They say men are from Mars and women from Venus. Women have sex to feel loved and men find love for sex. So, are love and sex inextricably linked? Can love exist without sex? Quite often, a woman considers love as the foundation of intimacy and a man considers sex to be the ultimate expression of love. Understanding how each views sex is important for sustaining a relationship and keeping love alive. But what is it that drives women closer to men - is it love that leads to lust or vice versa?
For Indians, yes. Both the guys and gals are deprived of sex till their late ages. So they have no oMore..
sure love can exist...but sex helps to make bonds stronger and it helps develop a feeling of trust aMore..
Sex is one way of making love.Sex is a subset of love.Love do exist without sex
sex is apart of love. no one can imagine love without it sex.sex make love intersting
Love is beyond words like you give sugarcane to dumb to eat he would enjoy it but won't be able to express it... if a human being does not happen to experience love... he has missed the most beautiful experience that human can have. Driven by only sex is like very material even pets do that... whereas love is spiritual...
It is just a single way of expressing your love out of many such ways. U cannot have willing sex without loving anybody.
Lets not be hypocrite, I can't go for a sex free love. It is true that sex is not all about love but it is a very very essential eliment of love.
Love is mental satisfection but sex is physical only.You can find sex any where in the world but love its god gifted.Without love you can not live but sex you can.....Love always stand and exist whole life but sex only for a moment.....
love can exist without sex... when you love some body or you are attractd to a guy and then you fall in love but the feeling is only one sided as you never get to have sex but love still exists!!!!!
What is the greatest thing in the world? Answer is "LOVE", irrespective of sex. (Mental) Love is everlasting, whereas (Physical) Love is sort of lust, where he/she loves him/her self. This is temporary type. If any male does sex with prostitute, does he actually love her? No, only he fortifies his physical lust in lieu of certain amount of money. i.e. he buys sex and nothing else. True love binds both spouse together in battle of life at every instant, irrespective of sex. If (mental) love is not there in their middle, then they will have quarrelsome/sorrowful life or even go upto divorce, although they both are physically strong for sex, for it carries no meaning at all
sex is the center of the universe....no love can exist without lust as every species had to move its generation ahead and there has been fights in history whether it was Helen of troy or Cleopatra......the lust has more power than gravitational force......even those who are writing that love is more powerful than lust they all know deep inside their minds what is true ...and being a man i need not make them understand ...everyone knows it
There can be love without sex. A soft touch on your partners cheek, a peck on that,scrolling your fingers on his/her hair, one can express and sense how the other person feels for him/her. If one considers that the only way to express love is sex, then its just a lust and not love. I would contradict, when I say that ultimate result of two people getting bonded with is sex. Its something very special, which you can not have with every other person.
No.. There cannot be any love without longing for sex. Sex is the ultimate destination which love must lead to.. How can one love someone without passion? People may say like that, but there will be an inner most desire to have sex, when you think that some one has impressed you or when there is crush!!
Sex is an physical need which holds for few minutes,where as love exists for life long.
Love n sex go hand in hand but one cannot find passions of love without sex atleast me
yes! love is more imp! if you have sex its gud if dont than also its ok.. but yes.. sex is more kind of a need of body and mind.
Love , happiness , sorrow , bliss is a state of mind. Love can exist if there is mutual liking and giving.
Yes, Love attracts women closer and leads to LUST. some times its vice versa in recent days..Lust tries to attract women.
Monday, October 20, 2008
Soul Curry: Hey, fatso...sorry, sexy!
There is a famous saying that ‘beauty lies within’, but does this hold true in today’s society, where we greet each other with plastic smiles? The answer is a big no, since what matters is physical beauty. Beauty, as they say, is only skin deep.
A few months ago, I weighed 86 kgs. As a 20-year-old girl lugging around those kilos, life wasn’t easy. My identity and individuality were lost behind the word “moti”. My friends and cousins stopped referring to me by my name and resorted to calling me moti , fatso, etc. It didn’t stop there. When I went shopping, shopkeepers would tell me, “Madam, thode patle ho jao ” (Please reduce your weight). The remarks always hurt, but it never dented my confidence.
