfortunately it’s the phone that we are talking about. If you can’t switch it off, why not use it to seduce your partner tonight? Call him/her on your way back home and whisper sweet nothings and some naughty secrets. Tell your partner what drove you wild the last time. Caution: Don’t forget to switch off the mobile once the mission is accomplished and you are in the arms of your beloved.

• Agreed, that Sundays are for kids and Saturdays are for friends. But, who is stopping you from having a freaking Friday night! The week has ended and Monday blues are yet to set it. Why not make it a night to remember?

• Watch a raunchy video together or dig out your sexiest lingerie. It works, guaranteed.

• Next time you realise that there’s been no action for weeks, get your scheduler out and make a date. And as the date gets nearer, start getting into the groove. Be vocal about what you want, drop hints and make your moves. Mutual sex is great when it comes to a quickie. But if you have to plan the time together, use it to the fullest.

• Want more? Turn your bedroom into a sexy boudoir. Dim the lights, it’s better if you get some mood lights. Spread out the satin sheets and don’t forget his/her favourite scent!

• Ladies, don’t wait for him to talk, initiate. Instead, you take the lead. Enjoy the look on his face as you build a frenzy of sexual excitement. Have patience and soon it’ll be your turn to enjoy.