The jibes made their way to social gatherings as well. My weight was always a topic for a good laugh for friends and family. Anybody dropping in at home gave me unwanted advice on losing the kilos. While out on a dinner, if I wanted to have a second ice-cream, my dad always scolded me, but for my slim sister, it was just the opposite. Every time I expressed hunger, thirst or exhaustion, inability to study for long hours, or even a bad mood...it was attributed to the fact that I was overweight.
My relatives, predictably, advised my parents, “Why don’t you ask her to reduce her weight? It will be difficult to get her married otherwise.” My parents left no stone unturned in trying to convince me to lose weight. But, all in vain, since I was happy in my own world and not a wee bit ashamed of my extra kilos.
One day, though, a friend asked me to join the gym with her. I decided to go along, not at all sure that I would last the month. During my initial days, I had no friends in the gym, nobody talked to me, but I got to know the reason much later. Now, when I weigh a respectable 66 kgs, I have so-called friends in the gym and boys who never talked to me earlier vie for my attention and offer to do me favours. “Can I drop you home?”, “I’ll get this for you,” is what I hear these days.
Now my friends call me Ravneet and the moniker moti has been replaced with ‘gorgeous’, ‘sexy’, etc. I feel I’ve regained my lost identity and individuality. I had no idea that losing that extra weight would make such a difference in the attitudes and behaviour of people towards me. I have lost 22 kgs and want to reduce more...not just for my satisfaction, but also to win this game that I’m playing with the world, this time on my own terms.
(Soul Curry is a column where we invite our readers to share their soul-stirring experiences)
A few months ago, I weighed 86 kgs. As a 20-year-old girl lugging around those kilos, life wasn’t easy. My identity and individuality were lost behind the word “moti”. My friends and cousins stopped referring to me by my name and resorted to calling me moti , fatso, etc. It didn’t stop there. When I went shopping, shopkeepers would tell me, “Madam, thode patle ho jao ” (Please reduce your weight). The remarks always hurt, but it never dented my confidence.
The jibes made their way to social gatherings as well. My weight was always a topic for a good laugh for friends and family. Anybody dropping in at home gave me unwanted advice on losing the kilos. While out on a dinner, if I wanted to have a second ice-cream, my dad always scolded me, but for my slim sister, it was just the opposite. Every time I expressed hunger, thirst or exhaustion, inability to study for long hours, or even a bad mood...it was attributed to the fact that I was overweight.
My relatives, predictably, advised my parents, “Why don’t you ask her to reduce her weight? It will be difficult to get her married otherwise.” My parents left no stone unturned in trying to convince me to lose weight. But, all in vain, since I was happy in my own world and not a wee bit ashamed of my extra kilos.
One day, though, a friend asked me to join the gym with her. I decided to go along, not at all sure that I would last the month. During my initial days, I had no friends in the gym, nobody talked to me, but I got to know the reason much later. Now, when I weigh a respectable 66 kgs, I have so-called friends in the gym and boys who never talked to me earlier vie for my attention and offer to do me favours. “Can I drop you home?”, “I’ll get this for you,” is what I hear these days.
Now my friends call me Ravneet and the moniker moti has been replaced with ‘gorgeous’, ‘sexy’, etc. I feel I’ve regained my lost identity and individuality. I had no idea that losing that extra weight would make such a difference in the attitudes and behaviour of people towards me. I have lost 22 kgs and want to reduce more...not just for my satisfaction, but also to win this game that I’m playing with the world, this time on my own terms.
(Soul Curry is a column where we invite our readers to share their soul-stirring experiences)
How to win a woman's heart
Try growing stubble, for according to a new research, ladies are more smitten by men with stubbly chins than those with clean-shaven faces or full beards.
According to the study, which was conducted by Northumbria University researchers, stubble is the way to win a woman’s heart. As for the reason, why women find men with stubble attractive: they find them tough, mature, aggressive, dominant and masculine and the best romantic partners.
The findings of the experiment, carried out on British women aged 18 to 44, could explain the appeal of actors such as George Clooney and Brad Pitt who cultivate their unshaven look. The explanation for the preference is not clear, but experts in human evolution say that that facial hair may be a signal of aggression because it boosts the apparent size of the lower jaw.
The research team believes that stubbly men may offer women the best worlds - not too strongly masculine, but mature and with the potential to grow a full beard. The researchers carried out the study using computer technology to alter pictures of 15 men’s faces. Five levels of facial hair were used - clean-shaven, light stubble, heavy stubble, light beard and full beard.
The pictures were shown to 76 women who were asked to rate them for masculinity, aggression, dominance, attractiveness, age, and social maturity. They were also asked how desirable each man would be as a short-term or long-term partner. Faces with full beards were judged to be the most masculine, aggressive and socially mature. They were also believed to look five years older.
They were rated the least attractive and the worst choice for a short-term relationship. Men with light beards were considered the most dominant. Those with light stubble were rated the most attractive and as the ideal romantic partner for short or long term.
Clean-shaven men finished bottom for masculinity, dominance, aggression, and social maturity and they were the least favoured choice as a long-term partner. They came second-to-last for attractiveness.
“Facial hair, or beardedness, is a powerful sociosexual signal, and an obvious biological marker of sexual maturity. Facial hair may have been sexually selected by females on the basis of associated male success, despite its threatening appearance. Clean-shaven faces therefore may suggest appeasement, as well as being an obvious sign of sexual immaturity,” the Telegraph quoted the researchers, as saying.
"Increasing levels of facial hair were associated with increased perceptions of aggression, in that bearded faces were perceived as being the most aggressive, whilst clean-shaven faces were rated as being the least aggressive. And as facial hair increased in a linear fashion, so did female ratings of masculinity and dominance,”
According to the study, which was conducted by Northumbria University researchers, stubble is the way to win a woman’s heart. As for the reason, why women find men with stubble attractive: they find them tough, mature, aggressive, dominant and masculine and the best romantic partners.
The findings of the experiment, carried out on British women aged 18 to 44, could explain the appeal of actors such as George Clooney and Brad Pitt who cultivate their unshaven look. The explanation for the preference is not clear, but experts in human evolution say that that facial hair may be a signal of aggression because it boosts the apparent size of the lower jaw.
The research team believes that stubbly men may offer women the best worlds - not too strongly masculine, but mature and with the potential to grow a full beard. The researchers carried out the study using computer technology to alter pictures of 15 men’s faces. Five levels of facial hair were used - clean-shaven, light stubble, heavy stubble, light beard and full beard.
The pictures were shown to 76 women who were asked to rate them for masculinity, aggression, dominance, attractiveness, age, and social maturity. They were also asked how desirable each man would be as a short-term or long-term partner. Faces with full beards were judged to be the most masculine, aggressive and socially mature. They were also believed to look five years older.
They were rated the least attractive and the worst choice for a short-term relationship. Men with light beards were considered the most dominant. Those with light stubble were rated the most attractive and as the ideal romantic partner for short or long term.
Clean-shaven men finished bottom for masculinity, dominance, aggression, and social maturity and they were the least favoured choice as a long-term partner. They came second-to-last for attractiveness.
“Facial hair, or beardedness, is a powerful sociosexual signal, and an obvious biological marker of sexual maturity. Facial hair may have been sexually selected by females on the basis of associated male success, despite its threatening appearance. Clean-shaven faces therefore may suggest appeasement, as well as being an obvious sign of sexual immaturity,” the Telegraph quoted the researchers, as saying.
"Increasing levels of facial hair were associated with increased perceptions of aggression, in that bearded faces were perceived as being the most aggressive, whilst clean-shaven faces were rated as being the least aggressive. And as facial hair increased in a linear fashion, so did female ratings of masculinity and dominance,”
Here's what women want
It’s the untold story.
Feminism has made us want more. We’re greedy like never before. No compromises, please! Rouge did a random poll, here’s what we found out about what women want!
Women want to find true love!
Lusty women, passionate women, one-man women, sigh! Women want the same thing -- they want fairytale. They want to feel like Cinderella. Love still makes the world go round. Model Amanpreet Wahi says, “One thing, that I want the most is a person who loves me unconditionally. Believe me, if you get that one person, your life is perfect. I know many people who want money but what’s life without that someone special who loves you. My life is beautiful because of my boyfriend Raghav. A lot of people envy me for that.” Agrees actor Mona Singh, “I want everything but if I am asked to choose, it would be love.”
Women want to be a tigeress at work!
When you see a woman pitching fresh ideas in every meeting and also cancelling dinner dates with her partner or friends for attending an official gathering, she’s a woman who chooses career, hands down. Sarah Jane Dias, model says, “For me, work is my passion. This definitely doesn’t mean that I wouldn’t love to have that special someone but being good at work gives me a high.” Sanya Kapoor, a college student says, “If you have a good career, you get good money with which you can shop, socialise, have nice people around and also get a successful man as your partner.”
Women still want a good marriage!
We’re still traditional. You got it right. We want to be wooed, and then finally get married happily. At least, that’s what a majority of the women dream about. Is it easy? TV actor Shilpa Saklani says, “For me, there’s nothing more important than a good marriage. Making my married life work is an ambition.”
Women want good friends
We all need a shoulder to cry on. The TV soap Friends has given us great lessons in love and frienships. When we’re down, the ‘dial-a-friend’ therapy works wonders. Every woman needs friends. Why isn’t Sex and the City all about great friendships. “If you have good friends around you, nothing can bother you. They guard you like pillars all the time,” says HR consultant Deepti Kalra. Isn’t that what friends are for!
Women want to be high maintainence girls
Show me the money, honey! Yes, that’s what some women love to sing. Gucci bags, Chanel glasses, solitaires, high heels, Armani clothes and a penthouse. Aaah! Now, that’s what women dream of. It’s not only a happy distraction but a reality. “I would like to embark on a shopping spree every now and then, without bothering about my dipping bank balance. This will make me the object of envy for every other woman. Money can buy anything - even a nice guy,” says team leader Smita Kullu.
Women want good sex!
We’ve glamourised sex too much! While men are bragging about the amazing sex they are enjoying, women are left asking for more. Women as you know, don’t need much time to rev up when it comes to sex. Bad sex is a dampener! So, we were not surprised when 70% women voted for good sex. Actor Sherlyn Chopra says, “Sex is very important for me. There’s no greater pleasure than a good sex session. I even use sex toys as I think no man can satisfy me completely.”
Women want to be intellectuals!
Actor Tisca Chopra says, “For me, time is the most desirable thing in this world. There are so many places to visit, so many people to meet. I always feel that if I am not living 60 seconds of a minute, I am not doing justice to my life.”
Feminism has made us want more. We’re greedy like never before. No compromises, please! Rouge did a random poll, here’s what we found out about what women want!
Women want to find true love!
Lusty women, passionate women, one-man women, sigh! Women want the same thing -- they want fairytale. They want to feel like Cinderella. Love still makes the world go round. Model Amanpreet Wahi says, “One thing, that I want the most is a person who loves me unconditionally. Believe me, if you get that one person, your life is perfect. I know many people who want money but what’s life without that someone special who loves you. My life is beautiful because of my boyfriend Raghav. A lot of people envy me for that.” Agrees actor Mona Singh, “I want everything but if I am asked to choose, it would be love.”
Women want to be a tigeress at work!
When you see a woman pitching fresh ideas in every meeting and also cancelling dinner dates with her partner or friends for attending an official gathering, she’s a woman who chooses career, hands down. Sarah Jane Dias, model says, “For me, work is my passion. This definitely doesn’t mean that I wouldn’t love to have that special someone but being good at work gives me a high.” Sanya Kapoor, a college student says, “If you have a good career, you get good money with which you can shop, socialise, have nice people around and also get a successful man as your partner.”
Women still want a good marriage!
We’re still traditional. You got it right. We want to be wooed, and then finally get married happily. At least, that’s what a majority of the women dream about. Is it easy? TV actor Shilpa Saklani says, “For me, there’s nothing more important than a good marriage. Making my married life work is an ambition.”
Women want good friends
We all need a shoulder to cry on. The TV soap Friends has given us great lessons in love and frienships. When we’re down, the ‘dial-a-friend’ therapy works wonders. Every woman needs friends. Why isn’t Sex and the City all about great friendships. “If you have good friends around you, nothing can bother you. They guard you like pillars all the time,” says HR consultant Deepti Kalra. Isn’t that what friends are for!
Women want to be high maintainence girls
Show me the money, honey! Yes, that’s what some women love to sing. Gucci bags, Chanel glasses, solitaires, high heels, Armani clothes and a penthouse. Aaah! Now, that’s what women dream of. It’s not only a happy distraction but a reality. “I would like to embark on a shopping spree every now and then, without bothering about my dipping bank balance. This will make me the object of envy for every other woman. Money can buy anything - even a nice guy,” says team leader Smita Kullu.
Women want good sex!
We’ve glamourised sex too much! While men are bragging about the amazing sex they are enjoying, women are left asking for more. Women as you know, don’t need much time to rev up when it comes to sex. Bad sex is a dampener! So, we were not surprised when 70% women voted for good sex. Actor Sherlyn Chopra says, “Sex is very important for me. There’s no greater pleasure than a good sex session. I even use sex toys as I think no man can satisfy me completely.”
Women want to be intellectuals!
Actor Tisca Chopra says, “For me, time is the most desirable thing in this world. There are so many places to visit, so many people to meet. I always feel that if I am not living 60 seconds of a minute, I am not doing justice to my life.”
Master the art of attraction!
Gen Y chicks are smart, intelligent and not to mention, extremely demanding. When it comes to the man of their choice, they precisely know the difference between Mr Right and Mr Right Now.
So, to make it a little easier for the uber-cool guys we bring a checklist of what new age divas define as attractors and repeller...
Mr Big Shot
He looks elegant, talks slick and smells great. His perfectly coiffed looks impress all the women he passes by. Most of them love to be in the company of classy rich men- but try not to get swept away by his richie rich airs. Shruti Bhatia, a media person says, "My boyfriend takes me to lavish restaurants for dinner, opts for the costliest wine in the menu and throws a lavish bash on my birthday. It's great to have such a man as your arm candy when you walk into a party. But the only problem is, he is so good that I feel as if I always have to be as perfect and sophisticated as he is."
Guy Tip: Being chic and stylish does not mean, being artificial. If you are aiming at something more than a fling, remember, women like gentlemen, not the ones who pretend to be one. Pranay Singh, a businessman opines, "Never lose you identity while you are trying to woo the woman of your choice. Women find genuine guys more trustworthy. Ours was an arranged marriage and before tying the knot I really tried hard to impress my wife. I thought, showing off my wealth was the easiest way of impressing her. But soon after my marriage, I realised that more than my expensive gifts and designer outfits, she was interested in knowing the real me."
Mr Metrosexual
Gone are the days when only women used to take hours in dressing up and used to splurge recklessly on their beauty treatments. Welcome to the world of the ultra modern, metrosexual men, who is as conscious about his eyebrows, nails and facials as his female counterparts.
Simran Gupta, an airhostess says, "Because of my profession I have to be very careful, when it comes to my looks. Even a pimple can give me nightmares. I am glad my hubby understands this completely, we go for spa treatments and body massages together. I was never fond of hairy men and my man takes care of his physical appearance which is what keeps me hooked on to him."
Guy Tip: While on a date don't go on and on with your beauty problems. Secondly, some women find such behavior the sign of being gay, so keep your beauty treatments talk to yourself. Sumita Roy, a human resource officer, shares her experience, "I really appreciate well groomed men, as it's definitely the need of the hour. However, when I see my husband using my face packs and my skin cosmetics, it really irritates me. Some of my female friends find his habits a little abnormal so when he openly flaunts his preference for grooming, I need a corner to hide."
Normal is boring
A large number of girls in their late teens and early twenties think good guys are boring and bad boys aren't worth the trouble. Therefore they generally fall for those who fall somewhere between the two.
Saloni Mehra, a student says, "Toby was my guitar teacher and I simply loved the way he carried himself and the depth in his eyes. Finally, I gathered the courage to ask him out for coffee. On our first date, I realised he was not a shy loner. He had dated some gorgeous and interesting women in the past. He had an amazing bunch of friends and they were in the process of creating their own band. Despite me being so different from him, Toby combined the best of both worlds - a toughie with a soft heart. I would define him as Vodka with Vanilla ice-cream."
So, to make it a little easier for the uber-cool guys we bring a checklist of what new age divas define as attractors and repeller...
Mr Big Shot
He looks elegant, talks slick and smells great. His perfectly coiffed looks impress all the women he passes by. Most of them love to be in the company of classy rich men- but try not to get swept away by his richie rich airs. Shruti Bhatia, a media person says, "My boyfriend takes me to lavish restaurants for dinner, opts for the costliest wine in the menu and throws a lavish bash on my birthday. It's great to have such a man as your arm candy when you walk into a party. But the only problem is, he is so good that I feel as if I always have to be as perfect and sophisticated as he is."
Guy Tip: Being chic and stylish does not mean, being artificial. If you are aiming at something more than a fling, remember, women like gentlemen, not the ones who pretend to be one. Pranay Singh, a businessman opines, "Never lose you identity while you are trying to woo the woman of your choice. Women find genuine guys more trustworthy. Ours was an arranged marriage and before tying the knot I really tried hard to impress my wife. I thought, showing off my wealth was the easiest way of impressing her. But soon after my marriage, I realised that more than my expensive gifts and designer outfits, she was interested in knowing the real me."
Mr Metrosexual
Gone are the days when only women used to take hours in dressing up and used to splurge recklessly on their beauty treatments. Welcome to the world of the ultra modern, metrosexual men, who is as conscious about his eyebrows, nails and facials as his female counterparts.
Simran Gupta, an airhostess says, "Because of my profession I have to be very careful, when it comes to my looks. Even a pimple can give me nightmares. I am glad my hubby understands this completely, we go for spa treatments and body massages together. I was never fond of hairy men and my man takes care of his physical appearance which is what keeps me hooked on to him."
Guy Tip: While on a date don't go on and on with your beauty problems. Secondly, some women find such behavior the sign of being gay, so keep your beauty treatments talk to yourself. Sumita Roy, a human resource officer, shares her experience, "I really appreciate well groomed men, as it's definitely the need of the hour. However, when I see my husband using my face packs and my skin cosmetics, it really irritates me. Some of my female friends find his habits a little abnormal so when he openly flaunts his preference for grooming, I need a corner to hide."
Normal is boring
A large number of girls in their late teens and early twenties think good guys are boring and bad boys aren't worth the trouble. Therefore they generally fall for those who fall somewhere between the two.
Saloni Mehra, a student says, "Toby was my guitar teacher and I simply loved the way he carried himself and the depth in his eyes. Finally, I gathered the courage to ask him out for coffee. On our first date, I realised he was not a shy loner. He had dated some gorgeous and interesting women in the past. He had an amazing bunch of friends and they were in the process of creating their own band. Despite me being so different from him, Toby combined the best of both worlds - a toughie with a soft heart. I would define him as Vodka with Vanilla ice-cream."
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